Avoiding being annoying on FB re: kid

etoyama · August 2011

So I have several friends in FB (no one who has gone though IF - they're all "fertiles") who are just super, SUPER annoying about their kids. Like putting up a million pics of them every day and constantly doing status updates about stupid, mundane things like diapers and cutting teeth and rolling over. I guess I just wonder why these people don't get that no one is as interested in their kids as they are. I fear that when I have my child, a switch will be flipped and suddenly I'll become just like them, you know? Does anyone else worry about becoming one of these people?

whispergrrl · August 2011

Totally! I've tried hard not to be "that" person while pregnant. I've only posted a couple belly pics and updates - when lots of people on FB have been asking for them. I don't want to be that annoying person who posts a picture of ever waking (or sleeping) moment of my child and annoys everyone. I hope to find a bit of balance!

I am Marla Singer · August 2011

Stfuparentsblog.com Is one of my favorites! I pledge to never be like the parents I see on that blog! I kinda plan on not even mentioning anything on FB at all, save for a few nice pictures. I vow to try to remember how it felt to be on the other side!

etoyama · August 2011

whispergrrl:
Totally! I've tried hard not to be "that" person while pregnant. I've only posted a couple belly pics and updates - when lots of people on FB have been asking for them. I don't want to be that annoying person who posts a picture of ever waking (or sleeping) moment of my child and annoys everyone. I hope to find a bit of balance!

I've tried to be restrained with the bump pics, too. People keep asking for me to post then but I feel like an AW doing so, so I've mixed a couple into the albums input up so it's not ALL ABOUT the pregnancy. I took a picture the other say and sent it to my mom and she was like "oh I love it! You'd better put it in fb or I'm going to!" I kind of freaked out on her for that!

etoyama · August 2011

I am Marla Singer:
Stfuparentsblog.com Is one of my favorites! I pledge to never be like the parents I see on that blog! I kinda plan on not even mentioning anything on FB at all, save for a few nice pictures. I vow to try to remember how it felt to be on the other side!

Oh I'm going to check this out right now! ETA: This is my new favorite blog. Brilliant!

kthappy76 · August 2011

I think we all have these friends. It's one of my least favorite things about FB, that it just brings out the most annoying traits in people. They were like that before, but FB puts it in your face. Sometimes I want to tell people they should really start a blog when they are posting so many times a day about pointless things and see how many people follow it, we really don't want to know everytime your kid has a BM, or you eat a turkey sandwich.

Yellow_Daisy · August 2011

I could be one of those parents now...ha ha ha! I just can't help myself, I love to post pics of my little guy Embarrassed .

ETA: I don't post a ton of status updates about him, but I do post a lot of pics. That said I don't have a ton of friends on FB, most are family or really close friends and if I wasn't posting them on FB I would be emailing pics to them so FB just makes it easier.

ShannonSky · August 2011

Yeah, I think I'm one of those people and it's only gotten worse with this pregnancy. My life pretty much revolves around my kids right now, if I didn't post about them, I'd have nothing to say. Besides, I figure if people find me annoying, they can easily de-friend me or take me out of their news feeds.

JennPierog · August 2011

I have a friend who is just as pregnant as me and will not stop talking about it on FB. I'm not out on FB and will not be for a long time. I May have To delete her because it's driving me nuts! The play by Play of here very early pregnancy is stupid!

Imanurse03 · August 2011

Yes, those type of people drive me crazy! I really don't care what your child's vomit or bowel movement looked like! I tend to hide those ppl on FB and I hope I'm not like that. I think I'd use more discretion than that.

Melicakes · August 2011

Hmmm I do post a lot of pg things on fb but I think it's in a refined way so as not to annoy? I post a weekly bump pic and occasionally pics of baby stuff I've bought. But I definitely am not posting everysingleday about everysinglething lol

NicoleeBonsai · August 2011

yes, i definitely worry about that. i have a good friend who always teases me about the same thing - that somehow after giving birth a switch is flipped and you become a wack-ado with your FB posts.

i have weaned myself from FB posts over the last year+. for a long time i didn't have anything i wanted to share with everyone (gee, the lobby at the fertility clinic is really full this morning!). and that sort of got me out of the habit, so i'm hoping that continues when the babies are here.

but etoyama, you are way too cool to do that crap

Mrs. Mo · August 2011

Personally, I think pictures are ok .... as long as they are not posted daily. I have relatives all over the country and they are always begging to see my belly or how the nursery is progressing. I think I've only posted a handful of belly pics, though ( and no bare belly ones).

Now, what I find really annoying is the TMI posts about their baby/child. I do not need to know that your child had a diaper blowout, is projectile vomiting, wrote on the walls with it's sh!t, spent 5 hours on the potty (attempting to train them) only to have them crap themselves 5 minutes later, etc. If it's a status about a milestone or something cute they did, fine, but I don't want to log onto FB and practically puke from reading some of the status'.

Ya Never Know · August 2011

I am Marla Singer:
Stfuparentsblog.com Is one of my favorites! I pledge to never be like the parents I see on that blog! I kinda plan on not even mentioning anything on FB at all, save for a few nice pictures. I vow to try to remember how it felt to be on the other side!

