Is anyone not doing a gender reveal party but me? Family doesnt live here

courtneyklv · July 2011

Is it really a norm to have a gender reveal party with friends and family? Both of our families live in other states. Our friends are all younger with no kids. I LOVE planning parties and want to have one..but I would think maybe they would think it is silly.

What do u think?

rebeccaontherocks · July 2011

I don't think it is the "norm" but some people like to do it.

I just called my parents and IL's and siblings from my cellphone after leaving the u/s and told them. It was still exciting for me

ETA: for everyone else I posted a profile pic of the u/s on FB and said DS is getting a baby brother! Everyone was excited for us.

TruN · July 2011

Lucky and smart of you to come up with the idea. I wish i would had thought of this. Dame wish i could have did things differenlty !lol i think you should take your idea and have that celebration.

missjenna84 · July 2011

Honestly, I've never been to, see of, or heard of a gender reveal party until I saw posts on this board! So no, I don't think it's "the norm".

I don't plan on having one. We're just having some close family members wait in the waiting from to get the news! Everyone else will find out the "usual" way I suppose, lol.

karinothing · July 2011

My gender reveal party will be called the birth. I figure that is party enough for everyone.

iluvmylab · July 2011

No, we just called our parents and they will spread the news to aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. and I sent a text message to my closest friends. I think gender reveal parties are AW and excessive.

uncharch7 · July 2011

iluvmylab:
No, we just called our parents and they will spread the news to aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. and I sent a text message to my closest friends. I think gender reveal parties are AW and excessive.

ITA. my family and friends would laugh at me if we had a party for this reason.

Nichie2 · July 2011

I do NOT think it is attention seeking. I think it is a great idea, but I understand it depends on the family. I had a gender reveal cake, but it was at a family graduation party we were already having. While family was already here, we just cut a baby cake instead of a graduation cake. Everyone LOVED it. I didn't plan a party specifically for this purpose, just rolled it into something we already had going on. I think if you CAN do it, and WANT to do it, go for it! I wouldn't say its the norm either. None of my family or friends had ever heard of/seen it before either, BUT I have lots of people who WANT to do it now because of our celebration. For us, it was just a fun way of sharing. If its not something your family would be into, I say skip it. If its something you want to do, and can arrange, I say GO for it! But I do not think its attention seeking at all! EJNOY!

iluvmylab · July 2011

Nichie2:
I do NOT think it is attention seeking. I think it is a great idea, but I understand it depends on the family. I had a gender reveal cake, but it was at a family graduation party we were already having. While family was already here, we just cut a baby cake instead of a graduation cake. Everyone LOVED it. I didn't plan a party specifically for this purpose, just rolled it into something we already had going on. I think if you CAN do it, and WANT to do it, go for it! I wouldn't say its the norm either. None of my family or friends had ever heard of/seen it before either, BUT I have lots of people who WANT to do it now because of our celebration. For us, it was just a fun way of sharing. If its not something your family would be into, I say skip it. If its something you want to do, and can arrange, I say GO for it! But I do not think its attention seeking at all! EJNOY!

I would not want to "steal anyone's thunder" by interjecting my news on someone else's big event. I think if only immediate family are included and it's a small affair, that's much better, but I don't get having some big party. Most people are waiting on pins and needles to find out the sex of your baby. Sure they are excited and want to know, but I just don't get why people have to make a big production out of everything.

That's JMO- if you want to do it, I say go for it and have fun!

tonychelle · July 2011

Ive never heard of them before being on these boards either (and it's my first so I dunno). My mom/stepdad were at my ultrasound when we (officially) found out. and my dad/family live in another state, so I called them...as well as other important people. I don't know if I could have kept a secret long enough to have a party anyway. ha

Cristal604 · July 2011

I think it's a relatively new idea, and totally fine, not "attention wanting" or excessive, especially if it is a small, casual gathering. If we decide to find out we might do one, just with parents and our siblings and a couple of friends. I just love parties, and will look for any excuse to cook and bake for people.

