How often do your in-laws visit?

lauralovesbob · August 2011

My mother-in-law is difficult to be around, and the in-laws are threatening to come visit again this weekend. They were just here 4 weeks ago, and we saw them like every 2 weeks prior to that. They live 5 hours away, and before the baby we'd see them maybe every 3 months at big family get-togethers. Now my MIL has alienated the rest of DH's family, so she wants to come visit even more because she won't come see us at big family gatherings. I'm almost tempted to volunteer to drive to see them so that our visit will be shorter.

Anyway, how often have other people's in-laws been to see them?

Mrs.Saxy · August 2011

uggg, MIL sees us almost weekly. It's a pita because she lives an hour away. She'll have DS1 for a sleepover but we take turns driving. So if MIL came to us to get him, we have to pick him up. It really messes up my weekend because I lose at least 3 hours that day in travel and visit time.

They are moving closer so that will be good. I used to loathe my MIL but I didn't really understand her. Now I know she's just a PITA and I roll with it.

She loves us and the boys and she's just doing what she thinks is right.

LifetimeOfLove · August 2011

Just about every day. We live next door! Plus, when I went back to work, MIL watched DS 5 days a week. I'm off for the summer and when I go back, she will have 2 days a week.

hepcats · August 2011

Oddly enough, almost never. It's odd because they live about 30 minutes from us. She's been over twice and barely even came to see me in the hospital which was, incidentally, 10 minutes from where she lived. It's weird. My DH's other family (aunt, uncle, cousin) that live 45 minutes away haven't seen him yet. Yet my mother came up for 2 weeks, my dad just came, and both can't wait to be here again. REALLY?!? Lame.

LynsiBHM · August 2011

consider yourself lucky. my ILs sold their house and moved within 10mins of us when we told them we were planning a baby. Oh, the best part... their house sold before they closed on the new one so they lived with us last summer- for my entire 1st trimester, FML.

chary412 · August 2011

We both love my in-laws, but they're on the other side of the country, and can only come out once a year (if that). I'd love to have them living next door if we could, they're super helpful but still good with boundaries.

My mom, on the other hand, lives within driving distance, and I have a really difficult relationship with her. I've basically had to tell her she can only visit every 3 months, because that's the maximum I can stand to be around her (and even that's a stretch). Considering how she treated me and my husband for the last 15 years, I'd say she's darn lucky to have that.

cgator14 · August 2011

MIL lives about 20 min away and gets to see DD about twice a week.. She pretty much gives us a guilt trip if she doesn't get to see her at least once a week, but try to let her know how fortunate she is to get to see us ALL THE TIME!

laurakaz13 · August 2011

Maybe 4 times a year. We move around all the time with the military and now we live across the country from them. Since we don't have to see them all the time, I enjoy their visits.

ekc29 · August 2011

My IL's visit every week, sometimes more often. They live 5 min away so it that is good and bad!!

JennDave+1 · August 2011

Well my in-laws and parents live in the same city. My children see there grandparents several times a week and my oldest usually has a sleepover at either or on Friday nights. My children are absolutely in love with there grandparents and they would do anything for my children. I don't think a day goes by that my oldest doesn't ask about one of them. Yes there is times or situations that annoy me but I love that they are so close to my children.

eisch22 · August 2011

My ils live across the street from us. They are very helpful with DS, but tend to have some problems with their boundaries. We take the good with the bad. I find peace in knowing that we have outgrown our house and won't be here much longer!

kathrnn · August 2011

I've actually never said more then 5 words to my MIL, and never even met my FIL. The two are divorced, and the FIL and no longer in contact with my husband or any of his siblings. His relationship with his mom has been very strained since the divorce, and the two haven't even spoken since before we started dating.

She hasn't even acknowledged that she has a granddaughter (her very first, at that), and it is definitely sad. I wouldn't mind switching situations with some of you if it meant having both sets of grandparents involved in my daughter's life instead of just my parents, for sure.

Temp246483875007510 · August 2011

MIL watches LO once a week , she lives 1.5 hrs away and its fine I guess. Sometimes she drives me crazy but I just roll with it bc she is really helpful to us.

skio · August 2011

MIL comes at least once every two weeks. When she comes, she usually stays a night, so it's a two-day visit. She is not my favorite person (she was always rather cold to me before DD came), so it pretty much sucks for me that having kids = sentencing myself to spending time alone with my overbearing MIL whose company I don't enjoy. But, that's life!

FIL is a whackjob and has no interest in seeing his granddaughter, which is perfectly fine by me. They both live about an hour away (separately).

kwitt22 · August 2011

My ILs live a mile away and watch DD while we work so practically everyday. Which is fine. I love them and we thankfully get free childcare. So it's great for me!!

katlizabeth · August 2011

At least once a month. They live like 3.5 hours away and always stay 2-3-4 nights.

smallysmallz04 · August 2011

cgator14:
MIL lives about 20 min away and gets to see DD about twice a week.. She pretty much gives us a guilt trip if she doesn't get to see her at least once a week, but try to let her know how fortunate she is to get to see us ALL THE TIME!

This! We either have her over or take B to see here every Thursday. She's always complaining that I don't let her take DS for the day, so she can go show him off to her friends. I'm a SAHM so I haven't needed her for babysitting yet, and that really bothers her. She always says "He's not going to know who I am, because you never let me take him!" He sees her every week, she's so dramatic!

handsonthewheel · August 2011

We've seen the ILs three times since DD was born: they came down the day after she was born and stayed for 2 days, they then visited a month after that and stayed a further 2 days, and we went to see them for a 3 day visit last month. Our place is too small to accommodate them when they visit, so they always get a hotel room when they do come and keep their visits rather short. Works for me...

TessieF · August 2011

My in-laws live about 2 hours away and we see them about every other week. I get along with my in-laws but they can drive me a little nuts when it's a multiple-day visit. Luckily we live in a condo with no spare bedroom, so they stay in a hotel or with my SIL when they come to town overnight.

OctGirl80 · August 2011

Every weekday MIL stops by for an hour or two. We get along great (I know I'm really lucky) and she adores DD so I love having some free time each morning to get a couple things done. FIL is usually at work so we see him about once very month or two. They live about 15 minutes away.

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