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My first OOT trip since the baby was born - question

SigmundsGirlSigmundsGirl
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I have to go on a business trip next week and this is the first time I have been away from the baby for longer than the work day. He'll be home with DH in the mornings and at night and at daycare during the day.

DH usually drops DS off at daycare and I pick him up, unless there is a meeting conflict and then we switch. I leave Tuesday afternoon, so DH and I were thinking maybe I should take DS to daycare so I could spend a little more time with him (maybe 30 min more) in the morning before I leave.

So here is my weird question: Do you think it will be weird for DS if I drop him off at daycare and then he doesn't see me again for another 4 days?

I am probably just over thinking it. I am going to try to do Skype calls once an evening while I am gone so he can see me, but I know I will really miss him. I feel even worse since he doesn't understand the concept of going on a trip yet.

Any advice?

Dx: PCOS and short luteal phase
18 cycles (3 with our RE) - Metformin + Clomid + HCG booster did the trick!
BFP #1 6/22/09 EDD: 3/2/10 DS born: 3/8/10

TTC #2 since Dec 2011
BFP #2 7/8/12 EDD: 3/18/12 M/C @ 9w1d: 8/16/12

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Re: My first OOT trip since the baby was born - question

  • laurouralauroura
    My E is younger but DH and I have both been on OOT trips at some point or another. If your E likes a routine and doesn't respond well to change, then I would let DH drop him off. If he seems to be okay if things are different, I say take him and give him extra snuggly hugs when you drop him off.
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  • starlettedirstarlettedir member

    imagelauroura:
    My E is younger but DH and I have both been on OOT trips at some point or another. If your E likes a routine and doesn't respond well to change, then I would let DH drop him off. If he seems to be okay if things are different, I say take him and give him extra snuggly hugs when you drop him off.

    ditto.

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  • SigmundsGirlSigmundsGirl

    Thanks, y'all. He is hit or miss with change, so I think I'll take the extra time with him.

    I'm also going to try to talk with him about it throughout the weekend and Monday. Just little things like, "mommy is going on an airplane" (which he loves) and that he and daddy will have fun together. He probably won't understand, but I'll feel better about it.

    Dx: PCOS and short luteal phase
    18 cycles (3 with our RE) - Metformin + Clomid + HCG booster did the trick!
    BFP #1 6/22/09 EDD: 3/2/10 DS born: 3/8/10

    TTC #2 since Dec 2011
    BFP #2 7/8/12 EDD: 3/18/12 M/C @ 9w1d: 8/16/12

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  • laurouralauroura
    imageSigmundsGirl:

    Thanks, y'all. He is hit or miss with change, so I think I'll take the extra time with him.

    I'm also going to try to talk with him about it throughout the weekend and Monday. Just little things like, "mommy is going on an airplane" (which he loves) and that he and daddy will have fun together. He probably won't understand, but I'll feel better about it.

    I always tell E all the things he needs to remind daddy to do (bath, dinner, diaper changes, etc). :) 

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  • kreeper611kreeper611 member

    I would take the time to drop him off.

    I go OOT quite often for work.  I've never told C that I was leaving - I just don't think he grasps the concept of time.  Especially if the routine is the same, like daycare and all.  DS will go to the bathroom and look for me, but J tells him that I'm at work and he moves on.

    It will be harder on you than it will be on him!  I am good the first 2 days, day 3 gets a little tougher but by day 4 I'm ready to see my baby!  I haven't Skyped with him, but I do talk on the phone.  Although last time I realized that it just confused him and J said that he kept looking for me all night.  The next evening I didn't bother because I didn't want him upset.

    Hopefully you'll be busy with work and the time will go quickly.  Plus, enjoy the sleep!  The big comfy bed, the room service.  I try to enjoy the fun stuff and it makes it a lot easier if I'm enjoying myself than if I complain about being gone.

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  • JamicanBrideJamicanBride
    imagekreeper611:

    I would take the time to drop him off.

    I go OOT quite often for work.  I've never told C that I was leaving - I just don't think he grasps the concept of time.  Especially if the routine is the same, like daycare and all.  DS will go to the bathroom and look for me, but J tells him that I'm at work and he moves on.

    It will be harder on you than it will be on him!  I am good the first 2 days, day 3 gets a little tougher but by day 4 I'm ready to see my baby!  I haven't Skyped with him, but I do talk on the phone.  Although last time I realized that it just confused him and J said that he kept looking for me all night.  The next evening I didn't bother because I didn't want him upset.

    Hopefully you'll be busy with work and the time will go quickly.  Plus, enjoy the sleep!  The big comfy bed, the room service.  I try to enjoy the fun stuff and it makes it a lot easier if I'm enjoying myself than if I complain about being gone.

    Yeah, I would not even bother doing this.  I just think at their age, the Skyping or calling is more for the parents than the kids.  Eden will hear my voice and she will freak out and start looking for me.  As the kids get older that's one thing, but for now, I think it's almost more disruptive for the babies.

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  • SigmundsGirlSigmundsGirl
    imageJamicanBride:
    imagekreeper611:

    I would take the time to drop him off.

    I go OOT quite often for work.  I've never told C that I was leaving - I just don't think he grasps the concept of time.  Especially if the routine is the same, like daycare and all.  DS will go to the bathroom and look for me, but J tells him that I'm at work and he moves on.

    It will be harder on you than it will be on him!  I am good the first 2 days, day 3 gets a little tougher but by day 4 I'm ready to see my baby!  I haven't Skyped with him, but I do talk on the phone.  Although last time I realized that it just confused him and J said that he kept looking for me all night.  The next evening I didn't bother because I didn't want him upset.

    Hopefully you'll be busy with work and the time will go quickly.  Plus, enjoy the sleep!  The big comfy bed, the room service.  I try to enjoy the fun stuff and it makes it a lot easier if I'm enjoying myself than if I complain about being gone.

    Yeah, I would not even bother doing this.  I just think at their age, the Skyping or calling is more for the parents than the kids.  Eden will hear my voice and she will freak out and start looking for me.  As the kids get older that's one thing, but for now, I think it's almost more disruptive for the babies.

    Good point! We do Skype calls with the ILs, but Evan doesn't stay in one place long enough for him to see them and DH just chases after him with the web camera.

    I'm know Kreeper is right, it will be harder on me than him. I'll take the advice to enjoy the sleep and big bed all to myself. I'm sure DH thinks this will be hardest on him.  ;-)

    Dx: PCOS and short luteal phase
    18 cycles (3 with our RE) - Metformin + Clomid + HCG booster did the trick!
    BFP #1 6/22/09 EDD: 3/2/10 DS born: 3/8/10

    TTC #2 since Dec 2011
    BFP #2 7/8/12 EDD: 3/18/12 M/C @ 9w1d: 8/16/12

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