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Secondary IF
Advice Poll
In my RE appt today he joked about people giving fertility advice to people having T-TTC. What was the worst/most obvious/rage inducing advice you ever received?
Conceived DD after 15 cycles---
TTC #2 since 11/10---Me- Poor egg quality and supply---DH- Poor count and motility---2 rounds 75IU Follistim/IUI-BFN---5/12 150IU Follistim/IUI-Over-produced! Converted to IVF! 0 fertilized:( Rescue ICSI performed. 2 embryos transfered-BFN
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Re: Advice Poll
Mine is this:
Have you tried putting a pillow under your butt after sex? We did that and I got pregnant the first month.
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"Just stop stressing about it!"
Yeah, because I'm purposefully stressing, I love the worry/anxiety/depression that comes along with all of this!
3/11 DX: lean PCOS/anovulatory
9/11 ovarian drilling to remove cysts + 5mg Femara = BFN
10/11 5 mg Femara again = BFP, ectopic pregnancy at 5w4d
11/11 diagnosed with breast cancer
12/11 bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction
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"Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming"
Exactly this. Sometimes replace "stressing" with "obsessing," but that's just from DH.
People don't say such stupid stuff about m/c, at least in my experience. I don't really go into the fact that it takes us 3-4xs the average to get pg in the first place. People have asked about my possible lupus, blood clotting, and Rh status, but that doesn't count as stupid.
Some of the issues are probably connected to my metabolic disorder, but since there's been approximately zilch research done on it given that it has variable penetrance and no associated morbidity, who's to say?
TTC since 6/02 (age 22) K/U instantly despite no AF for 5 months--preemie baby boy 1/03
M/C 11/04 - M/C 05 - M/C 06 - BFP 2/08--fullterm baby girl 10/08 - M/C 4/11 - went to RE at age 31
DX: crappy quality & infrequent ovulation, mild MFI
Stimmed cycle #1 C/P 7/11 - Stimmed cycle #2 C/P 8/11 - Stimmed cycle #4 C/P 10/11
On Stimmed Cycle #5
Always thought I'd be a "mom of many"--now just hoping to be a "mom of one or two more!"
"Just wait - once you stop trying it'll totally happen!"
Really? REALLY? That's odd, because we can't get pregnant. and when we stop trying it will be because we are so beaten down by the process and have basically accepted the fact that our lives are NOT going to be what we envisioned and worked for. Or our relationship will have finally & completely disintegrated. Either way, that is not exactly the best environment for welcoming another child. And back to the original point: we can't get pregnant even with assistance. So you are wrong: it's not totally going to happen.
Beat it. Scram.
Got any more platitudes for me? hahaha woweeeeeeeeeeeeeee I am full of sunshine at 6 a.m.
sorry -- what is T-TTC? I know ttc but not with the extra "t"
The extra "T" is the one we're all stuck with: Trouble.
So, there is TTC (Trying To Conceive)
and
T-TTC or TTTC (Trouble Trying To Conceive)
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Miracle DD born 12.2005
TTC #2 since Dec 2008 w/ PCOS
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Keep it Natural, Baby!
This. Add to it the sentiment that I should stop taking meds/doing treatments and just pray. That's the ticket. Of course, if all it takes is prayer, then I don't even need DH and his swimmers, do I? Immaculate conception, anyone?
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Miracle DD born 12.2005
TTC #2 since Dec 2008 w/ PCOS
***P/SAIF Always Welcome***
Keep it Natural, Baby!
OMG! I hear this once a week. I want to take people back to health class to teach them how this happens. Even if we did stop timing, taking meds, using OPKs, etc, I would STILL be thinking about it. Maybe even more because I wasn't doing all I could to make it happen. So annoying.
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I cannot really think of any annoying advice that people have given me recently. Early on, people told me to just relax too. Even they probably see we are beyond that point now.
Also, I know people are just trying to be positive, so its hard to get aggravated with them, but I feel uncomfortable when they say, "it will surely happen, you will have a another one before you know it, your DD will have a sibling, dont worry! etc. etc"
First of all, I maybe not, maybe we will not surely have another one (im very close to letting go of trying for my sanity). Second of all, it is not going to be the end of the world if we do not, so do not act like having just one child is going to put us in some pathetic category. I know that's not what they mean, but my testy nerves just cant take it.
YES!! So true. I am trying not to try, but I know too much. I can't help but notice CM every day and think about symptoms, etc. and of course I'm checking the bump multiple times a day.
I'm not sure that this was advice, but my first RE said that he would treat me "because he has nothing to lose"
The 2nd RE said that I was "more likely to conceive on my own" ... REALLY? Because I've been doing that, and it hasn't worked the last year or so.
i went for a checkup to my OB, while in treatment with the RE....the OB she said to me..." my prescription for you as your doctor would be go to go away on a vacation without your daugther a few times...."
um REALLY?? is that going to help my egg quality and my uterine lining?? and do u know anything about infertility??!
was shocked to hear it from my OB!
All of these and the worse to date was from my lovely oldest sister while we were at the beach.
We were sitting in the sand and she said out of the blue. "You know, knowing what I know now, ((I woudn't trade Lily (my niece) for anything)), but knowing what I know now, we would have stopped at one. If it doesn't happen just take that as a sign. You shouldn't pay to have another child."
I took every ounce of willpower not to drown her in the ocean. I didn't say anything to her, but I was thinking, "B!tch, you are not me. I actually discipline my child and two will be difficult but it won't be as rough as you have it because I actually parent my child and don't give into their every tantrum/whim/whatever!"
eta: basically telling me if it doesn't happen naturally, it just wasn't meant to be!!
Yep my friend who knows everything we went through and already has 3 kids tried 3 months for a 4th and was crying to me on the phone about how something is probably wrong and talking about IF treatments. She is 33. It took so much willpower to listen to her...
I agree also on the 'just relax and quit trying.' that always drove me nuts.
oh the same friend when we were still trying for #1 told me that maybe her and her husband could just have a baby for me because they barely touch eachother and get pg.... great. thanks.
Wow - kudos to you for NOT drowning her in the ocean! Sorry she had to be so insensitive!