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May 2011 Moms
Did you get something from DH after delivery?
So on my previous post some of you ladies wrote that you?ve gotten rings from your husbands after the baby was born. Who else got something??
I got getting up at night to feed her and change her and him leaving again after she was four weeks....I?d rather have gotten a piece of jewlery lol
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Re: Did you get something from DH after delivery?
On your example, I've gotten every night feeding and getting up EVER but that's ok because we're EBFing and I'd rather feed than pump in the wee hours.
But on a nicer note, our anniversary was July 18th, and DH gave me a beautiful locket engraved with "Thank you for carrying our hearts. Love, ..." with their initials. It made me cry.
*puts on flame retardant suit*
For literally our entire 10 year relationship I have told DH that I want an eternity band with LO's birthstone, one for each LO and I would stack them on my right ring finger. So far, he never got it for me for this baby. First he tried to get it for Mother's Day (went shopping the day before for an hour...) and then played semantics that I wasn't a mother (I was 39w). Then, when I said I had wanted it not just for being a mother/Mother's Day but for sacrificing my body for this baby (flame on but I feel that way), he said "Well then buy it yourself".
Let's just say that bitter doesn't even come close to how I feel about the situation. I am overwhelmingly jealous of the ladies whose DHs listened to them and got them a token of gratitude.
I'm right there with you! My DH is great in so many ways, but he is completely lacking the gift giving gene. He CANNOT TAKE A HINT. And by hint, I mean, he will not listen when I literally print out pictures of the exact items I want and tell him that they better be under the Christmas tree, lol.
I buy all of my own gifts. Even when I tell him the exact bag or something that I want, he'll be like, "Just go to Coach and pick it out. I don't want to get the wrong one." How are you going to get the wrong one? You have a picture of it!
I tried to explain the whole Mothers Day thing to DH even know I was 39 weeks. I gave up trying. IMO, you were a mom and so was I!
I would have loved if he was thoughtful enough to buy a card, either for mothers day or when I delivered, but that was a no go.
My DH is the same way. I took him to the jewelry store before Mother's Day and showed him what I wanted. I wanted a necklace where I could add birthstone charms for each child. I got lotion. With a promise that he would massage me. With twinfants, can you imagine how often that happens? If I ask, he complains. When I pout, he gets angry and sometimes will. Some gift!
I guess what really burns me up is I really try to get him thoughtful gifts that he'll love. For his first Father's Day, he got a grill. And a nice grill, at that. Grill vs lotion...hmm...I've thought of giving him a crappy gift for our anniversary or his birthday, but I never have the heart. Maybe, after getting piles more of crappy gifts, I'll try it once and see what happens!
All of this... I had told him flat out for 10 years, for realz, what I wanted for a baby. Yes, including recently. My best friend mediated and also told him what to get. And he pulls the "I might get the wrong thing" card, too. Have I mentioned that he works about a 10 minute walk from Tiffanys? THE Tiffanys?! F-ing go in there with a picture of what I want and get it! I know that is really biitchy but come on, this isn't rocket science.
And I second that I get him really nice gifts. Since DD was born I have gotten him a father's day gift, a bday gift and yeah, I skipped the anniverary because I was tapped on ideas (these were all in 4 weeks). I at least got him a nice card, he got me a godiva chocolate bar and bought a card that I never received. When I ask him what he wants for occasions he says "you usually figure out something really good for me"... Yes, I do, so why can't you go get me something I've flat out told you I want? No thought involved!
*dies*
I got a diamond and emerald celebration ring. (elisbu - no PIP, it's getting resized right now, picking it up tomorrow). He wanted to get me this for mother's day but I didn't feel comfortable getting a MD gift yet since she wasn't born. I was terrified it would jinx something.
DH is an awesome gift giver. I'm the one that sucks at it. = (
That makes ME cry, how sweet!
I would cut him... = (
I never mentioned a "push present" to my DH, he just got it for me. He did ask what the May birthstone was though.
My DH was great.... He bought me emerald earrings and necklace. BUT.... I also had my son ON my birthday, so it is an extra special day and the May birthstone means so much more to us now.
I'm the opposite of all you ladies here. I am HORRIBLE at gift giving and my husband always chooses the best things for me. I never know what to get him!
I got new stairs before the baby was born...as DH jokes. Our basement stairs were made of death and we got them replaced pre-baby. For our anniversary/ my birthday I got a Pandora bracelet and for changing all the poopy diapers I got a charm.
My mother's day gift was bringing baby home from the hospital, however DH did get me a card...but forgot to sign it. Oh well.
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BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
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I think the least thoughtful gift I've received over the years was a set of computer speakers (and no sooner did I open the box did he say, "Since you don't really need good speakers on your computer, I'll take those and you can take my old ones.")
Maybe I should stop complaining that he makes me buy my own gifts now?
Oh well, what can ya do?
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DH has been failing lately when it comes to gifts, although in the past he has done well. We've never really had a ton of money, so we usually lean more towards thoughtful small things, so for a 'new daddy' gift I bought him "Just me and my Dad" by Mercer Mayer and I made him a nice card with a special note in it.
He knew that I had gotten him a gift for the baby's birth and STILL didn't even get me a card or flowers. When I gave him my gift on the day of our daughter's birth, he opened it and then said, "I guess I should have got you something, huh?"
Nice, honey.
He also told me that he had something special planned for mothers day (I was 39 weeks) and I made a comment like "you didn't have to do anything, we don't even have a baby yet" but I was excited anyway. Well, I guess he took my comment seriously and cancelled whatever he had planned and went fishing instead, but didn't tell me that he had cancelled. I waited all day for the special something and it never came. It sucked.
me too!!!
I got some neat stuff for Mothers day too.
he bought me a pair of sunglasses that i had been lusting after.
lol, a little unconventional, but i was happy!
That is a really sweet and thoughtful gift!
we have joint checking and we can't afford a piece of jewelry...plus, I'm not a jewelry wearer.
He did get me a bouquet of flowers for Mother's Day. In that bouquet he put in the flowers that made up my wedding bouquet.
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