Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Let's play: Do you know anyone who...
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Has won the lottery? yes; but a very very small amount; not the jackpot
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? nope
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? yes; lots of people!
I know a few people with triplets, and a family with quads!
I know two people who can fly an aircraft (including my FIL -- he flew Huey's in Vietnam), and two more people who own and fly their own.
1.) Has won the lottery? Yes. An ex-boyfriend of mine won $14 million. He took the lump sum and blew it all in about 2 years. Not surprised!
2.) Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? No.
3.) Can fly an airplane/aircraft? A high school friend of mine is a professional pilot.
My dad's best friend had triplets when I was like 12. Seeing that lady pregnant was the scariest and craziest thing I have ever seen in my life. They are in high school now and are super awesome kids.
H grew up in a very rural, farmland part of CA so many of his friends are in the crop dusting business. So they can fly planes, and many of them own their own planes to run their businesses. I also had a friend in elementary school whose dad built an airplane in their garage. They finally got it off the ground when we wer in college, and we went to the first flight party. That was cool because we used to play flight attendent in the plane when we were little.
I'm super bored at work, and tired of all the "update to my cervix" posts, so let's play a game.
Do you know anyone who...
Has won the lottery? Yes my uncle! (not a multi million dollar pot, but he gets a certain amount every year)
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? Yes, I actually used to nanny for newborn triplets!
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? Yes, my brother is a pilot in the Air Force (flew B-52's, then B-2's and is now in the test pilot program in Cali)
You have to personally have met these people, not a cousin's best friend's sister or something like that!
Do you know anyone who...
Has won the lottery? My Grandma has friends who have hit big @ the casinos, but not any lotteries.
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? I knew a woman a long time ago that had triplets, but I didn't know her well.
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? My uncle flies helicopters, and DH's cousin can fly planes, but doesn't very often.
Yep, all three.
My friend from high school's grandparents won the lottery years ago, not once but 2x's! One time it was like $20,000 or somthing like that and the other time it was over 5 million! Lucky people!!!
My 3rd cousin had triplets that are now 15.
My good friends fiance is a pilot for Southwest.
Yikes!! Does that make your one seem easier at all?
Has won the lottery? Nope
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? My MIL (my H being one of them)
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? My DH's college roommate
Do you know anyone who...
Has won the lottery? Haha no...but my husband is convinced that he will someday win the lottery, and loves scratch offs...lol.
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? Family friends of ours have triplets my sons age, and they all play together. They are two girls and a boy and too cute!
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? My dad and grandpa, as well as a ton of other people...they both just do it for fun. We live in a farming community, so we know tons of crop dusters as well.
Do you know anyone who...
Has won the lottery? my neighbor when I was in high school won than moved away
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? my cousins are triplets
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? My grandpa use to have a plane and fly us places when we were kids, than he sold it when we were older....also one of hubbys friends is a pilot for a living
Has won the lottery? Yep. A friend from high school's grandparents won it, just about a year after my friend had been killed in a car accident.
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? no, but a whole lotta twins!
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? My uncle is a pilot. He and his dad just won grand champion with the plane they built too.
Has won the lottery? No but when we first met my now SIL she told us that her family had won the lottery and that they were millionaires, with private jets, drivers, cooks, several homes, etc. All a lie. Yep, she's a trip.
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? Nope
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? My uncle through marriage's father is actually in the Guiness Book of World Record for flying the smallest aircraft ever.
My Dad won money on the lottery once but not the jackpot and he wasted it anyway. I know some triplets too but I never met their mum :-p
Has won the lottery? I have a friend who won $ 2 million. Oh and i once won a trip to Las Vegas
Has had triplets (or more for that matter)? Nope.
Can fly an airplane/aircraft? My friend's dad.