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December 2010 Moms
missmuffin87
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is this rude or am i overreacting?
missmuffin87
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SO just texted me saying that his parents want us to go to a first bday party for his cousins baby this saturday. and i'm like we aren't invited by the baby's parents so why should we be going. and he said that apparently we are invited, its just a word of mouth thing. i feel that if you really want someone at a party (especially where gifts are expected) you need to contact the people directly and way sooner than 2 days before. i have invited these people to everything for hazel with mailed invitations and hand written thank you's and sent them a holiday card. but they cant be bothered even sending an email. it just seems rude and gift grabby to me.
so what do you think. is word-of-mouth an acceptable form of bday party invitation?
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Re: is this rude or am i overreacting?
with DHs family, they do most birthdays by word of mouth if the party is just at the park or someones house. but if its a bit more formal or at a restaurant then they'll send out invitations.
so, i dont know how your SOs family does it but they're this way too?
I say go to the party but go ahead and be annoyed by the way you were invited. For some families, that's how they roll. For others, not so much...
Don't overreact by NOT going and I wouldn't give SO a bad time about it anymore.
I guess it would depend on what is "normal" for the family. Our family usually at least sends out email invites, or phone calls, for parties. Is there a chance that someone meant to "invite" you guys earlier, but forgot? Like, maybe everyone in the family assumed someone else let you guys know?
i dont really know how they usually do things. this the first time they have ever invited us to anything. i think its prob just a casual thing, but i guess just very different from how i would invite someone whom i expect a gift from.
Perfectly said!
It's acceptable if it's a casual thing where there are no gifts. Like, for anyone who has a bday party who is our age, it's always word of mouth. But no one gives gifts to 20- and 30-somethings, either.
I say you can go without a gift.
It's a little rude, IF everyone else got a "real" invitation.
You're also overreacting. It doesn't really warrant any more reaction than "hmm, that's odd."
so what do you think. is word-of-mouth an acceptable form of bday party invitation?
For a 1-year-old? yes. It sounds like it just might be a family gathering. I do think you're overreacting. Go and have fun!
Really? FFS it's a 1-year-old. Bring the kid some blocks or something or a balloon that will deflate w/in 2 hours. To come empty handed is even more rude than how the OP is receiving a verbal invite.
I agree with DeadOktober.
Also, Dead, your siggy pic is awesome.
Everyone in my DH's family sucks at communication, including my DH. It was not unheard of for him to tell me Saturday morning we were going to a birthday party in 3 hours. I think I have finally got them communicating a little through email.
Go, have fun. At least you have more than 3 hours notice and it is only a one year old... easy to get a gift for.