2IF Weekly Update - 8/12/11

JMay · August 2011

Hi Ladies?

Hope everyone has had a good week! This is such a great place to meet other women in similar circumstances to share experiences, cheer each other on, get info and offer support.

A BIG WELCOME TO OUR NEWEST 2IFers!

Welcome: habanks, TamTam624, EliseM42, Mrs.Adam, Vermont7

If you?d like to join the board, please feel free to put your intro in this post ? we love new 2Ifers!!!

2IFers (Alphabetized ? Please let me know if this is ok!)

50ftqueenie

adamfam

Akabride30

AliciaC19

AmandaMacD

Amer19

Angelakh

anneannabell

aprilprincess

baileysmommy88

beachbabe

Becketts

bethCT

blackbird01

blsteinbach

*blue*flower*

BrewFan12

bronxite

burghbaby

butterbrickle

byrne15

cairolio

choirgirl

cvillecouple

drbeeperswife

DSU98

Eaconstantineslp

Electricdoctor83

EmmysMom1213

erink1981

gatorsinlove

georgesgirl17

gina&dave07

goldenleaves

hayleydee

Hbs4545

HeatherMichele

hope4us

Hopeful2008

hoping4more

Janimal

jen-dale

jennykg1477

JenMaz

jjohn28

JMay

JnJ62406

JustPip

Karencz

kbrodie06

keeptryin

kellyjg123

KelliLynee

kiarox2002

KMLP

KYRN

lena0210

lillinzlou

lkaylee721

lookinfor2

lrrb

luckymom3

luvmykids02

MandynStephen

Mariat

MaybeMore

mbs427

Melis-n-Mike

melissa&eddie

miblue

mmr05

Momma K

MOMMYINNY

MrsJaimebeth

MrsMountainGirl

MrsTeejer

mrs.viv07

mrswalker39

munequita2006

MySweetBaboo

noah-bear

patient

PDXGal7868

Persephone0024

pharmacygirl

Pixie556

potatohead

pumpkinhead4

racampbell1

rach1015

Ready2bmommy

Reg001

RMR13

RyansMTCowGirl

Saphireprincss

SB524

Sept1006Bride

sgrobste

shaddai

Shozziee

smacb

smsalat

Soon2Bmrs.AGEE

spinach

sproutmd

Stacy092306

tbonegrl

teresadrew17

tiff16

tootlebug

tosh24

Twizzle

valerie54

WyWysMommy

2WW

Mrs.Adam (Do we have any official announcement here???)

LuckyMom3

Vermont7

Please let me know if you are in the 2WW!

IVF/FET CHECK
BethCT

EliseM42

Erink1981

Smacb

Jbear04

Please let me know if you are in the midst or prepping for IVF!

IUI

Sept1006Bride

Byrne15

jenmaz

Pixie556

Please let me know if you are in the midst of an IUI cycle!

ON BREAK

Akabride30

AmandaMacD

ChoirGirl

EmmysMom1213

Hoping4More

jennykg1477

Jmay

jnj62406

Karencz

KelliLynee

Lena0210

lillinzlou

melis-n-mike

MrsJaimebeth

stacy092306

Twizzle

Please let me know if you are on break!

CONGRATULATIONS to our BFP's!!

(most recent EDD first, descending)

Jen-Dale EDD? 2/20/12?

munequita2006 EDD? 2/16/12

MrsTeejer EDD 2/14/12 w/#3!

cvillecouple EDD? 2/2/12

Pharmacygirl EDD?1/7/12

Hope4us EDD? 1/4/12

teresadrew17 EDD? 12/11/12 TWINS?!! (Thanks for posting your update! Sounds like a mortifying experience! lol)

Tosh24 EDD? 12/08/11 ? Team Green!

RyansMTCowGirl EDD?11/30/11

kellykg123?EDD 11/23/11 TWINS?!! BOY and GIRL!!!

cairolio?EDD 11/5/11

Janimal?EDD 11/5/11

Soon2Bmrs.AGEE?EDD 10/27/11?TWINS!!

