There are women on my BMB who are KU again already

Scout05 · August 2011

They seem happy about it, so good for them and all, but...personally that sounds like complete and total hell.

If I'm being honest.

Amanda78 · August 2011

That sounds like total hell. Being honest and all. I love my IUD.

xleslieraex · August 2011

I think being on my BMB and being KU sounds like hell, I don't even want to imagine what life would be like if I were on your BMB and KU.

But, if that's what they have going for them, to each her own.

CarrieLeigh84 · August 2011

No lies. Being pregnant again right now does not compute for me. Not one little bit.

xleslieraex · August 2011

Amanda78:
That sounds like total hell. Being honest and all. I love my IUD.

Yes

Gummybear · August 2011

I agree with you. Here is the thing though, MOST babies are super easy for about the first year-18 months. Once they get moving and talking and THINKING, all hell breaks loose. I can see thinking, "Oh this baby thing is so easy..I can easily handle 2" at 3-4 months, but in reality, Tongue Tied

The plus side is getting over the hellacious period all at one time, and much faster than say, me, who will have several years of child-led anarchy. And having kids close together is and automatic BFF, which is cool.

WearingRed · August 2011

Two under one sounds like hell to me too.

PrincessDi80 · August 2011

To each their own, not my cup of tea. I just lurked on the Apr board and the most recent KU member is a former PGAL grad

kathymarie · August 2011

I cannot even fathom getting pregnant again right now. Having a nb is so friggin hard, I had no idea.

Gummybear · August 2011

PrincessDi80:
To each their own, not my cup of tea. I just lurked on the Apr board and the most recent KU member is a former PGAL grad

Yep, I remember her. I think she also has a stepchild. Busy mama!

Scout05 · August 2011

Gummybear:

I agree with you. Here is the thing though, MOST babies are super easy for about the first year-18 months. Once they get moving and talking and THINKING, all hell breaks loose. I can see thinking, "Oh this baby thing is so easy..I can easily handle 2" at 3-4 months, but in reality,

The plus side is getting over the hellacious period all at one time, and much faster than say, me, who will have several years of child-led anarchy. And having kids close together is and automatic BFF, which is cool.

I did not get one of these babies. Not that I would trade her for the easiest baby in the world, I certainly wouldn't.

But yeah. DH talked me into another one, and sooner than I would have thought, but I think our current nightly meltdowns has even him rethinking.

Gummybear · August 2011

Scout05:
Gummybear:

I agree with you. Here is the thing though, MOST babies are super easy for about the first year-18 months. Once they get moving and talking and THINKING, all hell breaks loose. I can see thinking, "Oh this baby thing is so easy..I can easily handle 2" at 3-4 months, but in reality,

The plus side is getting over the hellacious period all at one time, and much faster than say, me, who will have several years of child-led anarchy. And having kids close together is and automatic BFF, which is cool.

I did not get one of these babies. Not that I would trade her for the easiest baby in the world, I certainly wouldn't.

But yeah. DH talked me into another one, and sooner than I would have thought, but I think our current nightly meltdowns has even him rethinking.

So far my #2 is not an easy baby either

If it makes you feel any better, my #1 was an angell. ANGEL. Easiest baby in the entire world. But she is possibly the most opinionated, crafty, stubborn, energetic, talkative (read: non-stop chatter), meltdown-prone preschooler ever.

So C may be an angelic older child, which will be perfect when you have another one!

frogyie · August 2011

kathymarie:
I cannot even fathom getting pregnant again right now. Having a nb is so friggin hard, I had no idea.

. This. I am still waiting to feel like a normal person and not a BM dispensing machine or automatic white noise rocker.

normajeane6126 · August 2011

I'm scared sh*tless, actually. This was not planned and I have no idea how we're going to do it. My biggest worry right now is if I'll be able to keep BFing Matthew while pregnant with Surprise Baby. And how I'll have the energy/strength/mental capacity to get through first tri with a 4 month old. And how the h3ll I'm going to manage taking care of two babies. And God forbid I lose this baby & I have to figure out how to be a mom & cope with another loss.

elisbu · August 2011

normajeane6126:
I'm scared sh*tless, actually. This was not planned and I have no idea how we're going to do it. My biggest worry right now is if I'll be able to keep BFing Matthew while pregnant with Surprise Baby. And how I'll have the energy/strength/mental capacity to get through first tri with a 4 month old. And how the h3ll I'm going to manage taking care of two babies. And God forbid I lose this baby & I have to figure out how to be a mom & cope with another loss.

Congratulations!! Thats a good surprise.

