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Is it rude...

StrunellaStrunella member
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to ask SIL to kindly give us receipts when she buys clothes for DS?  I don't think she has ever given us a receipt and now I'm sorting through lots of cute clothes she gave us awhile ago in Size 12 months (DS' size now) that are for winter.    The red corduroy overalls...so cute...but not in August!
 
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Re: Is it rude...

  • newbee36newbee36 member

    I don't think it is rude, but I would feel uncomfortable asking. I wish I could though, because I have plenty of gifted cloths that are small and I did not receive gift certificates... 

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  • PeppernutPeppernut

    Depends on your sister, really!  You could ask specifically for "gift receipts" and say it's because you'd want to either change sizes or change "seasons," that you looove what she picks up it just won't fit him when he needs it.  I think it can be done without being rude, but it could certainly be a delicate situation!

     

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  • steverstever member
    I agree with Amy in that it depends on your relationship. I'm lucky that people tend to ask what size DS is wearing now or what he'll be wearing in the future. I'm a wuss so if someone gave me the wrong size I'd smile, say thank you then take it to the charity shop.

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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member
    Can you figure out what store she shopped in?  If so, they might let you make an even exchange for a bigger size.  Kohl's is awesome for their no fuss returns like that.
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  • KerryHSKerryHS

    Tough one.  Maybe you could try to let her know obliquely - try the whole story about a "friend".  For instance you can say that a "friend" of yours was just complaining that she probably had to give away over $100 worth of baby clothes because people didn't give her the gift receipt so that she could exchange it for the right size.  Maybe she would get the hint without you having to say something. 

    Either that or say something as soon as you open the gift.  Say " I love the red overalls, but I know that by winter he wil be at least 18 month so I want to exchange them before they run out"....

    Just a thought - really nice that she buys you gifts, but such a shame that they get wasted.  Good luck.

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  • Piranha54Piranha54
    I tend to go a combo of BB and Amy...depending on who it is, I've just asked if they have a gift receipt with an explanation and they've been fine.  If I didn't think they'd be receptive to asking, I've tried returning it places I know they shop - you may have to take a 10-20 percent reduction for returning without a receipt, but...
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  • pahokiepahokie
    imageKerryHS:

    Either that or say something as soon as you open the gift.  Say " I love the red overalls, but I know that by winter he wil be at least 18 month so I want to exchange them before they run out"....

    This sounds like a good idea to try.  I am lucky in that my family generally asks.  If the gifts are for standard gift giving occasions, could you maybe send a preemptive email before the event which includes sizing info?  Or if that is too blatant, just a baby update email with a photo about how big he is getting and that he is already outgrowing his size X stuff? Or something on facebook, if you and your family are on it?

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  • leffe1leffe1
    I have this issue with my mil plus there are no tags on the clothes. I just use what I can and give the rest away. If you feel comfortable enough to ask then go for it.
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  • StrunellaStrunella member

    Thanks for the advice!  Part of the problem is that I'm still learning the sizing game myself.  SIL buys DS things "just because" and sometimes the items are several sizes bigger; I wasn't really good about knowing when DS would actually be wearing things.  Maybe a receipt wouldn't even solve the problem if I'm not realizing until now that something she bought 3 months ago isn't going to fit!  Guess I should have sorted through the "12 month" drawer awhile ago!  Some items do have tags with the store name, so I can try to return them.  Some things are Carter's but I'm not up for trying to solve that mystery.   Someone gave DS a beautiful sweater that will fit him now...guess I can crank up the AC and we can have "winter" in August! HA!

    I do try to slip into conversation..."DS is so big!  He's already in 12 months now!"   I admit that I'm not good with sizing estimates either, but that's why I always give a gift receipt when I buy clothes for others.

     
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  • ateytelbateytelb
    It's a tough one, and I agree with PP's that it all depends on your relationship with SIL.
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