My long, exhausting weekend. (Long.)
blindvictory
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DH's family reunion was this weekend. His mom's side all get together at KY Dam Village and spend the weekend being themselves. Which means it's loud, hectic, and involves lots of Scrabble.
DH and I decided to tell his parents that we're expecting, and figured it'd be fun to do it under the guise of a birthday present for his dad. (His birthday is tomorrow.) We gave him a onesie and a bib all wrapped up that said things like "Grandpa's little helper." His reaction was wonderful...exactly what I hoped it would be. But then things went a little south. DH's mom looked at me and says, "Oh, well, there's no way you can keep this a secret." I explained that, yes, I could. All it takes is keeping your mouth shut. But she insisted that there was "NO WAY." I felt like she was basically telling me, "Either you tell, or I will." Our plan had been to only tell our parents and my best friend until around 8 weeks, and then we'd tell family. But I agreed, for the sake of keeping the peace, to go ahead and tell DH's direct family. (Aunts, uncles, cousins.) Their reactions were really gratifying and it was nice for someone to share our excitement. It still was a little uncomfortable for me, though, because it just wasn't what I had planned. There's still such a high risk of loss at this point, and I don't want to have to "un-tell" a bunch of people.
The next day, DH's mom asks if she can tell Judy, her cousin. I may have gotten a little snappy at that point and flat out told her no. I already made a huge concession because of her and told WAY more people than I wanted to. She knows exactly why I wanted to wait, because I tried to explain it to her, but she still pressured me to share the news. And she's seriously asking me if she can tell more people? Freaking no. I am almost regretting telling her at this point. It was definitely a dark spot on the otherwise fun weekend.
Has anyone else experienced pressure like this? It completely caught me off guard, and I wish I had been better prepared to just say no right up front.
Re: My long, exhausting weekend. (Long.)
Micah Leonard
DD #1 born 4/1/2012
My Married Bio
The annoying thing is, she would very much beg to differ. When she wanted to tell her sister, I asked her, "Shouldn't I be the one to tell? It's my news." She flat out told me, "No, it's my news, too!" Sorry, missed the memo that YOU are the one pregnant with my child.
When we told them the news, she hugged DH and said "My baby is having a baby!" And just to remind her, in case she forgot, I commented, "Actually, I'M the one having the baby. DH helped, but I'm the pregnant one."
If it makes you feel even REMOTELY better, we told my MIL yesterday. (we are an vacation this week at the beach with them, I would have been called out about not drinking all week), and she had, like no reaction at all. As in "Oh. That's nice." Then she told me "I thought you might have been pregnant the last time I saw you.
The last time she saw me I was 3 DPO.
I told her "No, just looking fat, I guess."
That really sucks and wow mamamegan! I always thank God that I have a really great MIL.....yeah try not to let it ruin anymore of your happiness
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We went ahead and told most of our parents and an Aunt, grandparents etc. and changed our Facebook pages to temporarily not allow anyone to comment on either of our Walls or photos in case someone in the family slips....