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dmndsr4eva
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Does the visitation schedule I am offering sound fair to you?
dmndsr4eva
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My ex fiance broke up with me. The only place I had to go was 1.5 hours away to my sisters house. I moved to her city because of the family support I have there and because I intend to go back to school and get my MBA and the university is in her town.
Of course my ex is angry that I moved so far away. He was under the impression for his own ridiculous reasons that I would stay in the small town we lived in (full of his family with none of mine living nearby and no university or other opportunites that the bigger city will offer me) and just get a place nearby him and share 50/50 custody.
My attorney said that because of the driving distance and because I will remain working only part time that offering my ex one week day over night and every other weekend is appropriate. My ex has agreed to this arrangement temporarily but he hired his own attorney so I assume he is planning to fight for more days. I just don't understand what he is expecting.
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Re: Does the visitation schedule I am offering sound fair to you?
19 months old
I'm thinking that he's expecting something closer to 50/50 custody.
Are you splitting holidays? Summer?
I think it sounds fair and my DS is the same as as your LO. I live 15 minutes from STBXH and we have an EOW (Fri-Sun) and Wednesday PM schedule.
How long have you two been physically separated? How often is he seeing your LO now?
The thought of having to discuss every single holiday and birthday with him is exhausting to me right now. He has other kids and close immediate family so I expect he will be asking me for my son every time there is a birthday, graduation, wedding, etc. He has a huge family and they seem to have a "special" occasion just about every other week. At this point in the game I am not being flexible. If it isn't in a written agreement he can go F himself.
We just barely separated two weeks ago and he agreed to a temporary arrangement of every other weekend and Wednesday nights. But that was before he hired an attorney. It appears he has big plans to get more days than that.
In the past he has basically said that I am an unfit mother because I drink and that he is going to convince a judge of that. However I have discussed in detail with two lawyers my drinking habits and neither was concerned. Especially considering that my ex drinks as well. We are social drinkers and yes over the past two years there have been a few incidents where I drank too much but my son was never with me and my attorney is not concerned.