Why haven't I seen this blog before?!??? You just made my day!!

scooterq · August 2011

Yes!! And I worry about this now. I have some FB friends who were extremely annoying pregnant people. Posting daily updates about every little ache, pain, every aspect if their pregnancy, etc. I've tried really hard to not be that person. I don't want to be disrespectful of my IF or annoying to any of my friends haha

lyse2143 · August 2011

I think pictures are fine. I mean who doesn't love pictures of a cute babe? However, I know what you mean re: the status updates. I really don't care about what they are posting 9 times out of 10. Oh you didn't get any sleep because you're kids have teeth coming in? Well I didn't get any sleep because my back hurts (true whether or not I'm pg). I bet they don't care about why I didn't sleep anymore than I do about their reason.

I kind of have a pet peeve too about kids being your profile pic on fb. I mean its YOUR page, not theirs, so keep your own identity!

kthappy76 · August 2011

lyse2143:

I kind of have a pet peeve too about kids being your profile pic on fb. I mean its YOUR page, not theirs, so keep your own identity!

Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this. A pic w/you and the babe is perfectly fine, but just the kid?

MrsVo · August 2011

Honestly, I think some people are just FB annoying, no matter what their stage in life. I've got younger friends so who post every mundane detail of their day and then I have coworkers nearing retirement age that do the same thing. I mostly just hide them.

Jessiree · August 2011

I think about this a lot actually. I'm still not out on FB and have promised myself I'll never post belly pictures. Pictures where I'm doing stuff or are somewhere with a belly, fine, but not just belly pics.

I have a friend with a two year old who has seriously 700 pictures of her daughter up - and her daughter is continually her profile pic. I think once this baby comes, I'll try to limit to posting new pictures once a month or so - and I'll keep my own picture as my profile pic. I think doing those two things will keep me from being an annoying FB person.

pink100 · August 2011

JennPierog:
I have a friend who is just as pregnant as me and will not stop talking about it on FB. I'm not out on FB and will not be for a long time. I May have To delete her because it's driving me nuts! The play by Play of here very early pregnancy is stupid!

I know someone who did a play by play of her pregnancy at like 4 weeks. I swear I think she POAS and got a + and posted on FB she was pregnant, then slowing "belly" pics started showing up at 5 weeks with her nephew touching her "bump". Sadly it ended it m/c at her first OB appt. I just dont understand the obsession with FB!

patchen30 · August 2011

I think IF has scared me sufficiently that I won't even be that person. I agree that those people are so annoying!

ladychicago · August 2011

I think it is great that you are thinking about it! Because I have to try very hard and be very deliberate about not posting about Anna all the time. The truth is, they DO become your life! And it is the most amazing moment when you see your child hit a major milestone, and you DO want to shout it from the rooftops! So I just take a moment to think twice about what I post. I did update about her first tooth and first steps, and do update on random funny things she does. But I draw the line at potty talk and daily child-related posts. I save it for the big stuff and don't do it daily.

DeputiesWife · August 2011

I try so hard not to be THAT person. I am very sensitive to my audience.

I think if you are aware of it and that you dont want to be like that - you definitely wont.

while those things are big deals and all -- theres a time and place for them, a journal perhaps or email to your nearest and dearest or a text to your mom. That is JMHO.

alexvause · August 2011

I dont know, I try to take it with a grain of salt. People post about what is going on in their lives... vacations, family, jobs, kids... I only get annoyed when someone is complaining all the time or super negative, I never get upset over baby/kid stuff

cbubbles2 · August 2011

I seriously want to try and avoid being that mother!

lmc5004 · August 2011

Once your LO is here you wont be able to help but post pictures and talk about him/her. Especially at the beginning your whole life revolves around them and you really wont have anything else to say. Trust me once your a mom everything changes!!!

I too hate when people complain about pregnancy on facebook when they should just be thankful but posting pics of the baby or mentioning them is just the person being honest about whats going on in their life.

periwnkl10 · August 2011

lmc5004:

Once your LO is here you wont be able to help but post pictures and talk about him/her. Especially at the beginning your whole life revolves around them and you really wont have anything else to say. Trust me once your a mom everything changes!!!

I too hate when people complain about pregnancy on facebook when they should just be thankful but posting pics of the baby or mentioning them is just the person being honest about whats going on in their life.

This. I'm totally guilty of it! Can't. Stop. Posting. About. Baby.!!!!!!! Haha I hope it's not too obnoxious for anyone on fb, but when every detail about your life revolves around your new baby it's hard to post about anything else!

ladyprof · August 2011

This is what I'm planning on doing - creating a free blog with tons of pictures, etc. on it for family and friends. Announce the babies on facebook when they are born with their names and all data, and list the blog. If people want to come follow the blog and get more, then great, but I'm not spamming the world if I can help it.

LaneCA · August 2011

I agree that you should know your audience. If your FB friends are mainly close friends and family, then post away. But I have lots of single friends, work colleagues, etc -- so I want to nurture those relationships too w/ non-baby posts. Plus, for the friends that post non-stop about baby, I just glaze over their stuff now. Unfortunately, milestones get lost in the hour-by-hour, play-by-play.

kthappy76 · August 2011

ladyprof:
This is what I'm planning on doing - creating a free blog with tons of pictures, etc. on it for family and friends. Announce the babies on facebook when they are born with their names and all data, and list the blog. If people want to come follow the blog and get more, then great, but I'm not spamming the world if I can help it.

This is such a great idea!

September2007 · August 2011

Are you talking about me? Wink I posted about the twins sleeping 6+ hours overnight the past two nights... Are you sure it isn't me??? HA!!!

Hope you're still feeling well, girlie!

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