cathom7 · July 2011

I think it's a touch silly to have a big, huge whole party for it, but if you want to just have people over(in general) and surprise everyone, I don't see an issue with that, esp if you like planning and throwing parties. We have family out of town, and it's different this time with our 2nd. I only want to make it fun for him;0) What we are going to do, is go to Mom's for dinner/Cowboys game. And then at halftime, whoever wants to webcam CAN and DS will open a "Big Brother" shirt, and then he will get to open a "Little sister or brother" shirt. A little more fun than a phone call and all done at once. LOL

kgt103 · July 2011

I've never even heard of that. I think people have too many parties just to get people to buy them things....

capulet · July 2011

I'd never heard of gender reveal parties before TB, and I know a *lot* of people with babies.

hdmeza · July 2011

Our family is close knit and live in the same small town..so we just told everyone we would tell them at dinner at XYZ restaurant..then has the color inside cake balls. It was not a big event..everyone bought their own dinner, and those who were busy got a phone call...no pressure, but our family gets together nearly weekly for random events anyways.

Waiting4myJulyBaby · July 2011

I didn't do one with DS or this baby and no one I know in real life has done one either- I've only read about them online but I do think they're cute.

I called all of our family and told them what we were having and on FB I posted "Oh BOY... or is it a GIRL?!" and let my friends guess while I finished making my phone calls then I posted "It's a GIRL!" a little while later

Nichie2 · July 2011

iluvmylab:
Nichie2:
I do NOT think it is attention seeking. I think it is a great idea, but I understand it depends on the family. I had a gender reveal cake, but it was at a family graduation party we were already having. While family was already here, we just cut a baby cake instead of a graduation cake. Everyone LOVED it. I didn't plan a party specifically for this purpose, just rolled it into something we already had going on. I think if you CAN do it, and WANT to do it, go for it! I wouldn't say its the norm either. None of my family or friends had ever heard of/seen it before either, BUT I have lots of people who WANT to do it now because of our celebration. For us, it was just a fun way of sharing. If its not something your family would be into, I say skip it. If its something you want to do, and can arrange, I say GO for it! But I do not think its attention seeking at all! EJNOY!
I would not want to "steal anyone's thunder" by interjecting my news on someone else's big event. I think if only immediate family are included and it's a small affair, that's much better, but I don't get having some big party. Most people are waiting on pins and needles to find out the sex of your baby. Sure they are excited and want to know, but I just don't get why people have to make a big production out of everything.
That's JMO- if you want to do it, I say go for it and have fun!

Understandable and respectful, but it was my husband's idea to have the gender reveal at the same party as his graduation party. It was about 20 of our closest family and friends in attendance, nothing over the top, and just some food and drinks...an opportunity for everyone to get together, and have 2 celebrations in one.

Nichie2 · July 2011

kgt103:
I've never even heard of that. I think people have too many parties just to get people to buy them things....

I don't think gender reveal warrants gifts either. We made that very clear. It was just a fun way of finding out. I agree..you don't want to look like you are begging people for gifts.

pinksweetpea2 · July 2011

Personally, I think they are cheesy and I definitely do not think they are the norm.

MrsKujawski · July 2011

i think they're silly. you have a gender reveal party and a baby shower? i feel like maybe to make the baby shower more interesting you can reveal the gender then (just have you're registry neutral tones).

i plan on calling my parents, and dh will call his, then we'll post on FB.

themorgans08 · July 2011

I think a small, low-key one would be fun, but don't really have anyone to invite! Our family does not live near. And lots of our close friends are going through infetility issues, or have recently lost a baby, so I would not want to put them through a gender reveal party. We will make phone call and texts.

PS We find out TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm not going to get a lot of sleep tonight

Ruby_Soho · July 2011

I think they're totally AWish and gift grabby. I would be totally cool with making some pink or blue cupcakes and bringing them to dinner at my parents' house or having them over to ours if they lived on this side of the world but a party or occasion specifically for revealing gender is ridiculous!

luckylindy · July 2011

I'm not doing one. We live on the West Coast while my family and friends live on the East Coast. Besides, even if we were all in the same state, I wouldn't do one.

alpine1976 · July 2011

I think they are relatively new. I had never heard of gender reveal parties/cakes until both my mom and dad called me about it. It was featured earlier this summer on the Today Show or Good Morning America and they called to tell me about it. Then I saw it pop up on an online news feed a few days after that.

