Resources for new dads?

BrookeAWestling · August 2011

Hi everyone! So, this pregnancy was not planned, and it really seems to have caught bd off guard. We're just not connecting as far as him understanding how I'm feeling and what I need from him right now. He says he wants to help, but doesn't know how. None of his friends have kids and he seems to just be in denial about the whole thing. How can I snap him out of it? Any suggestions for resources for new fathers?

I've heard people say that a father doesn't really become a father until the baby's born, but at this rate, I'm afraid that I'll be so sick of him by then that it would be hopeless to try to salvage a healthy relationship at that point.

bingham101 · August 2011

I am sorry you are going through this. Its different for every guy. You said this was not planned so he might just need some time. I would suggest getting him a book. There are a lot out there. I would search on Amazon for something you think he would like. I got my husband "My Boys Can Swim" or something like that. Its very short and to the point. Might not be the best book for him or it could be. I also sat and watched a couple nat geo movies once I found out just about the babies development.

PhysChic7685 · August 2011

Even though our first pregnancy was planned, my husband wasn't really involved at first. However, once we had the 20 week ultrasound and we could name the baby in my belly, it became real for him and he became much more supportive. Hang in there and maybe he'll come around.

In the meantime, there are a bunch of books available (you'll find many if you search Amazon) that are specifically for expecting dads. Babycenter also has a dad's resource section.

Good luck!

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