Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
mrssburnison
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Re: babies and tv
July 2, 2010- BFP Beta July 5th - 931 Repeat beta July 7th - 2,779
July 13, 2010- First ultrasound! Gestational sac found!
July 16, 2010 - 2nd u/s due to bleeding. Twins found! Baby A is great! Praying for Baby B!
July 23, 2010 - 3rd u/s. Saw Baby A's flicker of a heartbeat! Lost Baby B. :-(
March 16, 2011 - Nathan James was born
November 26, 2012 - surprise BFP! It's a girl!
July 26, 2013 - Lilianna Jean was born
I don't sit either of my boys in front on the tv and just leave them there, but it's on all day, I can't stand all the quiet. DS #1 watches it during the day, but it's not like he sits there for hours not doing anything else. He runs around playing, watches a few minutues, then runs around playing again. I don't think it's had any negative effect on him...he's extremely smart, and I think pretty advanced for a 2 year old, a huge vocabulary. When he needs help he yells "ayuda me" which means help me in spanish, he learned that from Dora!
With #2 he doesn't "watch" it but he will look at the tv from time to time, sometimes seeing the movement on it stops in during some of his crying fits. All things in moderation!
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hmm, I may be a bad role model, but my kid loves to watch TV. Mine is on all day. He likes to roll on his tummy and push himself up on his arms to watch, and if he is in his exersaucer he's normally in front of the TV since I live in a one-bedroom apartment its kinda hard not to be near the TV.
I think it's funny that he watches TV. And my SIL and FIL LOVE to sit in the rocking chair and watch TV with him. I don't think it hurts too much. But when he gets older I do intend on enforcing a time limit on the TV but for now, I dont see what it hurts.
At first I didn't think LO would be interested in t.v yet but once I saw him totally into it, I thought it was funny... I know he will watch t.v. for the rest of his life, why start it at this age? BUT.... like you all seem to understand sometimes when youve already played in the jumper, in the swing, in the bumbo, on the floor, went for a walk, read a book, a little GAbba Gabba never hurt anyone
LOL I like it more than him! In the morning sometimes I am sooo sleepy still, after a 5 a.m feeding, baby is well rested and will take about 20 minutes to fall asleep, I admit I put on nick jr. and He will look at it, sometimes he laughs at it! If I didnt turn it on Id just be looking at him trying to get him to sleep again, hed probably just be playing with his feet and talking to himself..... which is great but I don't think it hurts- he gets to see colors, hear music, see children dancing and learn some chinese and spanish 
When ds was younger, the tv would be on a lot and he wouldn't even notice. When he go to be about months old, he started getting interested in it, so I began turning it off because like pp said, he becomes a zombie in front of it. My biggest issue is that my dh almost always turns on the tv for ds. DH is currently unemployed and is home all day with us, although I am with ds mostly. If I ask dh to watch ds so I can take a shower, the tv goes on. We've talked about it before and agreed to not have him watch it but when I bring it up, he says stuff like "the tv is on to keep me awake". What upsets me the most, is that dh is probably going to stay home with ds when I go back to work next week. I am afraid that the tv is going to be on all day since dh can't go more than 20 mins without turning it on.
Ditto. I veg with DD quite a bit, and I personally don't see the big deal. No, I don't plop her in front of the TV to entertain her, but if it's on and it catches her attention, I don't freak out and turn it off. To me, it's just audio/visual stimulation, like a mobile. She's not getting hooked on crappy daytime soaps, here. lol.
This. I had honestly never thought of having DD watch TV, but my mom had her overnight and put the tv on for her and she loved it! It does keep her attention, and that really helps me as far as getting housework done. As long as it's not the only thing LO is doing, then it should be fine.
FWIW, I think it's different to sit and have a program you want to watch and to just sit LO in front of the TV...sometimes you need to do things for yourself in order to be a better parent, and if that means taking 1/2 hour to yourself, do it!