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Single Mommies to be
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Any single moms to be? When are you due? What are you doing to prepare for your LOs arrival? Im due in 29 days and im super excited/nervous/anxious/scared ect ect ect!!!!! Any tips from SP on the board would also be great!
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Re: Single Mommies to be
I was a single mom to be. Just try to relax and enjoy those last few days.
I'm sure you have everything else ready.
My son will be 18 months old tomorrow it goes so very fast.
I was a single mommy to be. Thankfully I had a lot of help from my family/friends.
Can you keep a list on your fridge of things that people could help you with (laundry, dishes, etc.)? That way when people come over you won't have to ask but they will see the list and know that you need help. People WILL want to help so don't be too prideful and LET them.
How about arranging, or having a friend arrange, a list of dinners for at least the first few weeks. This is very common, even when you aren't a single mommy. I just made dinner for a co-worker and her husband (she recently had a c-section). She was very appreciative.
I used the Baby bjorn carrier a lot but it hurt my back. I think the Ergo or a wrap of some sort is good too. One of my friends swore by the Moby wrap.
Can anyone stay with you for the first week or so? My mom stayed with me and would get up and get DS when he woke up in the middle of the night, change his diaper, and then bring him to me to nurse. It helped a lot for me to get rest.
Try to sleep a little when baby sleeps. Like maybe tell yourself that you will at least take an hour to rest when baby rests during the day. Ditto Becca about not being so worried about housework, worry about getting the rest you need and recovering.
Can someone stay in the hospital one night with you? My BFF stayed with me and it made me feel great and not so alone. DS was up all.night.long the first night and she ended up rocking him so I could sleep a bit.
I started as a single mom, too. Ditto all of Becca's advice. Achase mentioned a carrier. I have a moby wrap and it's great for freeing up your hands while still being able to hold LO. Of course rest when you can and accept all the help that's available. The first 6 weeks will be the longest of your life, but then you'll wake up one day and discover things are all of the sudden much easier.
Good luck!
I'm so jealous! You'll have to share pictures of your little cutie in her accessories
My son's father and I were engaged, but he called off the wedding a few weeks beforehand and asked me to have an abortion. I chose to keep the baby....my mom was always supportive, but my dad was devastated and didn't speak to me for 6 weeks. He's come around though and so has everyone else. My ex is completely unstable, he wasn't this way before but now he's taking prescription drugs (like xanax and percocet) and drinking too. It's scary and I'm worried about having my son around that. He comes in and out of the picture.
What about your daughter's father? You must be getting excited to meet her- she's coming so soon! Are you nervous about delivery? I'm scared of all the unknowns!
Wow kind of similar stories minus the engagement. I was with my ex for about 3.5 years living together and all. He became unstable, not working, abusive towards the end. I had moved in with my parents and found out i was pregnant. I told him i was keeping the baby and he tried to get me to have an abortion and wouldnt speak to me.
We barely have any contact now and its always a different personality when we do talk ( he seriously must be bipolar). he is apparantly living with his new gf in her govt paid for apartment and still doesnt have a stable job. I dont count on him being around much for her and like you i am deathly afraid of him ever having her without me around.
My father also didnt speak to me for a while!! He has come around since thank god
We have a lot in common with our situations! Our exs are definitely train wrecks and we do not need them in our lives with our precious little babies....I worry all the time about him being alone with my little boy being so unstable. Thankfully we have our families for support and that our Dad's came around. I know it won't be easy doing this alone, but we both made the right decision by keeping our babies.
Your ex's new gf sounds like she will have her hands full, let her have him. My ex went back to his ex wife and ex gf after me and who knows what he's been out there doing. My ex threatens to quit his job regularly so I know CS is going to be an uphill battle.
Hang in there- we can both do this! Plus we have each other now for moral support
Hi! I'm a single mommy to be! No other advice, but just wanted to say hello