September 2011 Moms
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am i totally off the wall for side-eyeing this???
laurasuzanne2006
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FB friend has her son 4 days ago. Her status is about how she "put him in the swing and he was fussy but now he he is quiet and likes it...lol." I realize I may be a crunchy attachment parenting type. but I just can't imagine letting a four day old newborn be fussy because i just didn't feel like holding him. Don't get me wrong, our baby will definately get put down, not saying they should be held 24/7 and can never be put down. I nannied for a little girl who was extremely fussy and yes i would let her be fussy at times, but she was also several months old. I'm all about the never say never thing, but i have a hard time believing i could let my four day old baby fuss in a swing especially for a first child, even just for several minutes when i could just be cuddling them. Like i say, maybe i'm just too crunchy 
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Re: am i totally off the wall for side-eyeing this???
LMAO! Word, eventually, you just have to say hell with it for a few minutes and, you know, take care of basic needs.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
you know how it is. when you get the urge, you take advantage of it.
Dude, this scares the HELL out of me! What if I bust back open?
I loved to hold DS1 & I loved to wear him in a baby carrier until he was almost two but I found the swing to be a great help too & used it (not excessively though) from the first couple of days he was home! Honestly one of his favorite things was to be swaddled & popped into the swing. He was happy & I was able to get a few things done.
I think its a very individual thing. As long as a parent is not leaving the child in the swing/carseat/crib for hours on end I don't see it as too awful!
Haha...yeah you probably don't really like her so you look for something in her posts. Nothing wrong with that.
Obviously babies can be fussy for a few moments and then calm down.. but I thought that early on they pretty much always need something when crying..?
ETA: If the baby just fussed for a couple seconds before relaxing that's completely different than letting baby cry in the swing while you are busy updating facebook. Thats probably all it was. and LOL at the "when you gotta go, you gotta go" comments.
"What did my fingers do before they held you? What did my heart do with it's love?"
I would like to talk to someone 6 months from now who didn't need to put their baby down for 5 minutes to have a human moment. Bathroom, escape from insanity and delirium, whatever. You need to put your kid down, no matter how crunchy you are, and sometimes they are going to fuss about it... but you don't stop being a human because you have a kid, and no one on earth can be 'on' 24 hours a day.
i'm ASSuming that since the fb status included mentioning that the baby was no longer crying that she wasn't updating fb while the baby was crying.
BranBuds cereal, throw-up Metamucil, and Benefiber are my ''frenemies." My new-mommy girlfriends have already told me to demand for laxitives at the hospital immediately after I give birth (if I haven't been given them already), and one of them gave me a bottle of Septikot (an herbal laxitive that the pharmacist told me was safe to take for the first 1-2wks max). "Busting the back open" is one thing that I'm definitely terrified about! So I'm going to do everything in my power not to have that happen!
uhh. yea me too.which is why I wrote the bolded statement above.......?
"What did my fingers do before they held you? What did my heart do with it's love?"
sorry. misread. i thought you were saying that's all it was meaning she was letting the baby cry.
no problem.. I can see it being read that way
"What did my fingers do before they held you? What did my heart do with it's love?"
Maybe I am what you call "crunchy" too because I find it odd that she would post something like that on FB in fear that people would assume... and that is what we're doing here... that she is already tired of being a new mommy and needs a break.
I would love to think that I will want to hold him every single second when he finally arrives but I'm going with the BTDT moms and thinking i'll want to use the swing too.
However, your post made me think of a girl I work with. She just had her baby last Saturday and on Wednesday she brought him into work (a major dept store) and let people hold him! I was mortified! I can't even fathom passing my little 4 day old baby around to a bunch of women who have been dealing with the public and touching money all day. NTM we have concrete floors with tile on top. Weird.
yes, your ob should give you a stool softener perscription IN the hospital and they will advise you as you order your meals in recovery to include things with fiber and eat healthy. etc.
you should talk to you doc about it now if you're that concerned. let them explain how it works and how to use the bathroom and take care of thing down there during your 6 wks recovery. A nurse may even help you in the bathroom the first time you change yourself. Icepacks, tucks pads, cream and two maxi's - I call it the sub sandwich. LOL!!!