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  • redshoegirlredshoegirl member

    I think this from the article sums it up for me:

    "I would have a lot of difficulties offering such a test just for gender identification. Gender is not an abnormality," Shulman said.

    I have a difficult time viewing unnecessary genetic tests approvingly. That said, most of the time, I don't think it would matter - I'm guessing quite a few parents have a secret preference but would ultimately be happy with either gender (for example, I secretly wanted boys but would still have been perfectly happy with girls - kwim?).

    But there's certainly the potential for abuse - for example, by some of the people who post on the gender disappointment forum. I'm not saying they'd all rush out and get abortions because of the test results, but back when I was first linked to that forum I saw a post by a woman who was seriously considering trying to force miscarriage by doing physically strenuous things because her baby wasn't the gender she wanted - so I could see someone like that using it in an inappropriate way.

    ETA: Also, kind of random side note...isn't it funny that so many people are so obsessive about finding out the baby's sex as early as possible? 50 years ago you had to wait until birth...then we could get ultrasounds at 19/20 weeks...now they have this test for when you're still in the first trimester! I wasn't on Team Green so I'm not trying to climb on a high horse, but this "must find out ASAP" attitude is kind of crazy!

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  • sanae78sanae78
    imageredshoegirl:

    But there's certainly the potential for abuse - for example, by some of the people who post on the gender disappointment forum. I'm not saying they'd all rush out and get abortions because of the test results, but back when I was first linked to that forum I saw a post by a woman who was seriously considering trying to force miscarriage by doing physically strenuous things because her baby wasn't the gender she wanted - so I could see someone like that using it in an inappropriate way.

    Crazy!  I can see how this could happen.  I personally wouldn't trust it because I want to see for myself on the u/s, even though the test says 95% accuracy. 

    I have to admit that I was super impatient about finding out the gender and when we had our NT scan they said girl.  I knew it wasn't 100% yet and I wouldn't believe it until I saw it on u/s later.  I knew I couldn't wait until 20 weeks so my doctor ordered an u/s for 16 weeks after I said I was just gonna go to one of those 3D u/s places.  :P  I'm just impatient in general so I was excited to find out.  Plus, I wanted to start shopping!  LOL.

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  • redshoegirlredshoegirl member

    imagesanae78:
    I'm just impatient in general so I was excited to find out.  Plus, I wanted to start shopping!  LOL.

    Oh I'm totally with you there - hence why we weren't Team Green lol - but I just find it interesting how even though our ability to determine gender before birth has come a looooong way in 50 years, we're still anxious for it to happen even faster. Stick out tongue

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  • lelekaylelekay member
    I'm super impatient, too, and definitely wanted to know the gender.  Didn't care, just wanted to know.  But it makes me so sad that some people cannot see the joy in a child no matter what the gender.  I cannot even imagine deciding you do not want a child based on their gender.  I was thrilled with a boy, I would have been thrilled with a girl.  I was thrilled for a child!
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  • sanae78sanae78
    imageredshoegirl:

    imagesanae78:
    I'm just impatient in general so I was excited to find out.  Plus, I wanted to start shopping!  LOL.

    Oh I'm totally with you there - hence why we weren't Team Green lol - but I just find it interesting how even though our ability to determine gender before birth has come a looooong way in 50 years, we're still anxious for it to happen even faster. Stick out tongue

    I blame the Internet. We can find out anything we want in 2 seconds nowadays so we want to find out everything as quickly as possible.
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  • HulaLoveHulaLove

    I appreciate that people are entitled to feel what they feel and have a preference for what gender their child is (I want another girl, but know I will love my son if that's what we have).  I have a very close friend who experienced a lot of sadness when her first child was a boy.  It's not something she is proud of, but it was how she felt.  She couldn't help it.

    However, I can't understand this: 

    imageredshoegirl:

    back when I was first linked to that forum I saw a post by a woman who was seriously considering trying to force miscarriage by doing physically strenuous things because her baby wasn't the gender she wanted - so I could see someone like that using it in an inappropriate way.

     



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  • redshoegirlredshoegirl member
    imageHulaLove:

    However, I can't understand this: 

    imageredshoegirl:

    back when I was first linked to that forum I saw a post by a woman who was seriously considering trying to force miscarriage by doing physically strenuous things because her baby wasn't the gender she wanted - so I could see someone like that using it in an inappropriate way.

     


    Tell me about it. I was SHOCKED when I first read that forum. I mean yes, I understand that you can be legitimately disappointed to find out your LO isn't the gender you were hoping for, but I think some of the posters on that forum have mental issues (not being snide - I mean real, worrying, this-person-needs-therapy issues).

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