Scout05 · August 2011

normajeane6126:
I'm scared sh*tless, actually. This was not planned and I have no idea how we're going to do it. My biggest worry right now is if I'll be able to keep BFing Matthew while pregnant with Surprise Baby. And how I'll have the energy/strength/mental capacity to get through first tri with a 4 month old. And how the h3ll I'm going to manage taking care of two babies. And God forbid I lose this baby & I have to figure out how to be a mom & cope with another loss.

It must be amazingly overwhelming. And knowing you'll make it through - because you will - doesn't mean it's less overwhelming, I'm sure.

Do you have a good LC who can work with you? They seem to be an amazing resource for BFing moms, for the most part.

HeatherPB1020 · August 2011

Scout05:
They seem happy about it, so good for them and all, but...personally that sounds like complete and total hell.

If I'm being honest.

I was just thinking that!!! Total Hell!

normajeane6126 · August 2011

elisbu:Congratulations!! Thats a good surprise.

Thank you

Scout05:
It must be amazingly overwhelming. And knowing you'll make it through - because you will - doesn't mean it's less overwhelming, I'm sure.

Do you have a good LC who can work with you? They seem to be an amazing resource for BFing moms, for the most part.

I definitely feel overwhelmed. Finding a good LC is on my list (I've been lucky enough to have not needed one since leaving the hospital), along with about a million other things. But for right now, my number one priority is showering Matthew with as much love as humanly possible.

ShellShockedMama · August 2011

_bitches_ be crazy. I could never, ever in a hundred thousand million years handle 2 u 2...I'd rather scoop my own uterus out.

ShellShockedMama · August 2011

Scout05:
Gummybear:

I agree with you. Here is the thing though, MOST babies are super easy for about the first year-18 months. Once they get moving and talking and THINKING, all hell breaks loose. I can see thinking, "Oh this baby thing is so easy..I can easily handle 2" at 3-4 months, but in reality,

The plus side is getting over the hellacious period all at one time, and much faster than say, me, who will have several years of child-led anarchy. And having kids close together is and automatic BFF, which is cool.

I did not get one of these babies. Not that I would trade her for the easiest baby in the world, I certainly wouldn't.

But yeah. DH talked me into another one, and sooner than I would have thought, but I think our current nightly meltdowns has even him rethinking.

If you looked up hardest baby on earth in the dictionary, you'd find mine. Thank god he's cute ;-)

Scout05 · August 2011

ShellShockedMama:
Scout05:
Gummybear:

I agree with you. Here is the thing though, MOST babies are super easy for about the first year-18 months. Once they get moving and talking and THINKING, all hell breaks loose. I can see thinking, "Oh this baby thing is so easy..I can easily handle 2" at 3-4 months, but in reality,

The plus side is getting over the hellacious period all at one time, and much faster than say, me, who will have several years of child-led anarchy. And having kids close together is and automatic BFF, which is cool.

I did not get one of these babies. Not that I would trade her for the easiest baby in the world, I certainly wouldn't.

But yeah. DH talked me into another one, and sooner than I would have thought, but I think our current nightly meltdowns has even him rethinking.

If you looked up hardest baby on earth in the dictionary, you'd find mine. Thank god he's cute ;-)

He's damn cute.

Your siggy is freaking me out. Clowns :::shudder:::

ashleyrsotomayor · August 2011

I can't even fathom the idea of getting pregnant again that soon. I was thinking *maybe* when DS is two...and that's a BIG maybe. A friend of mine got pregnant around that time after her first, and now she is going BSC with a DD that just turned 1 and a 3 month old.

ashleyrsotomayor · August 2011

normajeane6126:
elisbu:
Congratulations!! Thats a good surprise.

Thank you

Scout05:
It must be amazingly overwhelming. And knowing you'll make it through - because you will - doesn't mean it's less overwhelming, I'm sure.

Do you have a good LC who can work with you? They seem to be an amazing resource for BFing moms, for the most part.

I definitely feel overwhelmed. Finding a good LC is on my list (I've been lucky enough to have not needed one since leaving the hospital), along with about a million other things. But for right now, my number one priority is showering Matthew with as much love as humanly possible.

Holy crap girl! Congrats on your surprise! I can't even imagine how overwhelming that would be...but you rock and you will do great! And the bonus: you get to get the baby phase out of the way all at once!

Karen1998 · August 2011

frogyie:
kathymarie:
I cannot even fathom getting pregnant again right now. Having a nb is so friggin hard, I had no idea.
. This. I am still waiting to feel like a normal person and not a BM dispensing machine or automatic white noise rocker.

This is hilarious as it's so incredibly accurate. I had someone ask me today when I was planning on another one. Um, what? He's not even two weeks old! I told him to talk to me in a year or two and then I'll consider trying again.

Karen1998 · August 2011

normajeane6126:
elisbu:
Congratulations!! Thats a good surprise.

Thank you

Scout05:
It must be amazingly overwhelming. And knowing you'll make it through - because you will - doesn't mean it's less overwhelming, I'm sure.

