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May 2011 Moms
MIL Gave LO Applesauce! (Blood boiling rant!)
Im so mad right now. MIL babysat LO so DH and I could go to the movies. I was hesitant to do so as shes been pushing me to give LO rice cereal and applesauce since shes fussy therefore she MUST be hungry right? (sarcasm). I told her no, we werent starting solids til 6 months and that BM was sufficient. DH convinced me that his mom would be ok and that we should let her babysat, I gave in. Before we left I specifically told MIL NO APPLESAUCE, I had packed her more than enough bottles.
We get out of the movie and DH called to check on LO before we went to the resteraunt. He asked his mom if gave LO applesauce because I was still uneasy about it. Well she told DH that she did and not to tell me because I would "overreact" and that LO wasnt crying so obviously she was right and my LO was just starving. I flipped out and we went straight over to get LO.
MIL was trying to say how happy LO had been all evening and she hadnt fussed at all, unaware that DH had told me. I told her I knew and that I was quite upset that she would go behind my back after I told her not to. She defended herself saying LO needed it because she wasnt getting enough from me and I dont listen to her crying as hunger cues. I lost it! Im not starving my child!
Im sorry but 9 weeks is waaayyyy too young for a jar of baby food, no matter if her kids "turned out fine". Shes not the mother or the pedi so guess what, she doesnt make the decisions!
On top of the applesauce she also gave LO 7oz of milk. I was barely gone 2 and half hours and had nursed her before I left, LO usually eats 4oz every 2 hours and will definitely gorge to the point of vomitting if she eats out of a bottle. Her belly was so distended when I picked her up and she threw up all over herself and her carseat on the way home.
She obviously will not babysit again, I have zero trust in her...
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Re: MIL Gave LO Applesauce! (Blood boiling rant!)
I know you are mad! I'm sorry! It sucks when family can't even be trusted to follow your instructions with LO.
for you since you probably missed it at dinner
I would be pissed. I have a MIL (ans FIL) who don't listen either. Luckily mine live on the other side of the rocky mountains and far north, an 18+ hour drive away.
Poor babe. She's so very not ready for that. Did she feed her the whole jar? I don't know why some people don't get that as long as she's healthy and growing she's getting enough from you alone. Babies cry for many more reasons that just hunger. Too bad she waited until the car to puke. Not that puking is fun, but it would have felt better for you if she had done it in front of your MIL.
I'd probably very clearly let my MIL know that she'd lost my trust and why. Whether she chooses to listen or take it to heart is up to her.
I know how hard having a crying babe is. It made me second guess everything I was doing. Are things improving for you? Has the exercise ball given you any relief (even if it's just relieving your feet/legs from walking all the time)?
BTW, you can PM me on here or facebook any time if you just need to rant.
MIL would never be allowed to babysit again, and she wouldn't be seeing DD for a while if she'd done this. It isn't just about feeding solids to a 2 month old (which is ridiculous); she went against your--the MOTHER'S--will and tried to hide it from you. And it sounds like she wanted your DH to keep a secret from you as well.
Reading this obviously got me really worked up.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
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I am ticked off for you. how dare she after you had told her no to the applesauce directly to her face! that to me is such disrespect for you and for her son. yes back in the day they would give baby food etc to babies earlier then we do now and they turned out okay but that is so not the point. She needs to understand that just cause this is her grandbaby it is not her baby.
BTW applesauce binds up babies and they can be constipated by it. Hopefully your baby is not binded up but you might want to tell your dh and your mil that alot of babys get constipated with applesauce.
My mil talks and talks about what she did and what is best but I know that she would not dare to try feeding Caitlin anything without our permission and she honestly would not chance it to do it and lie to either one of us. My husband is always on my team not my mil's when it comes to parenting. Sounds like your dh is the same way too as to he did tell you her secret that she wanted to hide from you ~ that ticks me off too.
I am very worked up about this! I believe that the parents should be the ones to introduce new foods to THEIR baby.
I would have taken a picture of your daughter sick and emailed it to your mil showing her that the applesauce did not agree with your daughters small digestive system.
I hope you gave her an earful! I would have flipped my shiit on her.
This got me really mad, just like others reading it. And to LIE to you about it and try to get your DH to lie to you? That would be one grandma who doesn't see her grandbaby if it were us. She needs to learn that You are the mother and what you say is law. I don't understand why grandparents think they can just do what they please, just because they are grandparents. You want to spoil them, fine, but wait until they are old enough to make it worth it. My FIL keeps talking about shoving donuts in DSs face, joking or not, he's not getting him alone for months because I don't trust him.
I could have written this word for word
She would never babysit again if it were my kid. I wouldn't want to see her for a long while either.
This.
This. I would have been livid. Why can't people listen to a mother/fathers wishes? When it's your baby, do what you wish, but when it is someone else's let them make the choices for their child. I'm sorry your MIL sucks.
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Isn't she the one who was totally insane throughout your pregnancy too?
I would not leave LO with her for a minute. And at this point I wouldn't even visit supervised. She'd be fired as a grandma altogether. She has no rights.