I don't think he realises we have a baby coming in 4-5 weeks.
We have a cabin in northern NM. Its about 3 hours drive away. While I love to spend time there in the summer, & have spent a good amount up there this year, I feel its time to stay a little closer to home now for obvious reasons.
DH is up there this weekend & I am ok with that. The cabin is in a high fire danger area so he has worked hard this summer clearing the lot. He wants to try go up again next & the following weekend & wants me to make it up with him at least next weekend. He's pushing it IMO. I told him I need to be home & that he should be too. Not that I feel I am going to go into labor early (although thats always a possibility) I would like to stay home & get organised.
However, even if he stays home with me he doesn't help much. He is great for taking care of 4 yr old DS & believe me I am very grateful for that but thats about it! In addition to my job, I prepare our meals, grocery shop, laundry, clean & all the other household stuff. His jobs include putting out the trash once a week, watering the yard (which I end up doing anyway because he forgets ), & maintenance on our cars.
I have given him a few simple tasks with regard to the new baby & he has failed miserably - one was taking out DS1's baby carseat to clean it & make sure it is still up to regulation. Never did it! After about a month of me asking him to do it, I did it myself.
We had been using the cradle in our bedroom for sheet/towel storage for the past 4 years. Finally on Tuesday night I cleaned it out, folded all the sheets & found a place for them on top of our closet which I can't reach without climbing a ladder. I asked DH to do it as soon as he could. The sheets are still on top of our dresser waiting to be put in the closet.
And there are numerous little things like that never get done by DH that I have to end up doing myself. Aside from his trips to the cabin he is not busy. Most evenings he gets home from work earlier than I do & when I get home he is parked in front of the TV. When I say something he starts pouting & sulking & says that he works hard all day & is entitled to relax in the evenings. And I don't work?
I am so tired at the moment & all I want to do is get stuff in order so I can relax a little closer to my due date. I don't think its too much to ask but somehow the few things I need him to help with seems to be too much for him to do. Its driving me a bit crazy right now!