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Kerrin
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Have to vent before I crack
Kerrin
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DH is out of town and i have to get this off my chest so I can sleep tonight. Many of you know the struggles and difficulties I've had with my family and working for the family business. I have not been able to switch to a new job yet, but DH has, so it's a good start to at least get one of us out of the toxicity. To make a long story short, my father fired a high ranking employee 2 weeks ago. Instead of telling him that it just wasn't working out and their relationship had soured, he basically let him go via email (which is gutless) and threw my mother, sister, and I under the bus, implying that we wanted said employee gone and he had no other choice. My father's a gem, isn't he?
So in the past week, I've been unfairly judged at work b/c the rumor mill is in full spin with everyone's assumption about what they think happened, and the Exec. VP was so pissed about his "friend" being fired that he trashed talked my mother, sister and I to the rest of the employees saying that the ex-employee was "forced out". I've been told that people are afraid of me, that people don't trust me, and the kicker of them all, that DH and I are purposefully sabotaging the company b/c he left and took a position with a competitor. So my working life has been a living hell lately. I think the Exec VP hopes I will crack under pressure and quit. Quite the healthy working environment, right?
Fast forward to today...my sister had the nerve to be upset with me b/c she was on vacation last week and i purchased a used car. Gave me all kinds of attitude today..."You didn't tell me you got a car". And then gave me the silent treatment. Frankly, after the past 2 weeks that I've had, it just didn't occur to me to broadcast to anyone that I purchased a car, not that it's any of their business anyway. So I told her that I was sorry that it upset her that I didn't mention the purchase, have had other things on my mind, and she was away on vacation, and it just wasn't that big of a deal to me. I also said that I thought it was silly that she would be mad over something so ridiculous b/c she just went on vacation, yet I didn't know anything about where she went, who she went with, etc., so she blamed me for not asking her questions about it. But I'm still expected to volunteer every detail about my life. She concluded that i should have known that it was the same car she has wanted for the last 10 years. WTF?
Thanks for reading if you got this far...I'm so tired of all the drama, and so tired of always being labeled the "villain". I know my life will be far easier when i can get a , different job and remove myself from all of this. It's just sucks while I'm waiting.
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Re: Have to vent before I crack
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we need drinks. strong ones. pronto.
Hope things get better... actually.. I know they will. You are deserving.
Okay..this late night club transferred back from fb to here. I am going to have a glass of wine and try to sleep.
this wife bakes.
One of my favorite cakes ever! I had a blast making this..all handmade with buttercream suds!!!!
That's awful. All of it. And the sister part is the fracking icing on the cake. Seriously? I'd have hung up. I hang up on my own sister from time to time. Let us know when she shows up with your/her dream car.
Does the company have anything written into HR policy about the whole "creating a hostile workplace" thing that other guy is doing? I seem to remember you having a round with HR - was it an external arbitrator or an internal person? What a mess.
I'm so, so sorry. If you're looking to make a jump, there are tons of non-profits looking for C-level folks right now. Everything from operations to development. (Opportunityknocks.org) Not exactly in the Eco line of work, but you could cut the strings and wash your hands of the whole mess (at least business-wise). If I were at the point you're at now, I don't know that I'd care about taking a pay cut - as long as it got me out of there.
Hugs, Kerrin. I know the road ahead is gonna be a rough one for you, but you can do it!
We don't even have an employee handbook - not that it would matter when my father is part of the problem. The HR person was the one who was just let go. You are thinking of the the friend of my father's who was put on the payroll to supplement his retirement - that man was doing an operational assessment of the company and he deemed the place the most toxic work environment he had ever seen. B/c he's on our payroll and my father's friend, he has put my father on a pedestal - tellign everyone how great he is. So it's not a true assessment of the place b/c my father doesn't think he's part of the problem.
I know I'm going to take a massive paycut to switch fields - it just adds to my stress, but i know it will be better for my sanity in the long run.
ANd you are right - she'll show up with the same car. It's just a matter of time.
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I am so sorry Kerrin. Usually, home is the best relief for all work drama but it looks like yours are combined. I know how stressful it must be!
Try to take things one day at a time and hope that a better job comes along.
hugs!