Weird memory popped up - I used to consider being an egg donor!

solarflare · August 2011

It popped into my head today that I was considering being an egg donor for a while in college. There was an ad in my univ. newspaper and I was racking up in debt. I would have been payed a lot because I had advanced degrees and a specific ethnic make-up. I was close to applying... In the end, I felt uncomfortable about putting those drugs in my body. Look where I am now - all drugged up and still no baby!

Anyway, in thinking about these women that donate eggs, I have great admiration and respect for them. They are doing such a generous service to women in general.

lhcooper · August 2011

I TOTALLY remember staring at those ads, not in college but in graduate school. At the time, it totally creeped me out even though that kind of money would have been a big deal. It's amazing that there are women out there able to not feel as you and I did. In fact, here's a really interesting article from 2007 on this very topic that I came across the other night:

https://www.washingtonian.com/articles/health/4722.html

ETA: I tried to make this a clickable link and it screwed up, so am just putting it in as an unclickable one.

baze2 · August 2011

I remember 9 years ago offering my eggs to my older sister who struggled with IF..her md wouldn't let her use my eggs because I was engaged to my first husband and had no children. He worried (rightfully so) that I may have the same issues..

Although our issues are different, I can't imagine if I had donated to her then I was sitting her for 3 years TTC and have had 5 failed IUI's, 2 cancelled IVF and a DE cycle that ended in zero fertilized eggs out of 14 retrieved...

Man God works in amazing ways.!! HE worked through that RE 9 years ago..

kbrodie06 · August 2011

Hah, I considered it also. Never bothered, with asthma, bad hearing, wear contacts, did not bother. Kinda funny huh!

boymamaco · August 2011

I actually applied to be an egg donor. Wow, I had completely forgotten about that. I had sky high debt and my boyfriend really encouraged me to do it - wierd I know. I was denied based on my previous "party day behavior". Wow, I'm so glad that I didn't actually go through with that. Although maybe I would have been more "aware of my fertility and thought to preserve it with freezing eggs or something? Who knows.

See some old familiar faces in this thread... Hi Baze!!

SherryAE · August 2011

My close friend was considering donating eggs ... but she has 6 kids! Lol!

arevere · August 2011

I thought about being an egg donor too. I was in my early 20s and so broke. I had credit card debt and thought I would never get out from under it, and I was living paycheck to paycheck. I went so far as to apply and be interviewed. They wanted me to do it, but I got scared off by the retrieval process.

The strangest part is that they asked me for a picture of myself as a toddler, to show people looking for donors. So somewhere there's a baby picture of me in a old file.

I have a fantasy that someone will invent a time machine for IF women, so we can go back 15 years and get eggs from our young, fertile selves. I'm sure 25 year old me would give me an egg or two!

Mrs.McIrish · August 2011

I knew a girl(friend of a friend) who donated eggs back in the early 2000's. She was in her early 20's and married. They decided they were not having kids. They needed $$ so she donated eggs. At the time, I knew nothing about it or IVF etc. I remember discussing it with my other friends and we thought it was "bizarre". Flash forward a decade and I now see what a wonderful thing it was. I just had no idea back then and am so embarrassed by my prior attitude.. Good thing young women like her do this for other women! I recently brought this up to my friend after I told her I was doing IVF and how my perspective had changed on the topic. Of course my friend is a fertile so I'm sure she doesn't "get it" even now (she sent me pictures of her 2 young baby daughters in a response back to my IVF email...)

solarflare · August 2011

Wow - fascinating how so many of us were considering this way back when!

Coop - thanks for the article. That was a compelling read.

happywifemomofone · August 2011

I was a young 20 something single mom and considered egg donation. So glad now that I didn't go that route-as I probably now wouldn't have any eggs left. Wish that part of sex ed in high school would discuss fertility and age. I do think that if I had thought of it, I would have frozen some eggs in my early thirtys for use when the right guy came along. I was so overwhelmed with single-parenting that I really didn't think about how the years were going by. Frankly, wanted to add to our family was almost an afterthought-which grew into an obsession!

irishgirl0525 · August 2011

I considered this too when I was in college, but didn't do it. I don't remember why. I probably talked about it instead of keeping it to myself and then let people convince me it was a bigger deal than I thought it was.

I do have a close friend who did it with the intention of setting up a charitable fund with the money from it. If I recall correctly it was about $6000. She has also never had any trouble getting pregnant and has been several times accidentally. She did have a couple of m/c along the way (one when she was 15).

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