Do you have a good LC who can work with you? They seem to be an amazing resource for BFing moms, for the most part.

I definitely feel overwhelmed. Finding a good LC is on my list (I've been lucky enough to have not needed one since leaving the hospital), along with about a million other things. But for right now, my number one priority is showering Matthew with as much love as humanly possible.

(((Hugs))) Does your pediatrician have one on staff or have one s/he can recommend? Also, check out La Leche League. They have support groups and can lead you to a LC in your area that can help you out. I bet they'll have some good suggestions.

Ernie52408 · August 2011

normajeane6126:
I'm scared sh*tless, actually. This was not planned and I have no idea how we're going to do it. My biggest worry right now is if I'll be able to keep BFing Matthew while pregnant with Surprise Baby. And how I'll have the energy/strength/mental capacity to get through first tri with a 4 month old. And how the h3ll I'm going to manage taking care of two babies. And God forbid I lose this baby & I have to figure out how to be a mom & cope with another loss.

Holy Cow K-. I didn't realize it was you. Congrats on your suprise baby! Sending you lots of sticky dust and sanity dust!

Sonadora · August 2011

ShellShockedMama:
_bitches_ be crazy. I could never, ever in a hundred thousand million years handle 2 u 2...I'd rather scoop my own uterus out.

I can barely handle the one under 2 I currently have. Maybe if I'd gotten one of those easy-going babies who sleep. Maybe. But even then. In my current 8 months of sleep deprivation hell, no no no no. I actually took a pg test this morning just to make sure since I haven't had a cycle yet.

Bride2b2004 · August 2011

ShellShockedMama:
_bitches_ be crazy. I could never, ever in a hundred thousand million years handle 2 u 2...I'd rather scoop my own uterus out.

Surprised to read something like this on this board. I have found losses humbled me to accept/celebrate a baby whenever it comes along. We waited 2 years before TTC#2 and conceived right away, but lost that baby, and the one after that, and the one after that... With #3, we just hoped for a healthy baby and didn't focus on the timing and I feel blessed that we are pg with a sticky LO. We will have 2u2 for 5 months, but another child forever! And the 5 months actually don't worry me much... age 3 is MUCH worse than any other age and I will be so happy not to worry about a newborn with a 3 year old in the house.

magdalina.h · August 2011

normajeane6126:
I'm scared sh*tless, actually. This was not planned and I have no idea how we're going to do it. My biggest worry right now is if I'll be able to keep BFing Matthew while pregnant with Surprise Baby. And how I'll have the energy/strength/mental capacity to get through first tri with a 4 month old. And how the h3ll I'm going to manage taking care of two babies. And God forbid I lose this baby & I have to figure out how to be a mom & cope with another loss.

Congratulations!

Scout05 · August 2011

Bride2b2004:

ShellShockedMama:
_bitches_ be crazy. I could never, ever in a hundred thousand million years handle 2 u 2...I'd rather scoop my own uterus out.

Surprised to read something like this on this board. I have found losses humbled me to accept/celebrate a baby whenever it comes along. We waited 2 years before TTC#2 and conceived right away, but lost that baby, and the one after that, and the one after that... With #3, we just hoped for a healthy baby and didn't focus on the timing and I feel blessed that we are pg with a sticky LO. We will have 2u2 for 5 months, but another child forever! And the 5 months actually don't worry me much... age 3 is MUCH worse than any other age and I will be so happy not to worry about a newborn with a 3 year old in the house.

Honestly? I find that attitude a little ridiculous. Whether or not someone is capable - emotionally, physically, financially, etc. - to have another baby so soon has nothing to do with their previous struggles.

So, if I hadn't had losses and said "wow, there is no way *I* could handle another baby right now" or "wow, *I* really don't have any desire to have 2u2," that would be okay, but I have to be open to the idea just because I had the great misfortune to lose five babies?

It has NOTHING to do with being humble. Or thankful for my child.

I could not handle being pregnant right now. It's great that you look at it as a "we'll have 2u2 for 5 months, but another child forever." I could not handle those 5 months, and there is NOTHING wrong with owning that.

Having miscarriages =/= able, or frankly willing, to have more children. Right away or ever again. I am happy for the women that feel up to the challenge. I hope all goes well for them.

As I said in my OP, PERSONALLY, the idea is not one that appeals to me. Having had recurrent miscarriages doesn't make the idea any more appealing.

I'm doing everything I can to prevent right now. I don't see how that makes me an arrogant or ungrateful person. I'm allowed to engage in family planning the same as those who have not had losses. The idea that I'm not, and that the lesson I should have learned is to just have babies whenever, without regard to the plausibility of another child in my life right now, is laughable and insulting.