Ready2bMommy?EDD 10/13/11

Pixiestx EDD 10/5/11? it?s a GIRL!

spinach??EDD 9/29/11.. it?s a GIRL!

Melissawillr?.EDD 9/25/11

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electricdoctor83 · August 2011

Update (condensed version): Had my first RE appointment...found out that she didn't think my MTHFR was the cause of all my losses....will start progesterone suppositiories on 3DPO and I am now on CD 27 and I think I finally had a temp jump. My OPK seemed positive a couple days ago but I wasn't totally sure so if my temp stays up I'll start the progesterone. So I guess I'm in my 2WW right now.

Question: My DH and I need to sit down and talk about how far we are going to take this ride...I want to go as far as IVF but we will be 100% OOP which is a big blow. The RE said it wouldn't hurt to start saving money now just in case. Since I don't have an issue getting pregnant/ovulating then we would do the PGD testing with IVF so that adds more money.

Just now we are going to do the progesterone supps for 6 months if I am not pregnant with a viable baby in 6 months then we will do a few clomid trials. I guess if in another 6 months (a full 2 years after we started TTC) then we may do IVF.

I just want this rollercoaster to end

Stacy092306 · August 2011

No big updates from me. We are still on a break. I am ready to go back to a different RE and get a second opinion or look into adoption. DH is not on board with either option yet. He feels like he is happy with just one. I am not sure how to resolve this.

QOTW: I want to keep going until we get #2. I am getting older though, so my time might be limited using ART methods and everything is OOP, which means moneywise we have to stop at a certain point if we want to be able to give DD a good life. I am very open to adoption. But, I need to get DH on board.

gina&dave07 · August 2011

Update: As I stated in my post below. BFFN this morning. I am expecting AF toady or tomorrow. Once she arrives, I will schedule my hysteroscopy for next cycle.

QOTW: How far will you take 2IF treatment? Do you have a limit (treatment wise or date wise)? Are you open to other avenues to complete your family? I would be willing to do IUI but DH is totally against it. So I am not sure where that leaves us. We have not determined any sort of date when we will stop. It has only been a little over a year so I guess we will keep "trying." I would be open to adoption, but DH is not.

Good luck to anyone testing soon!

smacb · August 2011

I'm on gonal-f and Menopur. Gearing up for the egg retrieval sometime the end of next week.

This is our first ivf cycle. If it doesn't work, we're in a shared risk program that covers up to 6 ivf cycles. We're going to try PGD if there's another cycle. If ivf doesn't work, I think we're done.

RyansMTCowGirl · August 2011

Hi Ladies! I haven't posted in forever, but I have been lurking and thinking about all of you! Welcome to all the new faces. I hope your stay on this board is short, but you have joined an amazing, caring group of women.

Update: This summer has been crazy. DH accepted a new job in June which is in my home state, close to most of my family. The last two months have been completely occupied in putting our house on the market and making all the necessary preparations for moving. We finally move next week, and I am so ready for the move to be behind us! In baby news, we found out last week that we are having another girl and are thrilled!

I hope you are all doing well and I am thinking about all of you!

RMR13 · August 2011

Not really anything to update,CD 8 so just more waiting.

QOTW: I don't know if we can afford IVF but, if we can and need to, that will be the end of the road for us. DH is completly against adoption. Hopefully we don't get there.

lillinzlou · August 2011

Update: CD 13 and gearing up to DTD! Woohoo! Still feeling positive and upbeat. Don't know if it's the supplements or my change in attitude, but really loving sex lately! It feels nice having my libido back!

QOTW: The farthest we will go is IUI. We will be starting that in 2 cycles, after this one. I am really feeling good that if we don't get KU before then, that's all we'll need! We will do 3 cycles of that and if it doesn't work, we'll just keep DTD and praying.

On a side note: I know it's been a rough summer for all of us. After that explosion of BFPs in June, we've really had a drought around here. I am thinking of all of you each day and hoping that the change in seasons is all we need to get things moving again. Hang in there, ladies!

