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March 2012 Moms
Disapointed by peoples reactions...
So we have told all of my family including flying down to FL and telling my mom this weekend. Everyone was over the moon for us... seriously my mother wouldn't stop hugging me and crying... everyone was so happy for us.... everyone except his family.
Now I know they love me, they say so all the time and they have always been so great. My husband comes from 6 brothers and sister, none married, no kids. So these are the first grand babies, two of them! His parents didn't even hug us... his sister told me that lucky it was us because my FIL told her years ago he didn't want grand kids from her...wtf! (Yeah we originally were going to tap her to be godmother to one...now I'm gonna fight that!)
I didn't expect fireworks, but really? And my DH is all... "they were excited". I was really bummed, mostly for him. I think after seeing my families reactions he was kinda let down but didn't want to admit it... I as well as my husband are thrilled and I don't give a crap what other people think, so I've chosen to ignore it.
anyone else have this issue? Sorry this is soooo long!
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Re: Disapointed by peoples reactions...
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I'm really happy for you - hooray for twins!!
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
That sounds like a higher degree of what I experienced when we told our families. GMIL was excited; she's 88 and thinks it's just wonderful. IL's were even pretty happy about it. My parents... were... surprised. They said congrats and all, but sounded like they were too much in shock, especially since BFP came 3 weeks after we had just gone to visit them.
I honestly wasn't expecting a buttload of excitement, seeing as my dad knows what it's like to have babies so close together in age (my two will be 13 months apart, my older sister and twin&I are only 11 months apart).
I'm sorry you were disappointed. I have to say though some people show their excitement differently or maybe after having 6 kids, they started to look at expecting differently, if that makes sense.
My DH and I go through similar things as his family is huggers, mine not so much. Doesn't mean there isn't as much love, just different ways of showing it.
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I don't know you and I'M SUPER EXCITED FOR YOU....CONGRATS AND TWINS !!! I can relate a bit....My father's side of the family really didn't care..i wasn't expecting fireworks either, but at least a sincere congrats!! Oh well, honestly I didn't let that bother me, I enjoyed the hugs of my family, mom's side and In laws.....
Congrats on your twins, and don't let that bother you too much. Once your in laws see those beautiful babies, they are going to change their mind.
Not that this excuses their behavior, but perhaps they're overwhelmed? Two babies is some pretty big news and it can be daunting!
My mom has not been happy for our pregnancies any time we've told her. DH and I are both over 30, we own our home (mortgage) we're both in steady careers, have our bachelors (i have my masters) we have no credit card debt, still my mom always says she worries about how we'll handle things. It's the worrier in her. GL, I hope things get better. My mom has warmed up immensely since LO arrived!
Thanks ladies,
I think it's the hormones in me that make me dwell on this. I know they will be excited, and your 100% right his family is very different from mine. I guess it's partly my fault for building up the expectation... anyway thanks again... I needed to vent a bit