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Still Torn-When to switch? WWYD

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Sorry this is long. So T right now is in the smallest bedroom in the house. We plan on moving her into what is now our office and keeping her current room for the new baby. We had been planning to just keep her in her crib because she does fine in there and has no issues with trying to climb out. She actually seems to really like her crib. Here's where I'm torn, in addition to moving her into a new room, I also need to (very soon) try and wean her from falling asleep with my in our bed before transferring her into her own every night. DH is really pressuring me to do this because he said when the new baby gets here it's going to be tough for me to do that with her. I personally don't mind doing most nights but there are some that she does take forever to fall asleep and I don't get anything done because by the time I lay her down in her bed it's almost my bedtime....but overall I really love that time with her. So my concern is that moving her into a new room, changing her sleep method, converting her crib into a toddler bed, and introducing a new baby to our family would be too much change all at once for her. Also we have been procrastinating on converting the bed because the dogs sleep upstairs at night with us. Usually on their beds which are on the floor on each side of mine and DH's bed, but our little dog (and most reactive) sleeps in the hallway a lot of night at the top of the stairs so we wouldn't want T roaming around in the dark at night trying to get to us. We will probably have to gate or lock her into her room. What would you do?

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  • MrsWhiteonWhiteStMrsWhiteonWhiteSt

    I would do it all at once. Just make her new room and bed super pretty with her favorite things/decor and explain it's her big girl room. Try all the changes at once and hope for the best- that she'll just adapt. If not you have like 15 weeks for a plan B.

    We gated J in his room for the 1st few months he had a bed and it was fine. Even now he just calls for me when he wants to get up. He will never leave his room without me.

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  • NikColeNikCole
    imageMrsWhiteonWhiteSt:

    I would do it all at once. Just make her new room and bed super pretty with her favorite things/decor and explain it's her big girl room. Try all the changes at once and hope for the best- that she'll just adapt. If not you have like 15 weeks for a plan B.

    I would go this route too. 

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  • skroopsskroops
    I think you should do it all at once too. Would you consider moving her to a twin bed instead of the toddler bed and then you could still cuddle with her at bedtime, but in her bed instead of yours? But then again I have been known to get into Zoey's toddler bed with her and cuddle -haha! Even though we technically are way above the weight limit (especially when I was pg), we never had any problems.
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  • TelycoTelyco

    I definitely wouldn't do it all at once...which is why we kept Evan in his crib when we moved. I thought a new house, new room, new bed would be too much for him. Some kids do great with the transition to a bed - some don't, or some have regression once a LO arrives and is crying in the middle of the night. Evan was 13.5 months when we brought Leah home - so obviously we didn't transition him...but it was great to know that he was safe and not roaming around his room waiting for me to come and get him when I was tied down nursing or whatever.

    I think that getting DD to be 100% sleep trained before #2 comes should be your #1 priority...I see posts all the time on the 2 under 2 board asking for help with #1 because they didn't train him/her to put themselves to sleep. I could not imagine Evan being so needy at bedtime while I had a newborn...I would have gone nutso. Esp if #2 ends up being colicky around the typical 7-11ish times - you won't have the time to lay with DD for hours.

    I guess I just didn't have any of that mushiness - I think I was terrified of having kids that close and wanted to do everything I could to prepare myself for the worst case scenario, kwim? Life was SO much easier (physically and mentally- for all of us) because we could just say, ok bedtime! and Evan would go to his room and wait to be kissed and plopped into his bed and lights out until we came in to get him the next morning. Now if we can only figure out the billion other things...

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  • TinyPinkBugTinyPinkBug member

    We put the kids in full size beds.  This way we can lay with them in their rooms as needed.  We also take turns as to who is going to put which kid to bed, so it isn't always on me.  I say you could try it for one night in her new room with the new bed, but if it doesn't seem to be going well you could try something else.

    Only you really know if she will actually stay in bed or not.  Neither of my kids ever would no matter what.  Some kids are good sleepers and some are not.  I keep the kids doors closed with child proofs on them.  Both of them would get up and come down stairs at night, or worse, go out the front door!

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