JMay · August 2011

I guess my update didn't post the first time!

Update: CD39, waiting to O. Trying not to be hopeful, but DD was conceived on either CD42 or CD68, depending upon how you look at my cycles, so maybe there's a chance...

QOTW: Femara is as far as we'll go. I'd go to IVF when desperate, but DH is against it. I'm ok with that in my more optimistic days. I'd love to start the adoption process (then get a surprise bfp on top!) but DH treats Adoption like a dirty word. Given the fact that I can't even say the word without him flying into hysterics, I doubt I'll ever talk him into it. What's with men being so against adoption anyway?

P.S. I ditto Lillianzou's thoughts on getting more BFPs around here - summer has been tough for this board!

MySweetBaboo · August 2011

Update: CD 5 on cycle 25. Tongue Tied I am trying Fertilaid and Fertilitea again. I know it was probably a coincidence, but the only other time I've been able to get pg the last two years was the cycle I took it.

QOTW: I would go all the way to IVF, but dh doesn't want to "pay" to have another child, especially with only a 20% chance of success (with IUI). So, he has agreed to do one IUI, but I have put it off to next year so I can lose a little more weight.

As far as a quit date, I am kind of tired actually. I am leaning toward not doing the IUI, I am afraid if it fails I won't be able to not try to convince dh to try again and end up angry at him because I know he won't do it. It's been on my mind constantly and I am really thinking that we will actively try thru December. Then we'll try without trying (no monitor, OPK, temping, etc.) until I am 38, December of 2012.

Good luck to all testing soon!

Twizzle · August 2011

Update: I have been kind of MIA this week. DS's preschool is closed to get ready for the new school year, so I have taken time to be with him and I'm loving feeling like a SAHM! I actually told DH I want to quit my job. I have also been sort of avoiding the boards because I have had a rough week emotionally. I have an appointment scheduled for Tues with a psychologist, I am hoping that will help.

Otherwise, I'm STILL on a break. It's been 5 weeks since my D&C and still no AF and as of Monday, still + HPTs. I'm starting to worry that I may have some retained tissue. I have a followup with the RE on Thurs, hopefully that will give me some answers.

QOTW: I really don't know, the answer seems to change all of the time. Right now I don't think either DH or I would want to do IVF, but that's because I still feel confident that IUI will work again, and because we are OOP. If we do several IUI cycles with no success I guess we will reevaluate then. I'm open to adoption, in fact I want to adopt an older child one day, but I don't know if I want to adopt now. Datewise, again, no idea, but I'm 37 so obviously can't go on too much longer.

lena0210 · August 2011

Update: Still on break, CD 8.

QOTW: Hard question! Since diagnosed with unexplained fertility,our RE is not aggressive with treatment. This really frustrates me because HELLO, I'm not getting pregnant. At this point I'd say I'm open to whatever comes our way in terms of time or treatment.

erink1981 · August 2011

Update: Still waiting to hear from insurance if they'll cover any of the PGD testing. I should hear something next week. (I think both my ins. co. and RE's office are tired of me calling to check on it)

On a better note: I'm headed to a winery tomorrow with 12 of my girlfriends. We are staying at the winery in a beautiful lodge...and plan on drinking wine all day

QOTW: Well considering we are preparing to do IVF with PGD....I'd say we are going to do whatever it takes to get ourselves another baby Since my problem is genetic, we never went down the IUI route. We are going straight from naturally trying to IVF with PGD. Since we are OOP, I know there is a limit somewhere...just not sure how much $$ we can really spend on it. If I do one cycle of PGD and I don't have any normal embryos to transfer....we may move on to donor eggs right away. It's been 2 years...I'm tired of waiting

jennykg1477 · August 2011

Update: I think I am in the 2WW, but I have stopped keeping track. DH has an appointment with the urologist next Thursday so maybe we will get more answers then.

