So, babygirl is 4 months old. DD1 was 4 months old when we had hers. I just thought of it today. My problem?
I seriously can't afford it. Not even a little bit. We're talking throwing a party for about 50 people. I could MAYBE cut that down to like 30. Maybe? But still. I barely have a dollar to my name, wtf am I supposed to do?
Not to mention I have no one to pick as her godmother. That's an added dilemma.
Part of me wants to just do it with her, me and curt, and DD1. But I know family will be mad when they find out.
Boo.
I don't really have a point her, btw. Just thought of it and realized I'm doomed.
Re: baptism dilemma
if she is Catholic, then she has to have someone as a godparent. (it can't be her)
I just have one godparent for Haden, you don't have to have two. it's ok.
Just send the invites saying the time and place of the church...then don't mention anything about a reception. It should never be expected. I would love to see my friends babies get baptized...give them a kiss, and go home.
Next week i'm having Haden baptized. There are only 12 total people coming. I could have made it much more...but i wanted it small and simple. You have every right to do that to. Don't be pressured, because they aren't the ones that will go into debt.
We just did the ceremony and a light lunch at an inexpensive place. It wasn't prohibitive.
And there's always the option of just having people over for coffee/cake or some other desserts after church. You certainly don't have to host a huge ordeal, esp. if you limit the guest list to just family.
My family would be more than happy to bake and bring something if we decided to go that route, is that an option?
I feel this way about it - if I invite other people (meaning not family), I need to go to more of an effort to do something impressive. But if I limit the guest list to family, I hope they will be more understanding of financial constraints and be happy with a much smaller gathering.
(That makes it sound like I cheap out on my family, but I just mean I worry less about "proper" and can focus more on "what I can do" when it's family. Because they should be understanding. I certainly don't ask them to financially chip in or anything, but my mom and MIL are happy to bake cookies or something for a party.)
we also "had" to throw a party, and then dh lost his job the week before the baptism. after the party was planned, people were invited, and the food had been ordered. it sucked. we would up having to borrow money from his parents. i say go get her baptized, tell your parents which sunday it is, and have a cake at the house. you can say you're planning a big party for sometime in the near future, which you can do if you get the money or you can just keep using the "we're planning one" excuse for as long as it takes for people to forget about it.
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this.
Sorry, I forgot I posted! The godmother dilemma is more of a "why did she pick her and not me?" "oh but she should have picked me" its to the point where i absolutely dont want to pick anyone cause me and DH dont agree and someone is going to get their feelings hurt.
DD1 had a big party, and that's what we do in our family so that's what I'm used to. I'm going to talk to our parents and see how small we could cut it down. There's no friends invited, at all. Just a ton of family. Aunts and Uncles and Cousins and 2nd cousins and so on and so forth. Everyone lives within 20 minutes of eachother in both of our families, so all parties are nuts.
I wish we could just pick godparents and agree. And let the party fall into place. Try and stick to something small, or just dessert like some mentioned. Curt wants his sister, I don't. I wanted my BFF, but we're fighting so she's out. And I don't have a good replacement for his sister. (Ideally, I'd like to pick my brother and soon to be FSIL, but DH wants his friend or someone from his side to represent somewhere.)
Maybe I could talk him into My brother, FSIL, and his friend? And have 2 godfathers? He'd say if we're having 2 godfathers we should include his sister and have 2 godmothers. And I don't have a good arguement there. I might just have to agree with him.
I'm totally talking this out to myself trying to figure it out. sigh.
Baby #4; 7/7/2018