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My DH is getting deployed at the end of this month for a year. I'm due with our first baby in December, and his command SAYS they're going to send him home for the birth. I say it like that only because, him coming home for the birth assumes the baby doesn't come early and nothing happens that prevents him from coming home.

After the baby is born, he'll still have eight months of deployment left- so basically baby won't really MEET him until he's nearly a year old. Of course, I want our son to know who his daddy is...

 Any advice on how to let our son know who his daddy is even though daddy wont be here?

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  • iluvmytxrgriluvmytxrgr member

    Skype will be your best bet.  You can hold the baby while you sit and talk to your H.  The baby will be able to see his face and hear his voice.  As the baby gets older, your H can talk to the baby and they can interact. 

    You can also get recordable books for your H to record and then you and baby can read them while he's gone.  Also, make some home videos of you and your H and let baby watch them later.  While you do dishes or laundry, baby can watch videos of Daddy. 

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  • Joie80Joie80 member
    We're in a similar situation. I agree with the pp, we're going to have to take advantage of technology. I intend to do lots of videos, keep journals/scrapbooks, skype, and take a ton of pics. It's really all we can do.
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  • sami1784sami1784 member
    I'm in just about the same boat.  DH is currently at train-up and will report to the mob station at the beginning of next month to get ready for a deployment that is "supposed to be 7-9 months long".  I'm due Sept 22nd, assuming this impatient LO doesn't decide to make an early debut.  His CO has said he'll do everything in his power to make sure DH gets home for the birth, though really the decision rests with the CO at the mob station.  They usually allow the soldiers to have a weekend pass right before they deploy, so family members can come down and visit with the soldiers before they leave.  However, this CO has but the kibosh on that due to "some soldiers going AWOL and some getting DUI's when their families come down", so there's really no guarantee that this CO isn't going to be a jerk and say "No, you're not going."  They won't get mid-tour leave, so after the birth, it'll be the end of the deployment before he physically gets to spend time with LO.  I plan on using Skype as much as possible so LO can see DH and get to know what he looks like and what his voice sounds like.  Also, I plan to have lots of pictures on hand so I can tell LO, "This is your daddy!"

     So there's this boy. He kinda stole my heart. He calls me "Mom"

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  • KaylaRae0420KaylaRae0420 member

    I am as well in the same boat! DH deploys end of the month and I am due beginning of January. We also will have a 2 year old at home. It's gonna be tough, but busy! I am hoping time goes fast! 

    We should be email pals! Just to have someone to relate and share adult conversation with !

    Send me a PM with your email! :) 

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  • mblacksmblacks member

    Technology is a great way of making sure that the LO gets to know your H voice and face.. But don't forget to include H on the techno feed!  Lol.. I recomend setting up a blogger account to post photos and stories about your day that H can log on and look at.  This works better than emailing pictures because the internet can be spotty to download pictures, and viewing them on a blog is much quicker.  It's also a great way of documenting the beining of the LO life!  There are ways of turning them into a picture book later too.  As a soldier, it's great to be able to keep up with family events even when the line for the phone is a mile long and the internet isn't strong enough for Skype.  

     Oh and there are some really cute dolls out there that you can put DH's photo in for the LO to snuggle up to! 

     On a side note, as a CO we truly do try to help our soldiers out as much as we can.  Sometimes it can be difficult with mission requirements, and of course sometimes the LO has it's own plan for when it makes its own debut.. Stay positive and I'm sure it'll work out the best way that it can.

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