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One more, one more
I'm not sure how to tackle this situation with Natalie. As many of you know, I work from home in our downstairs home office. Whenever I see Natalie throughout the day, she wants a kiss when I go back to my office (this happens other times to but this is a good example). Of course, I always give her kisses and love to do it but she takes it to an extreme. She'll give me lots of kisses and then wait till I walk away and start screaming "one more kiss, one more kiss" until I come back to give her another and will cling to me to keep giving kisses. If I don't come back (say I have a conference call to get to), she has a breakdown.
I'm so torn as to what to do about this. It's frustrating that she waits for me to walk away before she does this...it's like she's waiting for this scenario to play out. Plus, the walking all the way to my office to go back is ridiculous. It's seems like a control thing for her. I'm happy to give her tons of kisses when I'm standing there, but the "one more, one more" and waiting till I walk away is getting old. But the last thing I want to fight over is giving kisses...
What do you think I should do about this? It's been going on for months.
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Re: One more, one more
Ugg..sounds frustrating! And yes, it sounds like she is waiting for it to play out each time.
Could you come up with a choreographed thing the two of you do? sort of along the lines of a secret handshake but a sort of secret kiss routine. Make it something special that you do just with her. And unfortunately I think once you do the secret kiss routine thingy, you are going to probably have to let her just meltdown if she's going to. I mean you could tell her as you're headed back to your office that you can't wait to do your secret kiss again the next time you come out of your office and leave it at that.
I'm lacking creativity right now- I'm sure you could come up with a better name for it. Just a thought...Hope you find something that works!
Maybe give her a warning a few minutes before you go back to your office...like "ok Natalie, Mommy is going back to work in X minutes. You can have as many kisses as you want before I need to go, but when I say it's time for me to leave, you may have 1 more goodbye kiss and that will be all until I come back"....or something like that.
I have to do something similar with Keira at nights sometimes when she seems extra clingy. Her thing is "rock me a minute mommy". Of course I don't want to ever say "no" to a snuggle with her, especially when it's at night, she's sad and we are all alone with no sister competing for attention.
If it happens more than once I have to tell her that I will rock her one last time and then it's bed time because everyone is sleeping. That seems to help. She gets attention, her snuggle but also knows when mommy says "that's it" it means "that's it". We also do this with sips of water too and she really seems to understand what "that's it" really means and she's ok with it.
If she throws a fit or gets upset when you walk away remind her that you told her when it was time then she got one more and then you had to go. It may be hard, but she will eventually learn to get all of her kisses in and know when it's the last one and be ok with that. Good luck!
That is a great idea. Nic is terrible at eating too. Thanks for the info.
Racey, I can imagine how frustrating. Nic has started stalling before bed and he says just one more for whatever. We'll give in to one more but then that is it. It sucks b/c all Natalie wants is love and attention but she is learning how to get away with it. I like all the ideas above. I think like everything it is a phase and if you figure out a plan she'll get it. GL
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