I feel bad... did I do the right thing?

kjr · November 2008

I know this isn't a big deal, but I am still having some mom guilt.

We set up a new big boy room for DS so we can get him moved into before the new baby gets here. He loves the room. He wants to go in it all the time and he talks it about nonstop. But he is afraid to sleep in there. So we have still been letting him sleep in his old bedroom.

Well, we went out of town for a week to visit the in-laws and he is so out of his routine anyway.... so when we got home tonight I thought I should go ahead and just make him sleep in the new room. (I mean, he is out of the routine anyway, why not start a new one?)

He whined and kept saying he wanted to sleep in his bed. I kept telling him it was his bed. When I left the room he cried for less than 2 minutes and then fell asleep. (He was exhausted from traveling)

But here is why I feel guilty - I really was looking forward to sleeping in my own bed tonight and now I keep thinking so was he. Like what if he was all excited, too, to be home and in his own bed and then I just forced him into another new bed? Is that stupid? Would you have done the same thing?

finallymarried · November 2008

I agreed with you and thought it was a great idea until you said why you felt guilty....then I was sad for the little guy. But hopefully he is too young to yearn for things like that right? I dont know if he actually would have wanted the bed for the same reason you did or not, it was probably just old habit for him and he fell asleep so quickly he didnt seem traumatized to me.

kjr · November 2008

finallymarried:

I agreed with you and thought it was a great idea until you said why you felt guilty....then I was sad for the little guy. But hopefully he is too young to yearn for things like that right? I dont know if he actually would have wanted the bed for the same reason you did or not, it was probably just old habit for him and he fell asleep so quickly he didnt seem traumatized to me.

Ok, I am glad I am not the only one who is sad by that. DH says I am silly. I think I am also sad bc I don't do well with change, and him being in a new room is a big change for me, too. Even though I really, really want him to sleep in there!

Starr_Mom · November 2008

We moved DS to a big boy bed when we moved into our house. Just didn't bring the crib and told him that it was his room and that's where he slept. He cried for about a half hour that night, but now he's sleeping really well. Transitions are always hard, regardless of when they happen. He'll be ok. (((hugs))) to you for having to deal with it. It's tough.

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