QOTW: DH is completely against IUI and IVF so clomid is the most we can do as far as ART (if that is even considered ART). We are both on board with adoption, we just differ in our timelines. I would like to start the process now, DH would like to wait a little longer.

adamfam · August 2011

Im in the 2ww for my 2nd IUI cycle.

QOTW: I used to think I would never do this stuff- ie. seek help from and RE and do fertility treatments, but Ive learned that you never really are sure how far you will go for something important like this. then, once I started my first IUI cyle, I thought "why am I doing this, I should just go straight to IVF". Now Ive changed my mind a again and just want to step off this roller coaster for a bit, or maybe forever. I was interested in adopting, but my DH was not. At first I was a little resentful about it, but now Im just sort of pscyhed to move on with my family just the way it is for now.

karencz · August 2011

Update: Still charting, TTA this cycle as my back heals. Back is feeling good.

QOTW: I have no idea. We just try to take it one step at a time. For example: If diet alone doesn't help us this time, then meds. We haven't gotten too much past that. Plus, we have faith that diet or meds will work. I hope.

Sept1006bride · August 2011

I am half way through my 2WW. I had my first acupuncture appointment last week, and will go again next week to keep my body healthy. Just trying to pass days with sanity here!

QOTW: We are pretty much willing and wanting to do everything in our power to grow our family. But the more I think about it, I don't know if I could handle DE. I would probably want to consider adoption if we came to that point.

jen-dale · August 2011

Hi ladies:-) I just wanted to drop in and let you know I still lurk and pray for each of you. This board is amazing and I'm so thankful to have it. I do hope there's some BFPs on the horizon. Sorry there's no formatting I'm on my phone. As for QOTW: I'm not sure we would have gone any farther than IUI. We pay OOP and DH and I both were going to want to pursue adoption. We still may if we decide we want a third child. I've found I can't even think about that right now. Time will tell.

becketts · August 2011

Update: I'm in the 2WW. I have an appt on Tuesday for a blood draw to check progestrone levels to see if my luteal phase is sub-par.

QOTW: I have mixed feelings about this. I really want another biological child, partly because I want another chance at a 'normal' labor/delivery/newborn experience. I had pre-e, so DD was born at 34 weeks, spent 23 days in the NICU, and wouldn't nurse so I EP'd. We also found out during that pregnancy that I have a bicornuate uterus (oddly not related to any pre-e issues), so I don't think we'd feel comfortable pursuing avenues like IVF that carry a significant risk for multiples since that would be a near-guarantee (for me) that we would not have a 'normal' experience. I'm not sure if that makes sense, but that's where we are.

If my progesterone levels are normal, we'll have to sit down with my OB and re-group. We'll probably look into DH being tested and have a discussion about Clomid.

jenmaz · August 2011

Hi Ladies!

Well, I'm in the middle of my 2nd IUI cycle with femara and trigger shot. CD 12 today and giving myself the shot tonight. Here's hoping! At my appt this morning, had a good size follie on left ovary, measuring at 20.5 mm and my lining was at 7.9. Fingers crossed, toes crossed.

QOTW: We will continue to do IUI and maybe injectibles, but will not do IVF b/c its not covered by insurance, like IUI is.

MaybeMore · August 2011

Had blood test--BFN. Told nurse about super-faint positive, she asked the day and said it was NOT the HCG and was therefore likely a super-early c/p that did not implant properly.

Crap.

I'm not 100% divorced from the HCG idea, still. I guess I'm just stubborn.

DH has a SA on Mon. They don't do post-coitals anymore even though she recognized the validity of the issue of hostile CM and recommended going straight to IUI instead. Uh... Why would I pay more to do something is it probably won't help? We'll see.

Next cycle is likely more of the same, which is disappointing since I only had 2 good follies. I asked if we can at least change the time frame of the meds to have a better shot at 4--not that I want it canceled because I'm getting 5 or 6, but still.

QOTW: Dunno. We'll see.

