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how do I get out of playing a game?
MIL told me yesterday at the shower she's having for me she wants to play the game to measure my stomach and guess the size, this sounds like anything but fun to me. I'm totally not into it or any game for that matter. I'm 36 and really would just appreciate the shower and company for a couple of hrs w/o the stupid games. How do I tell her I don't really want any part of this without being a jerk? I had a crappy reaction when she told me but I don't think she gets it or even cares that its not my taste. The shower itself is not really a reflection of me its all her which is fine, she's the one having it for me and I appreciate it of course but I feel like something like this she could of run by me first and asked if I would mind. Its a bit personal if you ask me to have all these women guessing my size. She guessed yesterday and was off by 12"! That alone was aggravating to me, I dont need a room of people saying how huge I am, I know Im huge, Im having twins lol
help what do I do??
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Re: how do I get out of playing a game?
funny! the sarcastic brat in me feels like saying okay now lets guess MILs waist size and measure her! or guess the winners waist size LOL I know thats rude but the game in general to me is rude. thanks for the opinions! Should I just tell her at the shower I have no intention of playing this game or email her ahead of time? thanks ladies!
Are they actually guessing measurements (like in inches) or are they cutting pieces of string or something as their guesses? I personally hate this game as well and it was played at my shower - no one even bothered to ask me ahead of time, my MIL just walked over with a string and put it around my waist to get the measurement. But it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and no one ever really needs to see how big your string is compared to others.
If you really don't want to play it (and I don't blame you!), I'd be sure to tell her ahead of time so she can plan for another game instead. Good luck and enjoy your shower!
I'm right there with you so I totally feel your pain. My Mom and MIL are each throwing their own showers and the only request I made was not to play this game. It always seems the mom-to-be gets upset or offended by how big people think they are, and as I can be pretty sensitive about weight myself, I feel like it is asking for trouble.
In both cases, I was denied. I'm not going to lie, I was really annoyed that this was one thing I asked and it wasn't being honored. I even asked nicely and explained why but they both think it's a "cute game" that people like to play. Part of me wanted to push harder, but at the same time, they are putting a lot of time, money, and effort into throwing this shower and I don't want to create issues over something like this. I agree, they should be respectful of your/my wishes on this, but at the same time, if this is all you have to be upset about it sounds like you are going to have a great shower. I'm just planning to suck it up and play along like a good sport, even though I'm not particularly thrilled with it.
I feel for you. I can't stand playing games at showers and this one sounds awful! Please tell her that you do not want to play this game. If she still attempts to play it at the shower please repeat to her that you are not playing that game then simply go and mingle with other people. (If she attempts to follow you or throw a measuring tape around you while you are walking she will just look like a fool.) Keep moving!
I understand that she is the host but being the host does not give one carte blanche to embarrass and humiliate the guest of honor. Additionally, no one should be touching you if you do not want them to. Especially in front of a room full of people staring at you. This host needs to show you some respect. You are a mother to be, not a side-show freak. Please tell her so.
I seriously don't see the big deal with this game. We played it at my friends shower and used paper streamers to guess the size of her belly. I wrapped it around my belly and then added some to it to guess her size. No one knew the actual measurement. You could also use toilet paper.
After everyone cut their piece, the MTB then measured hers and all of the guests paper streamers were compared to hers and that's how the winner was determined.
Really not that big of a deal!!! I highly doubt anyone is going to say or think OMG you are HUGE!!! They are your friends and family.
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Yeah but I think you're missing the bigger picture here. I totally get being annoyed, but again I ask, is it really worth it to you to create a big stink over this? In the grand scheme of things, this is only a few minutes out of the whole shower and you are on the only one who is going to be uncomfortable.
I would probably put my foot down and say, "I refuse to reveal how big I am in inches, but if you are willing to measure with toilet paper/streamers/etc. I will play along". However, if they still refuse, I would probably suck it up and play along. I understand it's YOUR shower, but I think people take that a little too far sometimes. It's just a couple of minutes and you have the power of whether or not it's going to ruin it for you. If you refuse to play and create drama over something this minor in the grand scheme of things, you are going to be creating unnecessary problems in your relationship with your MIL and making your guests feel incredibly uncomfortable. Think about how you would feel if you were a guest and the mom-to-be was stomping out of the room refusing to play a game. It would make things uncomfortable for EVERYONE.
It sucks to play the game, I'm not looking forward to it either, but at the same time they are working hard to make a nice shower for you and sometimes you just have to let the little things go and be grateful for what they are doing for you.