After IVF we we're thrilled to find out I'm pregnant with (fraternal) twins. Now, whenever we tell people that I'm having twins, their first question is always "Do they run in your family?"
Usually I just say no (and sometimes add that it actually isn't hereditary). But then there's always this awkward silence, and I can SEE the wheels turning in their head, wondering if we had fertility treatments. I'm so sick of that weird lull in the conversion, it happens all the time.
With people we know well I usually tell them we did IVF, but I'd rather not have everyone we meet know.
Has anyone else noticed this, or found a good way to deal?
Re: Never know how to answer this question
Our Journey to Brenden
IVF #1: 4/11(Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix) 10 retrieved/8 mature and all 8 fertilized / 2 embies transferred ... nothing to freeze Beta 5/10 = BFN
IVF Take 2 Long Lupron July 2011
ER 7/3/11 (our 6th anniversary) - 8 retrieved/7 mature/fert ....ET 7/6/11 - 2 beautiful grade A 8 cell embryos
Beta 7/18/11 - 149!!! Beta 7/21/11 - 311 Beta 7/28/11 - 2,000 8/5/11 - Empty Sac 8/8/11 - There's a yolk sac and maybe a heartbeat 8/12/11 - Fetal pole, yolk sac, heartbeat 8/18/11 - Baby looks GREAT!
3 babies waiting on ice
this is a good one.
i always get so bothered by this question, to me it comes off as people trying to ask about your fertility in a round-about way.