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September 2011 Moms
I'm not surprised! (Mom vent)
So I mentioned before that I am really not into my mother since I had a tumultuous childhood with her. She has/had financial issues, she was abusive, manipulative, etc. But with her first grandchild coming along, DH insists that we give her a chance to redeem herself.
She works in a retail store so she insisted that we not buy any clothes for the baby. She claims that she bought tons of clothes. We didn't even put clothes on our registry because she bought everything. Well, we are a month before due date and we have not seen one ounce of clothes from her. LUCKILY, DH's coworker bought us a cute outfit really early in the pregnancy. So we only have one outfit so far for LO if he/she happens to arrive early.
I should have known not to trust her. I'm shocked that I haven't seen the clothes yet because she's a shopaholic/hoarder who will neglect paying household bills just to feed her shopping habit. So is she just collecting the clothes and letting it pile up in her house? And to be honest, I don't even want to ask her about it because I didn't want her help in the first place but DH insisted that we give her a chance!
SO ANNOYING! That is why I prefer to not deal with her.
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Re: I'm not surprised! (Mom vent)
Well, she may be hoarding them...or she may have just told you that she bought alot of stuff just to make you happy. Either way, i would go out and buy some clothes for LO, if she really does come through and give you a ton of stuff, then you have extras! Other than that, if your mother is so stressful, then i say dont deal with her. Just going by what you have written here, it seems like the ONLY reason she is in your life right now is because of the baby. And IMO that is wrong, she should redeem herself to YOU first, then small steps can be taken to involve her in LOs life.
Again, this is only my opinion, not my mother but other family members have been a total @$$ throughout my life and then expect to be in my children's lives and i tell them no way! If you did XYZ to me, what would you do with my child??? But only you can make that decision since you know the whole story and how you feel.
Correct! I totally do not want her involved in my or lil one's life but I'm giving in to what DH wants. Simply because he lost his mom and his biggest heartache right now is that our child will not know his paternal grandmother. So he really wants to make an effort with my mother for lil' one's sake.
I will go out and buy some clothes at a resale shop to hold us over for a short while because waiting on good ol' mom is a waste of time. It is funny how people make promises that they can't keep when no one even asked them for help.
It reminds me of something my close friend vented to me about when she was planning her wedding. There were a number of people volunteering to do things for her wedding and then they would never follow through. In the 11th hour, most things she had to do herself. And she never even asked for their help in the first place! aarrgghh...some people!