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Evil Sister in Law?

MeaganChristieMeaganChristie
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My husband and I were out shopping last night and his sister called. His phone has been broken for about a year now, and it only works on speaker (which is great for me because I hear everything). His sister asked if I was there, and when my husband said yes, she proceeded to start *** talking my mother! He quickly saw where the conversation was going and hung up.

So of course I called my mother to find out what the hell was going on, and as it turns out his sister is pissed because she called to RSVP to my shower and asked if she could bring her 2 kids. My mother (who is obvioulsy hosting) said that she didn't think it was a good idea (I don't know if its at a restaurant and they're paying for guests, or its adult themed or whatever).

Either way I don't think my SIL should be pissed.

Opinions please?

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  • AWRIGHTAWRIGHT
    I understand where she may want to bring them and include them in...its kinda cool for kids to be apart of that stuff,especially family, However, it is extremly tacky for your SIL to act like a B!!! It is up to your mom and your SIL should respect her wishes.:) Good luck....family is great isnt it Hmm
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  • GVSU-04GVSU-04 member
    I'm guessing she knew you could hear everything?  She could always host a family friendly shower for you if she's so bent out of shape about it.  I tend to find it rude when people ask to bring extra guests to an event.  Your mother is hosting the shower, therefore she should have a say in who's invited (with your input, of course).  I wonder how SIL would feel if you brought extra people to an event she was hosting. 
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  • camedowncrushingcamedowncrushing member
    I don't think she should be mad.  Some people do not mind, but in my opinion children should not be at showers.
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  • CTteach1331CTteach1331

    You can always call her your Sisteroutlaw, like I do :)

     

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  • MeaganChristieMeaganChristie

    imageGVSU-04:
    I'm guessing she knew you could hear everything?  She could always host a family friendly shower for you if she's so bent out of shape about it.  I tend to find it rude when people ask to bring extra guests to an event.  Your mother is hosting the shower, therefore she should have a say in who's invited (with your input, of course).  I wonder how SIL would feel if you brought extra people to an event she was hosting. 

     

    I might add that she invited a friend that I had never met to my wedding the day of, and I had to scarmble around that morning to make a place card and find her a seat at the table. She's not exactly the most etiqutte conscience.

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  • mabma80mabma80
    I think your SIL should get over it, and next time she can host the shower and do whatever she wants.  Some showers people prefer not to let kids come, and some do.  Either because of the location or theme of it or whatever.
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  • MrsC2009MrsC2009

    Just a lurker, but it could also be a space issue at the location.  Your SIL should just get over it. 

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  • StephK86StephK86
    imageCTteach1331:

    You can always call her your Sisteroutlaw, like I do :)

     

    I am going to have to use this one! My SO's sister is the most evil person you will ever meet. I am not even joking either. The things she said while my son was dying I will never forgive her for.

    Anyways, I think your SIL is way overreacting. Many people do not allow kids at their showers. Sometimes I think it's better that way. If your mother told SIL she could bring her kids then she would have to allow everyone else to bring their kids too. The shower has obviously already been planned to be adults only she needs to get over it.

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  • appleseed1986appleseed1986 member
    First, I dont think kids should be at showers..doesnt really let the parents have their own fun. I think your SIL should just be thankful she was invited LOL
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  • ERINPETERSONERINPETERSON member

    imageappleseed1986:
    First, I dont think kids should be at showers..doesnt really let the parents have their own fun. I think your SIL should just be thankful she was invited LOL

     

    This and AMEN!

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  • jpsquaredjpsquared member
    imageMeaganChristie:


    I might add that she invited a friend that I had never met to my wedding the day of, and I had to scarmble around that morning to make a place card and find her a seat at the table. She's not exactly the most etiqutte conscience.

    Because of THIS I'm going to say your SIL needs to get over it.  It's bad enough for her to vent to your DH, but inexcusable to MAKE SURE you could hear the whole story.  It's like she knowingly tried to upset you.  Don't worry about it.  Tell your mom to stick to the no kids rule if that's what she's planning, and your SIL can get over it.  Not worth your time.

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  • eli_and_jeffeli_and_jeff

    I've never been to a shower where kids were invited along and I think it's good because inevitably some pretty graphic birth and recovery stories are told. Besides that, I know the last thing I wanted to deal with at my shower was a bunch of kids running around and screaming. (my shower was a week before I found out I was anemic, so I was pretty tired and edgy, I just wanted to hang out with my mom, SILs and my friends)

    Your SIL asked if she could bring them and was told it was for adults only. She needs to get over it. 

    I feel like calling both my SILs and telling them I love them. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that! 

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