:( Just found out what teachers the kids will have.

L D · August 2011

I requested the girls to have the same teacher Landon had last year for a few reasons. I know her previously, really like her, the girls have met & really like her, I like how she was with Landons class last year. Im debating calling on Monday and asking to have them switched. That would make that classroom 20 and one 16 and another 17 so I doubt they will.

Also, Landon is going to be devastated. It took him 1/2 the year to make a really close friend and they have had countless play dates & sleepovers since school has let out. They are not in the same class. Luckily I read him the list and he does recognize a few of the boys and several girls. There is one boy though that he had a bit of a problem following his bad behavior that is in his class this year. Landon is a follower so I wil have to work on teaching him about not doing things that he knows are wrong even if others are.

Just had to vent. A little less excited about school starting now.

DandRAgain · August 2011

you want them together? They probably didn't want to put them together and then didn't want to have one with the teacher you like and the other one not, you know?

I wouldn't mess with it. I'm sure the other teachers will be fine. It's probably a bad way to start the year if you are calling and complaining about placements.

Zenya · August 2011

Do you actively dislike the teacher they got? Or you just don't know her? Unless you hate her I don't think I'd ask. Or maybe it's just in our SD where they really discourage that!

mlm1128 · August 2011

My brothers were never allowed by the schools to be in the same class growing up. It was too difficult for teachers to a) tell them apart and b) infiltraste the twin bond. They were together for about the first week of Kindergarten and then they were moved and never placed together again.

caitlinsmom · August 2011

I really never understand why people get upset and want to switch teachers before the school year even starts. I could understand if YOU (not some friend of a friend) had a bad experience with a teacher but people just don't give teachers a chance before they complain.

The teacher the girls have may turn out to be a better teacher than L had and you won't know that if you switch them.

As for L not being in his friend's class, I wouldn't let that bother me either, just because they are not in the same class doesn't mean that they won't be friends. DD was not in the same class as any of her close friends last year and they all stayed friends plus she made some new friends.

Take a deep breath and let the school year start, if you still have issues after a week or so then make a phone call.

shopgirl78 · August 2011

I agree about the teacher for girls. I wouldn't call--it appears you don't have any experience with the teacher and she may end up being a kick butt teacher and it makes you look like *that* mom. I loved DD's PreK teacher and at the parents meeting prior to school starting, I got a bad first impression of her K teacher but she turned out to be awesome. (I seriously think she was hired that day or the day before : )

I prayed DD wasn't in her BFFs class last year and you know what, she was. The teacher had them sitting next to each other also. At parent's night, I suggested she separate them (she did). But having DD's BFF in the class, I think hurt her conduct score...so it may turn out to be a good thing your son's friend isn't in the class. Plus, it gives him the opportunity to learn new friends.

UGAbride · August 2011

I really agree with some of the other posters about just seeing how things go, especially if you really don't know anything bad/negative personally about the teachers they got. You could end up really loving this teacher!! And as far as Landon not being with his buddy, I think it's a great way to make even more friends, while of course keeping up with the "old." Sounds like this is probably still going to be a great year

summerbrideDC · August 2011

caitlinsmom:
I really never understand why people get upset and want to switch teachers before the school year even starts. I could understand if YOU (not some friend of a friend) had a bad experience with a teacher but people just don't give teachers a chance before they complain.
The teacher the girls have may turn out to be a better teacher than L had and you won't know that if you switch them.
As for L not being in his friend's class, I wouldn't let that bother me either, just because they are not in the same class doesn't mean that they won't be friends. DD was not in the same class as any of her close friends last year and they all stayed friends plus she made some new friends.
Take a deep breath and let the school year start, if you still have issues after a week or so then make a phone call.

This. Please don't let your kids see that you're upset over who their teachers are. That's a sure way for them to feel anxious and unhappy from the get-go. And if you don't know for a fact that this teacher is a horrible teacher, I can't imagine being this upset about it. Kids need to be resilient and adaptive to their environment (barring a truly awful teacher/student pairing); a parent who's upset that they didnt' get the "right" teacher isn't really modeling those qualities.

AnnapolisLari · August 2011

So Landon had a good experience with that teacher. Fabulous. You daughters are different people. They may not get along with her at all in a classroom situation. Kids are completely different people at school than they are at home or with parents.

I never knew a set of twins that were allowed to be in the same class. They need opportunities to be away from their twins to succeed and fail on their own.

I wouldn't call. Like people said, it would make you 'that mom'.

gibs · August 2011

Whoa, what a control freak micromanager YOU are!

patty78 · August 2011

I am a twin and they would not put twins in the same class at all in grade school. We started having a few classes together in middle school. I think from experience it is good to have them in differenct classes so they meet new people.

L D · August 2011

For Kindergarten parents of older siblings are allowed to request to have the same teacher.

There is a state law in Va that protects parents/children and leaves it up to them to decided if they should be together or split. I talked to the preschool teachers in depth about how they were together and never in 2 years was it a problem. They had their own circle of friends, sat at different tables for lunch and really were never together unless one got hurt/upset/sick. I asked my girls if they wanted to be in the same class or not. They said yes. Plus it makes it easier to do their homework. We can work on it together instead of them having different hw. None of the 3 classrooms were working on the same stuff last year. Plus for things like class parties, plays, birthdays, class trips etc it is easier to do 1 class and not 2. Esp since they do some things the exact same time/day. I cant split in two and would always be missing ones party or whatever. If it becomes a problem I will split them. I dont see it happening though. I may be wrong and eat my words later. Im cool with that. They just really wanted to be in the same class.

Im not worried about who their teacher is as much as it sounded in the op. I had just read the list and was posting on the emotions that were pumping through as I read it. Ive thought about it and its ok. I know their teacher is a good one, she has been there for years and Ive never heard anything bad about her. I do give a teacher a chance before judging. I was mainly sad because I just really love Ls teacher. She used to teach with my gma, I had her and am really just familiar with her. Im not knocking the other teacher, just my girls had met her a few times and have talked about her all summer. Im sure we will all love their teacher just as much.

I have not told L about his bf yet. Im not going to because I know him...he will worry about it every day until then. I havent said anything negative to the kids about any of it.

Im ok now. Just had to take a little bit of time to process and think about it.

mommyof4boys · August 2011

Coming in late. I can understand where you are upset that the girls didn't get the same teacher as your son. As far as the girls being in the same room or not...your choice. IF you think it is in the best interests to do that, they have to honor it. We fought hard and kept our twins in the same room for preschool and kindergarten. This year they will be started kindergarten and we have them in the same class. Next year may be different just because Jon's language skills aren't as strong as Matthew's are. They may need to be in different rooms because of their different abilities.

My boys have different friends, play with different toys, don't sit together in class and don't depend on each other for work. It is more of a "security" thing to know that the other is near.

Bride2b2004 · August 2011

Especially when children are young, it is totally understandable that parents will be anxious and worried about placement, teacher assignment and other kids in the class. Since you just had a preference for the teacher you know (rather than information that made you think the assigned teacher is bad), I think you made the right decision to not call and see how it goes. But I totally understand your initial reactions. We all have feelings like that from time to time.