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December 2011 Moms
Keeping the name secret?
My husband and I are planning to keep the name we've chosen a secret until the birth. We decided this before we even knew what we were having or picked the name. Is anyone else doing this? If so, are you facing any opposition?
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Re: Keeping the name secret?
I've got a couple senarios:
1-We might change our mind
2-I don't want to have to deal with any opposition or open the door for discussion on what they think we should name the kid.
3-We're team green--so it will be a surprise til the end anyway!
We are keeping the name a secret.
Mainly because we don't want any unsolicited advice and don't want people to try and get us to pick another name. We like it, and that's all that matters! Once the baby is here they'll obviously find out and then hopefully not think much of the name. Our name isn't weird or anything, but I don't think it's everyone's style.
The only person who has had a problem with it is my grandma. She's a funny lady and I love her but she keeps pestering me about it! I finally gave in and told her what our girl name would have been, and that seemed to tie her over, for now anyways!
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This. We want to avoid unsolicited opinions. I know some people would never say anything about the name, but there are others in our family who might. I just don't anyone saying something that might ruin the name for us. We told everyone the sex and just said we have a list of names but won't decide for sure until he's born. Which is true. We may change our minds.
We aren't facing opposition but we aren't letting people know that we already have the real name picked out.
Why aren't we telling? Lots of reasons: to have a little bit something extra that is just between us for a few months, it is fun to tease our young (teen) nieces with potential bad names ...like Belle and Taco.
THIS
No one has really given us a hard time about keeping the name a secret. People always ask if we have a name picked out, and I just smile and say something like "You'll just have to wait until he introduces himself in December" or "you already know we're having a boy, we want to keep something a secret".
I could certainly share my short list....of which is a name that could work for a boy and a girl. But who knows, between here and December I could run into a lil $hit that might ruin it all for me.
THIS THIS THIS!!!!!!! I teach high school and have 5 classes with about 30 students each so that's a lot of names! I've never come across anyone with the name we picked and I am PRAYING that when I get my rosters in a couple of weeks that I won't!!
We did not, and now I wish we had. I didn't realize people would be that openly judgmental about names- even if I didn't like someones choice it would never cross my mind to actually say so to their face. DH's mom comments on our choice every time we see her, and suggests things she likes better. I had one girl at work ask me excitedly what her name was, and when we told her she just said "oh." and her face dropped. I was not prepared for such reactions to a normal name- it's not like we went with Bertha Gertrude, or Areeiayannahleighannah Youneek.
Her name is Alexa Nicole. Not your style? Totally fine. Don't name your kid that. But don't ask if you're not going be respectful of our choice.
All future children will be announced after they're born.
Oh you poor girl! That's got to be tough!! I know when my husband suggests a name....I always double check it with who the troublemakers or {dare I say dweebs} were in my school. Instant "deny" in some cases!
We're team green and have both a girl's and boy's name picked out, but won't be sharing with anyone.
My parents changed my name before I was born because one of my grandmas was really rude about it and continued to talk about how much she hated it until they changed it. I don't want to have to deal with any of that! Once the name is attached to an adorable little infant it's much harder to say you hate the name (at least to my face anyways!).
Exactly!
DH and I are taking this a step further.
We know the sex of LO but are continuing to play "team green". We don't want unwanted advice or opinions on things...especially the name. I feel like once you say the name people always have a comment about "so and so is named that" or "oh.....did you consider ________ for a name?". We didn't want a flood of pink or a flood of blue. Also I feel like once you let out the sex people start demanding a name.
I hate when people find out the sex and tell the name. Then there's nothing to exciting to learn when LO is here. It's like "we're having a boy, and naming him john" then "john is here". And then if you change your mind about the name when LO arrives....
If that's the way the parents choose to do it, great. But it's just not for us. I like as much better DH and I as far as planning as possible...it is OUR baby.
So far playing oblivious to the sex has kept down the amount of nosieness about names, nursery ideas, etc. I hate when people force topics that aren't any of their business. If I wish to tell though, great!
I think it's all a personal choice. If you want to keep the name a secret good for you! It's your baby and your exciting news. Let it out when you feel the time is right!
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We're team green and not sharing our name choices. I've only faced opposition from one person- one of DH's friends who said we were being inconsiderate to everyone not to share (still don't get this- why would he think he needs to know ahead of time? does this guy have delusions that he has veto power over the name?).
