How am I "suppose" to feel (longish/ventish?)

bbakersgirl75 · August 2011

Ok, so were we all not IF ladies, with all of the "special" worries that come along with it: How would a normal woman feel?

I mean at least once per night I wake up dreaming that I am going to loose the baby. This I'm sure was not helped when I turned to Dr Google for my Low Papp A results. (Yes, I willingly did it). I seriously think all day about the devastating fact that I could loose this baby. I'm sitting here right now, worried as can be because it's still another 3 weeks before my next OB appt. I wish s/he was moving already, so that could be reassurance.

Anyways: I'm 15 weeks. How did you "feel" at this point? (this is not a complaint, just a listing of how I am feeling. ) I'm still tired, bloated daily, headaches... and my tummy feels.... hard under the belly button area and sore/crampy like? Is this the baby moving more into position? But still no bump here. I understand it's really early, but when I compare myself to the ladies on my birth month board, I'm behind, lol.

Ugh, I am so sorry to just unload with you ladies, but I am nervous as all get out, and I have no close friends that I could go do with my worries.

If you've made it this far, Thank You for your support!! ((Hugs))

matt'sbride · August 2011

I totally understand the worries/concern/anxiety over it all. I feel that way a lot too. I'm about a week behind you, but I have headaches daily, my stomach feels the same as yours does under the belly button, and I still have mild cramping several times a day. I've noticed that the cramping is usually when I move really quickly or move a lot at once. I have the tiniest of bumps (you can look at the HDBD post if you want to see it), but nothing extreme yet.

While I don't have the bloating any longer, I do have what the dr called "Pubic Symphysis Diastasis". Basically, my pubic bone is loosening which doesn't usually happen this early in pregnancy but she said it was fine and that all pregnancies are different. It's a bit uncomfortable and feels like this bruised/muscular pain in my pubic area when I get up or move my legs. It isn't constant, but it's usually there.

Try and relax...I know, easier said than done!

Blessed1010 · August 2011

I know exactly how you feel and for me the worry has never ended. I had 2 losses and 1 failed IVF prior to these babies. I've reached the point that if If were to go into labor my babies can survive, but now rather than worrying about a failed IVF, miscarriages, giving birth before 25 weeks, I now worry about stillbirth. I just don't think it ever ends.

I'm sorry you are worried. It's a terrible feeling. I truly hope that you reach a point in which you are at peace and enjoying every minute.

At 15 weeks the bleeding ended and I finally felt great. At 20 weeks the worries subsided as I had my "big" ultrasound and was told the babies were doing great. I didn't feel my babies until 20 weeks. Do not compare yourself to anyone else. Every individual body and every pregnancy is different.

steveandkim2 · August 2011

Blessed1010:

I know exactly how you feel and for me the worry has never ended. I had 2 losses and 1 failed IVF prior to these babies. I've reached the point that if If were to go into labor my babies can survive, but now rather than worrying about a failed IVF, miscarriages, giving birth before 25 weeks, I now worry about stillbirth. I just don't think it ever ends.

I could have written this paragraph myself! I don't think the worry will ever end, but I found that weeks 14 -19 were the worst. Once the kicking sets in, it gets a little better (although now I find myself worrying if I don't feel kicks in a while).

Would getting a doppler help, or would you just obsess if you couldn't find hb? My OB has often said if I ever felt anxious, to just come in and the nurse could use the doppler to give me piece of mind. Maybe that could help make the wait b/w OB appointments easier?

bbakersgirl75 · August 2011

steveandkim2:
Blessed1010:

I know exactly how you feel and for me the worry has never ended. I had 2 losses and 1 failed IVF prior to these babies. I've reached the point that if If were to go into labor my babies can survive, but now rather than worrying about a failed IVF, miscarriages, giving birth before 25 weeks, I now worry about stillbirth. I just don't think it ever ends.

I could have written this paragraph myself! I don't think the worry will ever end, but I found that weeks 14 -19 were the worst. Once the kicking sets in, it gets a little better (although now I find myself worrying if I don't feel kicks in a while).

Would getting a doppler help, or would you just obsess if you couldn't find hb? My OB has often said if I ever felt anxious, to just come in and the nurse could use the doppler to give me piece of mind. Maybe that could help make the wait b/w OB appointments easier?

I would drive myself NUTS with a doppler of my own It would be a super psycho obsession that would devastate me if i couldn't find the HB.

I really like the idea of checking with the OB to see if I could pop in for a quick doppler check! Thanks for that Hun! He's suppose to call me tomorrow about test results so I will ask him then. Thank You!

etoyama · August 2011

Oh hon I'm so sorry. Although it SUCKS I think a LOT, if not most of us feel or felt this way. It's really hard to attach to the idea that it's really happening and that it's really going to be ok. Like you, I always felt "behind" the ladies on my bmb. It took me until 23-24 weeks to show at all and it took until 32-33 until anyone noticed in public! I never allowed myself to get excited until 24 weeks (viability) and then the very next week, all my PTL drama started. Then I wished I'd sent more time enjoying instead of worrying. But enjoying it is so much easier said than done. And I still have dreams I've lost the baby. I just want you to know that you're not weird or bad for feeling the way you're feeling. Big (((HUGS)))

NicoleeBonsai · August 2011

all of your worry is soooo normal. it sucks, but IF warps our minds and can rob us of the joy of pregnancy.

at 15 weeks i felt like crap. honestly, i haven't felt great at any point during pregnancy. the best part is just knowing i'm carrying our two girls.

i was still nauseous, vomiting, had food aversions. and i really was not able to comprehend that i was pregnant and in my second trimester. i was still worried all the time that something could go wrong (still am, just not *all* the time!).

as you progress further into your pregnancy, i hope you start to feel better about everything, both physically and emotionally. ((HUGS))

jcath · August 2011

I agree with everything everyone has said. It's very normal to feel this way. I'm sure your Dr would let you pop in for a doppler check and it will make you feel alot better. Just hang in there until about 20 weeks when movement gets regular - though even then I obsessed and bit and still do ((hugs))

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