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April 2012 Moms
Mrs.Teddy
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Told our parents, dissapointing
Mrs.Teddy
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We decided to tell our parents even tho its early (we told at 5 weeks last time).
My mom had been hinting that I was pregnant and she "knew" it so I wanted to tell her before she ruined it. Too late.
DS walked into the house wearing his big brother shirt and she picked him up said "I knew it" and walked outside! I was like MOM! Thats not a very exciting reaction. She said she was excited but she she just knew that I was pregnant already. She's happy and I'm glad that I"m not able to talk to her about it.
With my ILs, we again had Ds walk in with his big brother shirt on, my FIL played with him for several minutes and even commented that it was too hot out for a long sleeve shirt, finally DH said dad what does his shirt say, he read it but didn't get it. MIL came in the room she read it out loud twice and then said "meaning what?" dh said we are havign another baby! His mother said "oh" and his father said "why you have the boy already no need for more". NICE
I am not letting this upset me. We aren't having children for them. Both of my sisters are very excited and so are we.
I am a little sad that I belive my in laws won't treat another boy as well as they treat L, it was important to them that the name be carried on. And I have seen in their culture (philipino) that the oldest boy is favoured. That makes me really hope this peanut if a girl then she will be the only girl and they will be happy.
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Re: Told our parents, dissapointing
DD #1 born 4/1/2012
My Married Bio
Ouch. You know, there are so many stories of disappointing reactions and they're tough to read about. With my oldest, my (now) husband and I were 25 and just dating at the time and terrified of our family's reactions. They were mostly positive as he and I had and continue to have a great relationship and they were happy to welcome a new family member.....but....there were still some shocked faces and a comment from my uncle about how my husband "did the right thing", meaning married me after knocking me up.
Eh.....I say let 'em hold onto their values. Theirs are theirs and you have different ones. And it would take a hard-hearted individual to not welcome and love a tiny newborn once he/she is here anyway.
I hope your in-laws do warm up to the new baby. Mine still favor their daughter's child over any of their other grandchildren. It's only really obvious at Christmas, so we've been avoiding their big family Christmases the past few years. For example, once they forgot to buy anything for my son and ended up switching the name on one of my nephew's many gifts. Unfortunately, there's a four year age difference and my then 7yo received a toddler toy. You'll have some control though, since they are both your children.
My brother gave me a similar line when I told him I was expecting my twins. He said, "Why are you having another one? You already have the two." Like there's a quota or something?
Do not worry, I am Filipino and I know for sure Filipino grandparents will love their grandkids regardless of who is the oldest or the youngest. As soon as they see your 2nd baby they will fall in love all over again just like how they did with your first born. Some Filipino dad's have dry personalities but only grandkids can make them act differently.
Aww, sending you a big hug!
I know how you feel. My MIL didn't react AT ALL, she gave me a pursed lipped "Congratulations?" And then she rapid fire questioned me about daycare, expenses, and how we planned on breaking the news to my 5 yr old. All the while I'm thinking, "REALLY?!?" I get that being realistic is important, but it's supposed to be a joyful moment for close family.
Some people just don't get it and that is why I am here talking to ladies like yourself who do. Best of luck during your pregnancy
I am sorry to hear this. I experienced the same letdown this weekend when we told our parents.
My mom forgot to even hug me.
My MIL said, "Another baby already? J is still a baby himself and you're having another so soon? Plus there's already a new baby coming soon" (My SIL is due any day now)
And FIL said, "Are you sure you guys are ready for this? It's going to be a lot of money and a lot of work."