Earlier this summer, two of my cousins had babies. They both found out the sex and told the name ahead of time. It was a bit anti-climactic when the babies were finally born because everyone had been hearing about these two babies forever (and saying things about the name choices behind their backs). So this cemented in my mind that there was no way we were going to share with anyone ahead of time. If they don't like the name after the fact, then tough, but as a PP pointed out, it's much harder to dislike the name when it's attached to a little baby.
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I dont see the point in keeping it a secret.
People are going to give unsolicited advice about a million things baby and parenting related, if they want to critique my names, that is perfectly fine with me. Everyone has different taste and some will like your name and some wont- regardless of when they find it out.
This! But it seems we're in the minority. I also don't get it when people say the birth will seem anticlimactic...really, having a new life coming into this world isn't exciting enough. I don't think it makes it any more special to announce the sex/name at the time of birth.
My mom didn't like the girl name we picked, my MIL didn't like the boy name we picked. We said we liked them and that was that. Let it roll off your back! (though the PP comment on how her name was "gay and nerdy" was competely absurd and that person has absolutely no class and/or manners!)
We are also keeping our baby's name a secret until birth. We're excited about it! It's nice to keep one thing to ourselves. All of our friends want to know all the details and it feels great to be loved and cared about. It's also nice to remember that this is our new family coming together and it's intimate too.
The same reasons some of you girls have listed above also apply. We are pretty attached to a particular name but if we see her and it doesn't fit or something else comes to mind, we don't want to change the game.
I have a SIL that tells me she HAS to know Baby's name before she's born because she makes children's clothing and wants to monogram things. I told her that maybe it can be "our thing"; that she's the only one to know the name beforehand but what if we change it? I'm going to have to tell her that we're choosing to keep the name utterly private. She can monogram later and it will be just as special!
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my first boyfriend's last name was Barrett and I like it so much. I thought about suggesting it for this little one but thought it wouldn't really be appropriate.
and btw that guy was anything BUT gay and nerdy! (my bad boy faze)
I want to keep our name a secret because MIL already hated the girl name we had picked out and she didn't hold back telling me about it either! Also my best friend told me all her opinions on my name list and i was shocked because she isn't usually like that. So I told DH not to tell anyone the name we picked because we are NOT changing it! Then when we found out it was a boy he called his mom to tell her and told her the name right away! ugh! She asked what we were going to call him for short. His name is already one syllable how much shorter do you want?!
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We are keeping the name a secret.
The main reason is because we don't want any opinions from people. The other reason is because I hate when others refer to the baby by name before its born. It's just a pet peeve of mine.
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We are keeping our name a secret because we don't want to hear their opinions - and they ALL have opinions! We dont want to hear about how much you hate the name and how we are mean for choosing it.
to answer the original post, we just tell people we are working on it and haven't found one we like yet - stops the questions and gets people to leave you alone
We are keeping the name a secret and everyone we say that to has responded positively and those w/kids said they wish they had done the same.
The way I see it is, the sex is only one of two options, so not a huge surprise. The name however, could be ANYTHING! I think it is so special when I know a baby is about to be born but I don't know their name, makes for much for anticipation. When my SIL was PG she & my BIL contstantly referenced the boys by name and when they were born, there was no element of surprise whatesover.
I am not telling people the names we picked out, because we dont know which ones on the list we will use or what the sexes of the babies are. So I just tell people that.
I HATE when I ask someone if they have a name picked out and they say "Yes, but its a surprise" What a bullshit answer! If someone told me that they dont want to share because they dont want to hear opinions on it, or that they arent sure, or whatever, I can respect that. But the surprise thing gets the evil side eye from me every time!
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We won't be sharing, mostly because we don't have names. We are team green and firmly believe that we need to meet our LO before we name him/her. With LO#1 we had a totally different name picked out at first, and I'm glad we went with Anders. I don't think that not sharing will necessarily avoid all "snarky" comments-my MIL said a few gems at first, but now she "LOVES Anders' name!!!" (what a nut....) but we see no need to go on and on about our names if we don't even know what we may name LO ourselves.
Yes, we have name Ideas, but by ideas, I mean we have about 20+ options we trow around on occasion.