Daddy dilemma update

campbaby76 · August 2011

Thanks again to those of you who offered suggestions. We had a big talk last night and the topics ranged from caring for Jack, to what if I get sick again (I have a wicked autoimmune disease that can flare and leave me unable to walk) to the fung shui of the house (he doesn't like it???) to chores, our expectations of marriage and life with children. We have discussed parenting styles in the past but it's so different now that there is an actual child. He is really not sure how to deal with Jack at this age and he is intimidated by it being very natural to me. I talked to him about baby Charlotte and what if we were only guaranteed 36 hours with Jack. I told him that Jack is already such a cool little guy and I felt really sad that he was missing it all. So we have a plan to get things back in order. Last night he helped change, bathe and feed. He also read stories. Which is huge because he hates to read. I love it so Jack already has a library. I think we get so focused on baby and everything surrounding that, that we forget that we also have to be kind to each other. We are working on a plan to get me out of the house more. Not a done deal but a work in progress. Thanks again

ams8099 · August 2011

Sounds like it went really well! I hope it continues to go well. Please keep us updated!

kaube · August 2011

that sounds like a wonderful positive talk

congrats

Scout05 · August 2011

I'm glad you guys talked, and I hope things improve.

shaindelr · August 2011

Yay! I'm so glad it went well! I vote for working out or a book club as places to escape to :-)

By the way, your pregnancy ticker is still going, and you're 55 weeks pregnant. YIKES! Surprise

campbaby76 · August 2011

Haha I can't get the stupid thing off there. Can you imagine being that pregnant???

shaindelr · August 2011

campbaby76:
Haha I can't get the stupid thing off there. Can you imagine being that pregnant???

It scares me every time I see it and makes me hope I'm not an elephant in a future incarnation :-)

GHBEA · August 2011

Happy you were able to talk.

lylahlove · August 2011

campbaby76:
Thanks again to those of you who offered suggestions. We had a big talk last night and the topics ranged from caring for Jack, to what if I get sick again (I have a wicked autoimmune disease that can flare and leave me unable to walk) to the fung shui of the house (he doesn't like it???) to chores, our expectations of marriage and life with children. We have discussed parenting styles in the past but it's so different now that there is an actual child. He is really not sure how to deal with Jack at this age and he is intimidated by it being very natural to me. I talked to him about baby Charlotte and what if we were only guaranteed 36 hours with Jack. I told him that Jack is already such a cool little guy and I felt really sad that he was missing it all. So we have a plan to get things back in order. Last night he helped change, bathe and feed. He also read stories. Which is huge because he hates to read. I love it so Jack already has a library. I think we get so focused on baby and everything surrounding that, that we forget that we also have to be kind to each other. We are working on a plan to get me out of the house more. Not a done deal but a work in progress. Thanks again

I think we can all be guilty of this one. Glad things are getting on track for you!