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August 2011 Moms
whitney1170
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FB and kids...tell me your thoughts
whitney1170
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DH is in a seminar this week on underage drinking enforcement, and just got done with a class about Facebook. He of course calls me and all but demands that we shut down our FB (extreme, he knows) but he definitely doesn't want pics of the baby on there now. We have our settings on private, you can't white-page us, and we don't "check in" to places, or let people know when we're out of town, or not home. I feel relatively safe on FB, but the weirdos and computer nerds always have their ways.
So now I feel a little torn, of course I'll do anything to protect my family, but not ever putting any pics of her on FB? We have a ton of out of town family and friends that are going to want to see her, and neither of us are big emailers.
What are your feelings on FB? Do you have one? Do you put your kids on there, or no?
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Re: FB and kids...tell me your thoughts
I would definitley do that, and he mentioned not letting our parents post pics also. But he said that if ONE friend isn't "private", and they comment, then everyone can see the pic. You can always delete comments, but still it's a lot of "police-ing" and almost not worth it I guess.
My security settings are super tight... You can't do a name search and find me, I'm selective about who can see my photo galleries, and all of my photo privacy settings are "friends only" so even if someone shares my photos the only people that can see them are people I'm already friends with.
The only concern I have is family members right-click-downloading pictures off of my facebook page and uploading them onto their own, which is something I've had to talk to my mom about on occasion because she doesn't understand that doing that is poor form.
SO here is my POV on the subject... and just for clarification, I used to work with sex offenders and I am VERY familiar with the security issues with FB and such...
I do post pictures of DS and will post pictures of DD when she is born on FB BUT I have people catgorized and I am very specific with who can see pictures of my children. I have my FB blocked to most people and it takes some serious effort to even find me.. I don't have the time to email out photos of the kids all the time and I think that the slight risk out weighs the benefits that our family receives.
I hope that makes sense...
How do you do this besides "friends only"? I've never done much with my facebook besides private settings and not sharing info, since this is my first kid I obviously don't worry too much about my pics.
The key, with Facebook, is to know how it works. The privacy settings can be a little convoluted, but I think anyone with a clear idea of how to use their privacy settings shouldn't feel as if they have to be so paranoid.
I have a Facebook, and I keep it on lockdown. I have pictures of my daughter on there, but I never put her photo as my profile photo. And in order to keep myself and my family protected, I keep a tight rope on my privacy settings.
My friends list is comprised entirely of family and people I actually know. Everything I post is set to only be viewable by those on my friends list. Not friends of friends, or everyone, or whatever. And (stay with me, here) if a mutual friend between me and someone I'm not friends with has any activity on my page, I have it set so that their activity still does not make my content viewable to friends of theirs who I am not friends with. I don't "check in." I didn't fall for the "give Facebook your phone number for account security purposes" trick. Anytime Facebook implements a new setting that puts holes in my privacy, I change it or turn off the feature. It goes on and on.
I mean, I get why people are afraid of Facebook. But honestly, the people whose lives are ruined by Facebook are usually at least a little guilty of not being careful or diligent in keeping up their privacy settings and friends lists. I really believe that if you're going to have a Facebook you need to know how to use it.
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I don't have a FB account. Privacy protection is only one of the reasons.
I text plenty of pictures of my DS1 to family and friends.
i do not have a fb acct. mostly because of privacy concerns but also because it seems like a huge waste of time. dh has plans to run for an elected office in the future, so he asked me to shut mine down a few years ago.
i email photos to my friends and family.
I'm not really worried about posting pics on my account, everything is set to friends only so it is relatively private. If I didn't, there are still plenty of ways that the pics and/or my baby's name would be somewhere online.
I definitely won't make LO an account or let her have one til she is much older. My 13 y/o cousin has had one for a year or two and it really bothers me. I can see her friends' comments with (sometimes) their real picture and full name. That worries me more than posting pics of my baby.
I don't post pix of my DS to FB... it was more of a "keep some things personal and sacred to myself" type of thing to me. I created a family website where I upload pictures and I also email them as well...
Even though I do miss the "likes" and "comments" that are given to pictures. lol.
I try to keep my FB casual and my private life private.
So funny you would mention this. DH and I Have been talking about this for a few weeks now.
We both agree, no pic of LO on FB for many reasons. I barely put pics of myself on FB and now that there is Goggle+ and many of my professional contacts have joined, I am thinking of phasing my FB out any way. I am sort of over the whole FB thing anyway. I have a love/hate relationship with it. It is great for networking but my friends list has sort of gotten out of hand.
We will see what happens.
I do have a problem with family members that post pics of other peoples children/family without asking, though.
When I was a kid you had to come to my house and my mom had to pull out the HUGE photo album before anyone could see our pics. I sort of miss those days.
Now I feel like everyone is so over exposed...
I just had a little talk with my mom about this yesterday - b/c she is addicted to fb! My security settings are such that only certain of my friends can see my pictures, I don't have my birth date, home town, phone number, etc available to anyone to prevent identity left. I also don't want all of my baby's stats available for the same reasons. In addition, I had a friend who I really thought was a good guy who ended up getting in trouble for soliciting sex from a minor. If someone I think I can trust can end up being someone like that...well what about all of my family's fb friends - many of them have way more fb friends than me (b/c I am more selective with who I friend). I have no idea who their friends are, and I don't need them having access to hundreds of pictures of my baby.
I also had a talk with my family about other personal pictures on fb. Yes, I know that many post pics of themselves in their hospital gowns right after the baby's birth - but to me those pictures should be private! It's fine to take them and to keep them for a personal photo album (or stored on a pc NOT linked to the internet) but those pictures are not meant for the world.