ShellShockedMama · August 2011

Bride2b2004:
ShellShockedMama:
_bitches_ be crazy. I could never, ever in a hundred thousand million years handle 2 u 2...I'd rather scoop my own uterus out.
Surprised to read something like this on this board. I have found losses humbled me to accept/celebrate a baby whenever it comes along. We waited 2 years before TTC#2 and conceived right away, but lost that baby, and the one after that, and the one after that... With #3, we just hoped for a healthy baby and didn't focus on the timing and I feel blessed that we are pg with a sticky LO. We will have 2u2 for 5 months, but another child forever! And the 5 months actually don't worry me much... age 3 is MUCH worse than any other age and I will be so happy not to worry about a newborn with a 3 year old in the house.

So....I'm not humble OR grateful for my child? Good to know. Thanks, man.I see no reasonable or intelligent reason why my feelings are invalid, there's no way I could handle two babies under two years old, and I think it's crazy for me to consider it. It's my opinion and more power to those that want babies that close in age. It's not my cup of tea and I am not any less humble than you are because of that.

Also, I find it HILARIOUS that many other people said things similar to what I said (though not in my colorful language) yet I'm the one you wagged your finger at.

Stalker clown does not approve of you. :::wags finger at crazy pants::::

JuJuBe3 · August 2011

Scout05:
Gummybear:

I agree with you. Here is the thing though, MOST babies are super easy for about the first year-18 months. Once they get moving and talking and THINKING, all hell breaks loose. I can see thinking, "Oh this baby thing is so easy..I can easily handle 2" at 3-4 months, but in reality,

The plus side is getting over the hellacious period all at one time, and much faster than say, me, who will have several years of child-led anarchy. And having kids close together is and automatic BFF, which is cool.

I did not get one of these babies. Not that I would trade her for the easiest baby in the world, I certainly wouldn't.

But yeah. DH talked me into another one, and sooner than I would have thought, but I think our current nightly meltdowns has even him rethinking.

Tell it, sista!

Bride2b2004 · August 2011

Scout05:
Bride2b2004:

ShellShockedMama:
_bitches_ be crazy. I could never, ever in a hundred thousand million years handle 2 u 2...I'd rather scoop my own uterus out.

Surprised to read something like this on this board. I have found losses humbled me to accept/celebrate a baby whenever it comes along. We waited 2 years before TTC#2 and conceived right away, but lost that baby, and the one after that, and the one after that... With #3, we just hoped for a healthy baby and didn't focus on the timing and I feel blessed that we are pg with a sticky LO. We will have 2u2 for 5 months, but another child forever! And the 5 months actually don't worry me much... age 3 is MUCH worse than any other age and I will be so happy not to worry about a newborn with a 3 year old in the house.

Honestly? I find that attitude a little ridiculous. Whether or not someone is capable - emotionally, physically, financially, etc. - to have another baby so soon has nothing to do with their previous struggles.

So, if I hadn't had losses and said "wow, there is no way *I* could handle another baby right now" or "wow, *I* really don't have any desire to have 2u2," that would be okay, but I have to be open to the idea just because I had the great misfortune to lose five babies?

It has NOTHING to do with being humble. Or thankful for my child.

I could not handle being pregnant right now. It's great that you look at it as a "we'll have 2u2 for 5 months, but another child forever." I could not handle those 5 months, and there is NOTHING wrong with owning that.

Having miscarriages =/= able, or frankly willing, to have more children. Right away or ever again. I am happy for the women that feel up to the challenge. I hope all goes well for them.

As I said in my OP, PERSONALLY, the idea is not one that appeals to me. Having had recurrent miscarriages doesn't make the idea any more appealing.

I'm doing everything I can to prevent right now. I don't see how that makes me an arrogant or ungrateful person. I'm allowed to engage in family planning the same as those who have not had losses. The idea that I'm not, and that the lesson I should have learned is to just have babies whenever, without regard to the plausibility of another child in my life right now, is laughable and insulting.

Scout- My comment was specific to the "scooping out the uterus" poster I quoted saying those that do are crazy.

SSM- Not exactly "wagging a finger" to your comment which you deem "colorful" and I would classify as some other things.

kbel424 · August 2011

Congratulations K!! I had no idea, I didn't see anything in the HH FB group yet!

I'll definitely be in the 2u2 club. My H is turning 42 in a month and wants to start trying again sooner rather then later. We're thinking early next year, so S will not be one yet when we start trying.

normajeane6126 · August 2011

kbel424:
Congratulations K!! I had no idea, I didn't see anything in the HH FB group yet!
I'll definitely be in the 2u2 club. My H is turning 42 in a month and wants to start trying again sooner rather then later. We're thinking early next year, so S will not be one yet when we start trying.

I'm hardly on FB these days, but I guess I should mention something over there, huh?

There are women on my BMB who are KU again already

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