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My 3yo is about to get kicked out of Daycare...
My three go to an in-home daycare, she is great, she treats my kids like her own, her house is clean, kid friendly, and homey, Everything I could ask for since I can't be a SAHM. My oldest has gone there since he was 4 months old, and will be starting pre-school on the 22nd of this month, well the past couple of weeks he has been really restless and acting out because he is so bored.
Before it was 100degrees everyday she would take them outside to play and she has a little blow-up pool that they can swim in, go for walks, etc. But since it's been so hot they are stuck inside and he torments the other kids. He will jump on them, when he's running by one he will hit them, he spits in their face, it's so bad that she told me today, "That he's defiantly ready for a more structured environment." She knows it's just a few more weeks and he will go to pre-school and she will "tough" it out because of that.
So in the mean time I'm sitting here at work downloading and purchasing arts and crafts stuff for them to do with him and the other older kids. I'm one, frustrated that I have to do this, I wish she could see that he needs something more and try to find something that will enteratain him and two, that he is acting out like this in the first place.
Ugh, I'm just so frustrated and don't know what else to do.
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Re: My 3yo is about to get kicked out of Daycare...
I'm not trying to sound judgmental but are you sure it's just because he's bored? Does he act that way when he's bored at home? I get that kids act out or differently when they're restless, but that physically aggressive seems like a bit much. You mentioned what he does, but what is the response of his DC? How are you approaching it at home with him?
I've seen some kids act out and sometimes I feel like the discipline isn't enough punishment for the crime. Not saying that is what is happenening here...just thinking out loud..
If it is boredome here are some thoughts to curb it with some indoor activiites we rely on: board games like Candy Land/Chutes & Ladders, blocks, art projects, giving him taks to be an important helper, play doh, movies
I'm not trying to sound judgmental either, but as the parent of babies who got tormented by a 3 year old at daycare, I didn't care how or why he was doing it, but it needed to stop. My baby got bit hard enough to break the skin twice, and I was furious. Babies bite/wrestle babies, but a 3 year old can really hurt them. Not okay.
I don't know how she plans to "tough it out", but hopefully that includes some serious monitoring and hopefully seperation. The 3 year old at my daycare spends most of the days he's there in the playpen so he doesn't hurt anyone. He gets out when the babies nap/eat, but it's the only way she can be sure he won't get aggressive.
Not that I threatened to leave, but she knows she can't afford to lose my 2 babies. She'd rather lose the 3 year old if it came down to it.
Good luck to you all. Hopefully it's a quick phase with a quick fix.
I feel for you!
Mine does great in daycare, but he's in a classroom setup with kids near his age. The teachers keep the kids busy all day long -- a mix of open play, activities, outside time, etc.But at home, DS1 often acts out with me - throwing toys, getting into things he knows he shouldn't - and it's usually when he's tired or hungry AND isn't getting enough of my attention or love. On the days where I feel like I can't deal with his energy or behavior, I know he can tell that I don't like him very much at the moment, and everything escalates. On days where he gets crazy but I'm patient and creative about redirecting him, things get much better. So if I pull out the Play-Doh, but I'm really just hoping to get him out of my face for a few minutes, it really doesn't help.
My theory is that your daycare provider has kind of given up on him, if he's leaving soon anyway, and is treating him differently than she used to -- in addition to his boredom. Maybe he can tell she's frustrated, or paying most of her attention to the other kids? Just a theory, of course. But if it sounds plausible, maybe you or your DH could take some days or half-days off to spend with him over the next few weeks, or give him some extra love and attention at home to try to counteract what's happening in daycare?
I think three is definitely the age where kids need to be around other kids their own age, and they need to be stimulated during the day. My neighbor across the street had your exact same situation with her twin boys. They were bored and needed age appropriate interaction with other kids. It's one of the reasons I didn't want to do an in home daycare.
I agree, I don't think you should have to figure out arts and crafts projects either, although I'm surprised she isn't already doing those things.
if you have time to take off from work, you should pull him out of there. that's dangerous to the younger kids if she cant handle it. are you addressing it at home? strange that this is only occuring at daycare. he needs structure and discipline ... yes, at 3 y.o., he needs to understand that these behaviors are not acceptable and he needs to learn other ways to get his needs met. if the provider isnt able to do this, you owe it to him and your younger kids to make sure that he gets it. the activities are distracting behaviors and not really going to teach him anything. i agree that he needs to be around others his age. sorry you're going through this. i'm sure it'll improve once the structure and age-appropriate activities and behaviors are expected.