I know I will not be doing domestic infant adoption. There are too many couples who have no children who want just one of their own for us to try to elbow in there. I've always wanted to adopt a sibling group, but that's not even being discussed with me & DH until our kids are older than the oldest kids in a sibling group might be. And also, I think we have to really prove ourselves as parents before taking on a hard case like that. DH would like to start by adopting a single older child if we do go that direction, and only then look into sibling groups. Who's covering the college would be a BIG issue, too, as I'd hope that even children I adopt older would at least get an associate's degree, and those that have enough time to catch up academically will get a bachelor's or better.

MaybeMore · August 2011

electricdoctor83:

Question: My DH and I need to sit down and talk about how far we are going to take this ride...I want to go as far as IVF but we will be 100% OOP which is a big blow. The RE said it wouldn't hurt to start saving money now just in case. Since I don't have an issue getting pregnant/ovulating then we would do the PGD testing with IVF so that adds more money.

Unless you guys have a balanced translocation, IVF will be a total waste of money for you. You're getting pregnant. The only thing IVF can help on is if you're not staying pregnant because of genetic abnormalities. But your RE should have already ordered a karyotyping, and if that's normal, IVF won't help. (But that's a good thing, because balanced translocations really suck.)

electricdoctor83 · August 2011

Thanks Maybe...I really don't think I have the balanced translocation since I have a DS and didn't have any losses before him. The only way we'd do IVF is with the PGD testing.

We are going to get karyotyped if my insurance pays for it, I'm just waiting for my RE's nurse to call me back in the next few weeks. I seriously doubt that is my problem though.

luckymom3 · August 2011

Sorry I missed this...

Still in the 2ww but should be able to test Wednesday or Thursday although I have an RE appointment on Tuesday so it depends on how fast they get bloodwork back.

QOTW: DH has stated that he would never agree to IVF (purely financial) but the frustrating part for me is that a. we can afford it if we try and b. I'm not even sure what is covered through our insurance. I haven't asked yet to avoid disappointment. Just...frustrating.

DSU98 · August 2011

Hi, thought I would let you know I am still around and get on daily to read updates, just not much to say right now. We were supposed to wait one more month before trying to conceive again, but we left it in the hands of God. So we are in aour 2ww and I guess we will see what comes of it!

For the question of the day we have already decided to use no treatment for trying to have a 3rd. If it happens great! if not we have 2 beautiful daughters!

choirgirl · August 2011

Update: I was waiting for my post-op appointment today to update, but I mostly put it in a venting thread. The RE with little bedside manner declared my lining not a very big deal because there were more good places than he thought there were, and also gave me the lovely news that my AMH is down from 1.5 to 0.87 in 8 months, which he has now declared my big deal, overtaking the top spot from my luteal phase defect (driven by my lining). His nurse practitioner had reassured me last week that any scarring could attract a blastocyst to try to implant in a bad area, so any cleanup could have huge results. And his nurse assured me today that even if egg health is my biggest deal, the surgery has surely helped and to have optimism for the next month. I'm sort of crushed and in denial.

Oh, and so technically I'm on meaningless cd25, as this cycle is expected to go another 9 after today on estrogen, then another 7 on prometrium, and then another couple before AF shows for cd1 of our next real cycle.

QOTW: In our current financial state, and with our ages (41 and 42), we are looking at the next IUI as being IT. There is a company DH has been wanting to work for that's both local and in the area we plan to move, so working there would let us swing on out, and they cover 3 IVFs. But they are unlikely to have job postings there until January, which probably means hearing in February then a 30 day wait, so March before we could do an IVF. So this is really it. DH is an only who loved it and appears uninterested in adoption. Especially because so many kinds of adoption would cost what an IVF costs. My sister is adopted, so I'm good with going that route, but I just don't see him coming around. Our neighbors have done a successful foster-to-adopt- and even have a second one on the way, and that costs $0 in our state, but I just don't see DH going that way. If we don't have another, we'll likely take some awesome vacations and not have to stress about the cost of sending DS to the best schools, but you know, I'd really not mind having my entire paycheck going to sending 2 kids to great schools if it meant having a second.

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