BF older babies

kjohn091 · July 2011

so I am EBF now and plan to continue up until a year and a half or so, not sure exactly. But neways, i am getting soo many comments even now at 10 months, " OMG, youre still BF, when r u going to stop, why are u BF so long... blah blah. and I havent even said to family that i will continue beyond a year. So I am wondering if anyone else gets these comments? What do u say back? and for those that do BF older babies... is it just like mornings, naps and night type of thing? I am wondering if I have to coninue to pump at work if she is only BF 4-5 times a day. THANKS!!

MrsCAA · July 2011

at 12 1/2 months we started to cut back. (at that point ds was BF: wake up, before and after his 2 naps, and at bedtime) Doing 1 feeding a wk. Until we are just doing wake-up and bedtime now. But plan on starting to drop those soon since DS is giving me clues that he is getting ready to stop (not wanting to nurse for 1/2 the time and then 20 min later going to the fridge wanting his milk). Also nursing during the day- DS just wasnt interested in food, and has a huge texture problem so wouldnt chew anything. So not nursing has helped that a little, since before was "i dont want those peas [or other food], i'll just demand to nurse as soon as i'm out of the highchair"

I blow off most of the comments. It did help once i dropped all the day feedings, so in the mornings and bedtime its just me, DS & DH at home. DH used to make comments, but he just goes and plays his video games downstairs while i nurse and he knows that once DS stops nursing so does his game time.

shotzie · July 2011

If people make comments, you can educate them about the benefits of extended breastfeeding. www.kellymom.com has a good info page about it. I only had one friend who made negative comments about me bf'ing past one year. DD was down to nursing about 3 times a day and then tapered off when my supply tanked after I got pregnant. Once DD was 13/14 mos, not many people asked me if I was still bf'ing. People won't really know since it's only a couple times a day - not all the time like when LO was a newborn. Keep it up, you know you're doing what's best for your LO!

TheOriginalSP · July 2011

I got a lot of comments when she was younger (like 5 months) about how I was still nursing her. When I told them that I was going to continue until at least a year, maybe longer, the comments eventually died down.

Now nobody bats and eye when I nurse DD. Although when they find out I'm pregnant and still nursing her they might give me a double take!

kami1977 · July 2011

DS is 16 months and we're still going strong, my goal is 2 years. At the beginning when family, DH or friends would ask how long I planned to go I would trot out that World Health Organization recommends BF through at least age 2 and as long as mom and child wish to continue. That has quieted most people down.

As for nursing on a typical day we still nurse a lot but most sessions are 5 minutes if that and I think he just wants to reconnect some of the time. That said at about 13 months I instituted a no nursing in public rule, except for exceptional circumstances airplane, doctor's office. So if we're out and about at the time he usually nurses he doesn't get to nurse. I no longer pump, so if I leave him with the sitter during the nap time he gets water to drink and snacks. Nursing and BM is something he only gets when we're together now, and it seems to work.

rodiesmum · August 2011

i get a lot of comments and frankly, i dont care what they think. if its close, close family, i tell them id BF until LO self weans. And then i get this question, what if she's six. Then i'd say "i was thinking 66." they shut up.

mrsg052904 · August 2011

I saw this comment posted when I was nursing, so I used it! I nursed DS until he was 18 months old). When people would ask how long I planned to nurse (with judgement in their voice), I would say "I think until I drop him off at college." That would end the comments. If they asked out of curiosity and not a judgmental kind of way, I would say I didn't knowand would stop when I or DS was ready to stop.

Lhyacinth888 · August 2011

I think it's a generation thing too... I know when my Mom and MIL were having babies doctor's told them formula was best so they are ignorant to all the research that has been done regarding the health benefits of breast feeding for LO and M. My M never says anything really but she always asks me "so are you still planning on bfing for a year or so" and I say "yes I am!"... and the conversation ends.

CarolinaGirl051708 · August 2011

At a year, we cut back to 2x/day (am and pm). People pretty much stopped commenting b/c they never saw it. Really only my DH knew I was still nursing, and he fully supports it. A few friends have asked me recently if I am still nursing. When I say yes, I get the question. My response is that I plan to let her self-wean and that the WHO recommends BF until at least two and the AAP recommends BF until at LEAST one and then as long as baby and momma want after that. I get defensive and kinda nasty with them, which is not in my personality. But it's something that I worked SOOOO hard to learn how to do. I struggled so much in the beginning, and it is one of my greatest accomplishments! Be proud of what you are doing!!!

mrs.mastro · August 2011

DS is down to wake up, before nap and before bed. I only nurse him (no bottles), so I guess it seems especially weird to some people. Mostly only family members know because it's not all day long, but strangely they seem to be the most judgmental! My mom actually said to me: "oh, it's time to dry up!" the other night. It really makes me mad but I am beyond even responding to those kind of comments at this point.

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