Boyfriend left after Positive HPT

Re: Boyfriend left after Positive HPT

• tabithawoolf

  August 2011

  Although you are a little bit young to become a mother...hopefully you will learn to start making better choices for you and your baby. Sometimes young fathers come back, sometimes they dont...that's just the chance you will have to take with a situation like this. If you want him in the baby's life then try to work things out. If you don't, then threaten his ass with child support. I noticed you said "after you have the baby", so i am going to assume that you aren't planning on abortion which is a great step to realizing your responsibilities are all about to change.

  

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• Babyjayjay2011

  August 2011

  I understand how you feel, 6years ago I was a teenage single mother. You will have mixed feelings about the sitiuation. How long were you two togather? I was 16 when I had my son, and all his dad wanted to do was make a scene in front of people and have nothing to do with hime once we left the hospital. Last year I was finally able to terminate his rights (he did not show up to court even though he had an attorney provided for him). You can do it though, just keep your head up and worry about YOUR baby and not him.

  

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• norman25 member

  August 2011

  I am sorry about your situation, but it is Better now than later.

  My fiance of two years just decided that he no longer loves me and no longer wants to be a father to my LO. I would have preferred that he discovered this before we spent 16 months being a happy family together. 
  

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• Annplus1 member

  August 2011

  Being pregnant without the father around is hard. But it's doable. And your job now is to protect that child the best you can.

  Please get a support group around you. Your parents, your best friends, your extended family, people who will help you concentrate on the joyous part of your story, the baby. Finish school, get as much done prior to the baby coming as you can. When things get really hard emotionally, concentrate on what your future life will be with your child. Think of names, consider nursery ideas, concentrate on the positive, because there is a LOT of positive.

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• apete255

  August 2011

  I was with him for about 17 months, and we weren't planning on having a family so fast.  I just graduated high school, and we're both not ready.  We were talking about marriage ever since we met, and we thought we were perfect for each other.  I don't know how things changed so quickly.  Now he wont leave me alone.  He's wishing a miscarriage on me, and I could never even think of that!  It hurts not having the father here, but I guess it'll be alright without him.  If he wishes those things on us, he doesn't deserve to be around my baby. 

  Thanks for your input everyone.  I really needed that extra push to help me through this hard time right now. 

  

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• Patches08 member

  August 2011

  I'm just a lurker on this board but I just wanted to say that I was in your shoes 7 years ago at the age of 18.. The birth dad walked out and I haven't seen him since. I choose adoption and have a very open adoption with my daughter. If you have any questions about adoption feel free to PM me.

  BM to Kenzie 9/1/04 --- Married 1/22/09 --- Me 27 - DH 25 --- TTC our first since April 2010

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• apete255

  August 2011

  Thanks so much   That means a lot to me!

  

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