pregnant after losing my son
well, im pregnant..horay! i am very excited, although i am as worried as i am happy. in april i had a c-section with my son at 23 weeks. i woke up one morning and was in terrible pain (having contractions). my bf rushed me to the hospital and i was already 5 cm dilated. i was horrified. they gave me 2 shots of steroids to try and prepare his lungs for delivery. 4 days later i was fully dilated and for fear of him slipping down into the birth canal they performed a c-section. he was 1 pound and tiny. seeing him in that incubator with a ventilator helping him breath was gut wrenching. all i wanted to to was hold him, and put him back in my belly. after 10 days he got a bad infection and passed away. i thought id never breath again. it was like dying myself. my bf and i had been trying for sometime to get pregnant and before my son we had a misscarriage at 6 weeks. after my son passed i wasnt sure if i would ever want to be pregnant again, for fear of the same thing happening. my ob was a total idiot. i actually bled all through the pregnancy and would call her every week trying to get her to run tests or figure out what was wrong. after the whole ordeal i went for a check up, i asked her if there was anything that we could do next time, she handed me a pamphlet and said "it happens." i couldnt believe it. i left her office and went right to a fertility Dr. he found that i have a blood clotting dissorder with a mthfr gene mutation. that is what caused pre term labor. anyway, i am pregnant now, exactly 3 months after my son was born and i am scared to death. i will have to be on heparin shots all through this pregnancy. has anyone else been though anything like this?
Re: pregnant after losing my son
First off, I am so very sorry for your loss. We lost our Emily at 20w2d and know exactly how you felt. The thought of moving forward seemed impossible, but here we are. I wish you a very happy and healthy 9 months and I hope you find these ladies to be the source of support and kindness that I have
I am very sorry for your loss!
We lost our son, Gabriel, at 22 weeks due to a cord accident. We went back and forth between trying again and being grateful for the three blessings we already had. We were told to wait 3 - 6 months before TTC again and we decided in April 2011 that we would try again.
Here I am, 7 weeks pregnant! It is hard and every day I worry. I found a new, amazing OB/GYN who I adore and she has been great about getting me in for beta level testing and early u/s.
Good luck to you!
bfp#2 2/14/11? cerclage placed at 13 weeks
?DS 9/29/11 36 wks 3 days 8lb 20 1/4" ?
bfp#3 12/15/12 CP 12/27/12
bfp#4 2/25/13
beta#1 51 beta#2 163 beta#3 1,370
Unfortunately I have almost the exact same story. Jan 09 I found I was pregnant with out would be 2nd baby. Around 8 weeks I started to bleed and it continued.... It was found that a part of the sac didn't fully adhere to my ute so it started to collect blood and the blood kept leaking out. Around 16 w my water broke due to the blood wearing down the bag of water. At 20 w I started having contractions and it was found that I had an infection so they had to induce me as I would have lost my ute and the baby if the infection spread . My dear son only lived 4 hrs on the outside. And being so early there was not much they did or said they could do.
So I understand where you are coming from with the bleeding and the loss. When I finally got preg again with DD#2 I had consistant cervix checks and was on 17P shots weekly from 20 w on. This preg will be the same but the shots will start at 16 wk. I changed docs as well be cause my doc for my son was just a pain and so cold no feeling for what we were going through.
GL T&P's that you have a H&H 9 months and your worry gets to convert to the love of a lo.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I went into labor and delivered my twins at just over 13 weeks. Definitely a different situation, but I had also been bleeding throughout the pregnancy. I have not been diagnosed with a definite clotting disorder yet, but they suspect that I have one. I am currently on baby aspirin and Lovenox injections daily until 34 weeks, when I will be switched to Heparin. It's not fun, but it's not awful and is totally worth it.
Congratulations on this pregnancy and welcome to the board. I hope you find lots of comfort and support here. Wishing you a happy, healthy and uneventful 9 months.
BFP#1 - 9/2/10, EDD 5/14/11, Twins Hannah and Liam lost 11/7/10 @ 13w1d.
BFP #2 - 2/9/11, EDD 10/13/11, LO lost 2/13/11 @ 5w4d
BFP #3 - 5/9/11, DS born 1/13/12
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