Both of our families live in town and DH loves entertaining. I plan on inviting in-laws and my parents plus my grandmother who lives with them, for a family bbq/dinner, without telling them what we are getting together for, and have a cake then. Both families get together regularly for dinners and birthdays so it's not anything really different for us.

I don't think its AWish or gift grabby at all. Well maybe a little AWish but it's with the grandparents for goodness sake... it all depends on how you do it of course.

cmorganopie · July 2011

This is one of those things that I don't really understand. I don't know why anyone outside of my family would be interested. I also don't understand all the fuss over second showers and 40 dollar cloth diapers. I guess that my surprise pregnancy with number 3 has made me super practical.

EveryNameIWantIsTaken · July 2011

This was something I never had heard of until this pregnancy, and I have been around the bump since first trimester of ds. Quite frankly, I think they are silly but to each their own.

asyph107 · July 2011

We wanted to do one this time but its too hectic during the summer and the fact that we could know what the baby is and our moms wouldn't was making them so anxious and sad. They really wanted to know, so we decided against it a week or so before our a/s and then just called them the day we went.

NikkiD419 · July 2011

I honestly had never heard of them until I started posting on TB. We just called and told our families after the appointemnt. They were super excited to find out and I don't think I could have made them wait for a reveal party even if I wanted to

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forensicmama · July 2011

I didn't. My family is also all a state away.

varkeyr · July 2011

I didn't because family lives so far. All I did was send a picture of the baby to my father for Father's Day. My u/s was right before.

If you want to do one I say go for it.

lovemypups1 · July 2011

No they arent normal. I would never attend one even if invited. They are AWish, and with the exception of me, mh, and a few close family members, the gender of my children affects no one.

courtneyklv · July 2011

kgt103:
I've never even heard of that. I think people have too many parties just to get people to buy them things....

LOL and TRUE!!!!

courtneyklv · July 2011

By the way..thank you for the replies everyone! Great answers! I think I am going to take a photo of myself wearing jeans and a black tee and wrap either a blue or pink ribbon with a bow around my belly.. Then use my Iphone App 'colorsplash' to make everything black and white except the bow. I will post that on facebbook.

alkinney · July 2011

We didn't, and my family is local. We just told our families individually (showed them the ultrasound pix), and then made an announcement. I think it's a cute idea... but we're just not into the big parties for that. A lot of my friends have done it and it's great fun for them.

hillbillysunshine · August 2011

I've never even HEARD of a gender reveal party! Does the sex of my baby really necessitate a party?! My friends and family would think I'm nuts.

kcyoung7219 · August 2011

I'm not having that or a baby shower and I'm proud of it!

Becky&Barrett · August 2011

It's not the norm where I am from. My ultrasound is tomorrow and I will have the results put in a sealed envelope because my DH and family can't be there. We want to find out but I thought this would be more special than just telling my DH. With my first we told everyone over the phone. With my 2nd we waited till delivery to share. We wanted something special for the 3rd. Each child will have different momentos/stories about how they came into the world and that's important to me!

Summer0715 · August 2011

We did one but it was combined with a typical summer BBQ (we tend to do at least 2 a summer). When it came time to announce we had my dad open a cupcake into which I had inserted blue colored frosting. He was excited to be the center of attention for a few minutes (he's very excited about this grandchild) and everyone thought it was a great way to add a little extra something to a normal event.

kittykat0401 · August 2011

I don't think they are silly, attention seeking, etc. I would recommend having one that is wrapped up in your baby shower. I was looking at Baby Shower invitations online yesterday and saw TONS that were gender reveal/baby shower events. I have lots of friends that are excited to find out what we are having and I wish that I lived close to them all so that we could do something similar. There is nothing wrong with being happy and excited (This is for all of those Debbie Downers who enjoy posting on here.....)

mcnibz · August 2011

I'm not doing a gender reveal party. But I am waiting until my baby shower to announce the gender. A completely separate party seems a little excessive.

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