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Please Help Me Off The Ledge...(very long, sorry)
So maybe I just need to get this out...
I went to my first OB appt today. Normal visit, exam, order labs, talk about my impending cerclage installation....then came the US. I had a trans vag US to check my cervix length, blah blah blah. Also needed to date the PG. Let me just say that I went into the office knowing full well that I only had an estimate of the first day of my last cycle. We were not TTC so I honestly didnt keep track. I figured I was off by most likely a week or so.
Fast forward to my US. The OB tells me that I am measuring way earlier than I thought. She can only see a yolk sac and therefore too soon to call a good date on the PG. She said that it is most likely due to my longer cycles (usually 30-34 days) and possibility of ovulating later than normal that this could cause such a discrepancy. While I was stunned in the moment...I said "So now what?" She said for me to go get my labs done and that we could repeat the HCG on Monday.
So I left and went straight to the lab. There was no STAT order on the labs so needless to say I do not know what my levels were today. Being the OCD person I am...I recalculated my "due date" using a longer cycle and a better guess (After talking to DH I am pretty certain) of when my last period was...I should still be in my 9th week. But Dr is only saying that I am at the earliest 5 1/2 to 6 weeks. I say it is near impossible so my worst fears start entering my head. Has it stopped growing? Am I going to m/c? Is there two sacs and one is hiding behind the other?
I called DH to tell him (He didnt say anything good or bad) and no help there. My first thought was that DH has been pretty vocal lately about not wanting any more children so when this PG happened I was like..."praise God, this is my chance..." so now I am crying my eyes out thinking it may be over. I was fortunate enough to talk to a Bumpie (Thank You Again Donna) who helped me to get my thoughts straight and pull my *** together. I later spoke again with DH and expressed my thoughts and fears. He was kind and gentle and informed me that he was not 100% set on no more kids or he would have taken precautions to prevent PG's. He explained his fears about more kids because of him being unemployed and being able to provide. While I completely understand his fears (remember we were not TTC) it has never been a secret that I would love to have four children.
My thoughts are all over the place....I started crying again this afternoon. I do not know how I am going to keep my sanity over the weekend and not know what is going on.
Has anyone else ever thought they were at a certain stage in PG only to have the OB change it by as much as 4 weeks backwards???? Are her explainations and mine really logical to change a date my as much as 4 weeks? it just seems so unlikely....
I am off to cry again! Thanks for reading.
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Re: Please Help Me Off The Ledge...(very long, sorry)
I just wanted to offer you a hug. I hope after your blood work on Monday you are able to get some good news. Try not to stress this weekend, I know easier said than done, but I hope everything turns out okay.
This actually happened to me - except I thought I was barely 5 weeks along but the doctor thought I was over 8. I knew I had ovulated lateish but after I gave up on the cycle I stopped temping. Also since after a while I started temping again so I could figure out when AF was going to show up and my temp was staying high, I started testing but got tons of negatives before finally getting a positive. I ended up in the ER due to bleeding and my HCG levels were through the roof. I think they were 23,000 which is off the charts for 5 weeks but all they saw was an empty gestational sac. Three days later my HCG was 48,000 and I had a follow up ultrasound on the following day and there was a heartbeat. There are a bunch of websites that say the normal levels of HCG on the internet.
I would say especially if you had only recently gotten a positive test - say in the past 2-3 weeks not 5-6 weeks ago it is likely you just ovulated later than you thought.
The waiting is the worst. Great big hugs.
I'm so glad I check in tonight because yes yes yes!
With Andrew I knew exactly when we conceived. We were using OPK''s and the whole bit. Well at 6.5 weeks I was measuring 17 days behind. I immediately suspected that meant I didn't have a viable pregnancy but my Doc said everything looked really great so my dates HAD to be wrong. He seriously argued and argued with me until I finally told him that he was telling me that there was no way I could have even conceived by the date I already had a positive pregnancy test.
With that pregnancy I continued to measure behind until around the 20 week anatomy scan, with him catching up a little each ultrasound (high risk, I had tons of them).
When I got pregnant with Cooper I was a little surprised to see the exact same thing happened. I had my first appointment at 6 weeks and was measuring 14 days behind. Just like his brother he went on to be a perfectly normal pregnancy.
Everyone will tell you that early ultrasounds are like God and there is no way they can be off more than a day or so, well I'm here to tell you with living proof times two that it's not true!
I am crossing my fingers that, like me, you've just a got a LO that's off to a slow start! Big hugs Casey.
Thank you ALL for the support. I am so glad that I am not the only one that this has happened to. I read this to DH so I think that both of us feel a little better. I still think that 4 weeks is a bit much to be off by but I am hopeful. I mean...my pants are a little snug (or I ate waaayyyyy too much salt lately), been having a sour tummy for over a week and extreme exhaustion. All signs of PG. I am hopeful LO gets their butt in gear and starts to grow.
Hugs to you all!
Ang, How far along did you think you were when they only saw the sac? After sleeping on it, I still find it hard to believe that I could only be 5-6 weeks PG. Also I have been having some very light spotting since yesterday. It is probably from the exam, but still scary to know it is there. I wish I had an US machine at home......call me Tom Cruise...lol
Casey! Glad to hear it seems like you are a little bit calmer after sleeping on it... I have no advice but just wanted to offer a big huge hug. That first bit of waiting is so, so hard and the time seems to tick by so slowly. I hope you get answers so so SO soon and that it's nothing but good news. (hug)
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I echo every A said above. Huge hugs to you C!
When I first found out I was pregnant, my regular doctor estimated me at about 8 weeks. I knew this was completely incorrect and he wouldn't listen to me at all. I was religious about my birth control (my family tends to be VERY fertile) and knew exactly when I had stopped. He was saying we conceived about two weeks before I stopped taking it.
Anyhow, after the first ultrasound my OB assured me I was only 5 weeks along. 3 weeks felt like a big difference, but I had a gut feeling even before she told me that my PCP was wrong.
So don't fret-they do make mistakes.
I'm now almost 38 weeks and everything else has gone fine. I'm sure yours will too!