Is it tacky??

JulyMommy · July 2011

To register for formula?? I was planning on breastfeeding, but LO had some health problems right away, so breastfeeding was out of the picture. My family is having a shower in a couple of weeks, and I'm wondering would it be tacky to add formula to the registry? Thanks

Liz4444 · July 2011

Yes, you are responsible for feeding your own child.

BallSox · July 2011

Yes, it is. If you're really not going to BF, take back any BF-related gifts (pump? unopened boxes of breast pads/lanolin/etc?) and use the money.

However, it begs to be asked, why is BF'ing completely off the table? You can supplement (if you have to) but pump and feed him/her bottles. If there are health problems, BM isn't going to hurt him/her and might actually help. *This coming from someone who FF's*

Jess.O · July 2011

I understand what the pps are saying but honestly, I've never thought about it before. A friend just had her shower and I noticed the formula on there only because I'd never seen it on a registry before but I didn't think twice about it.

McAllie5 · July 2011

I don't see why not. People register for diapers. You're just dealing with the other end, lol.

But as PP said, if you really want to, BFing may not be out of the question. I would talk to a Lactation Consultant or ask the BFing board here about relactating. Breast milk will most definitely help your LO, no matter what condition they're in.

greengirl0909 · July 2011

I wouldn't buy it myself, but it wouldn't offend me to see it on a registry. Also, if your completion coupon will work to get you a discount on it, I say why not?

nichellemybelle · July 2011

I don't think it's tacky at all! A registry and a shower is to help you get the things you'll need for your LO. You'll need food!

aec22 · July 2011

guppysown@yahoo.com:
I wouldn't buy it myself, but it wouldn't offend me to see it on a registry. Also, if your completion coupon will work to get you a discount on it, I say why not?

This.

bhw5660 · July 2011

Did your pediatrician say that your LO needs a certain formula and/or can you supplement with breast milk and formula? I was also wondering if its that he is not capable of latching at the moment due to his health and if this is not about nutritional value. I'm not too keen on seeing formula on the registry but to each her own. I feel the same way about diapers and wipes. You never know if your baby will prefer one to another and run the risk of having to take them back.

Liz4444 · July 2011

nichellemybelle:
I don't think it's tacky at all! A registry and a shower is to help you get the things you'll need for your LO. You'll need food!

You'll also need health insurance, are you going to have a paypal registry so people can put money towards that?

greengirl0909 · July 2011

Liz4444:
nichellemybelle:
I don't think it's tacky at all! A registry and a shower is to help you get the things you'll need for your LO. You'll need food!

You'll also need health insurance, are you going to have a paypal registry so people can put money towards that?

Are you opposed to disposable diapers on a registry?

mrsmikeyray · July 2011

nichellemybelle:
I don't think it's tacky at all! A registry and a shower is to help you get the things you'll need for your LO. You'll need food!

Exactly. A friend of mine just had a small shower for her 2nd baby, her mom threw it for her, she mostly asked for diapers and bedding (sheets, blankets, not a whole set). She didn't ask for formula, she's BF but I think you should register for whatever you need, thats what they're for. I registered for EVERYTHING lol, I'm a FTM. No one in my family/friends thought there was anything wrong with that.

Kdonn15 · July 2011

I don't think it's tacky at all, but like someone said, I probably wouldn't buy it as a gift. Registries are for items people need to help prepare for a baby......and are great gift suggestions, so go for it!

NewFamily09 · July 2011

I think it's okay. I know people say that you are responsible for diapers and food, but aren't you also responsible for clothes, shelter, toys? Put it on the registry and people who don't want to buy it, won't. Actually, you most likely won't get it, because formula isn't a very fun gift for a shower, but you never know!

rhubarb123 · July 2011

You can register for formula but keep in mind that the doctor might be switching you around several times with formula to find one that works well for your LO. It would be a waste to get a bunch of formula (brand/kind) that you can't use.

I'm also questioning why breastfeeding is out of the picture. It is usually very good for babies with "issues". I did both with my first...but the pedi told me which formula would work best...and he was right!

weddingbells2010 · July 2011

Liz4444:
Yes, you are responsible for feeding your own child.

Liz, we usually agree so much! I'm sad to disagree with you

I think if we can register for breast pumps and accessories (which to me are just too personal, so I did not, but most do and it's considered acceptable), which are feeding essentials, or if it is acceptable to register for diapers and wipes (aren't we responsible for wiping their bums too?), I am honestly not put off by seeing formula on a registry.

We can still be friends though

aggie1983 · July 2011

I think it is fine to put formula on there. I would personally rather buy formula for someone rather than a wipes warmer or pacifier sanitizing wipes some other ridiculous new accessory that new moms think they need to have. If no one gets it for you, then you'll have a completion coupon for it.

I don't have any children, but one of my friends buys her formula at Sam's in bulk and says it is much cheaper. If I saw formula on a registry and it was one of the last necessity type items left, that is what I would buy. I don't buy silly gadgets.

Liz4444 · July 2011

guppysown@yahoo.com:
Liz4444:

nichellemybelle:
I don't think it's tacky at all! A registry and a shower is to help you get the things you'll need for your LO. You'll need food!

You'll also need health insurance, are you going to have a paypal registry so people can put money towards that?

Are you opposed to disposable diapers on a registry?

Actually yes, I am opposed to anything boob or butt related on a registry... diapers, wipes, creams, breast pump, pads, etc. This all falls under the category of hygene to me and IMO these are things you should buy yourself.

Weddingbelles, of course we can disagree and still be friends!!! Big Smile

cherokeemomma87 · July 2011

BallSox:
Yes, it is. If you're really not going to BF, take back any BF-related gifts (pump? unopened boxes of breast pads/lanolin/etc?) and use the money.
However, it begs to be asked, why is BF'ing completely off the table? You can supplement (if you have to) but pump and feed him/her bottles. If there are health problems, BM isn't going to hurt him/her and might actually help. *This coming from someone who FF's*

I'm confused. So its ok to give someone a container of formula when they didn't ask for it (as long as it is made into a diaper cake). But asking for it is tacky?

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/56255306.aspx

kelle017 · July 2011

aec22:

guppysown@yahoo.com:
I wouldn't buy it myself, but it wouldn't offend me to see it on a registry. Also, if your completion coupon will work to get you a discount on it, I say why not?

This.

ditto

Happily Overwhelmed · July 2011

Honestly, I wouldn't even think about it if I saw it on the list. It probably wouldn't be something I'd buy myself for a gift but I wouldn't think it screams tacky.

BallSox · July 2011

cherokeemomma87:
BallSox:
Yes, it is. If you're really not going to BF, take back any BF-related gifts (pump? unopened boxes of breast pads/lanolin/etc?) and use the money.
However, it begs to be asked, why is BF'ing completely off the table? You can supplement (if you have to) but pump and feed him/her bottles. If there are health problems, BM isn't going to hurt him/her and might actually help. *This coming from someone who FF's*
I'm confused. So its ok to give someone a container of formula when they didn't ask for it (as long as it is made into a diaper cake). But asking for it is tacky?
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/56255306.aspx

I understand your confusion, I used big words and no pictures.

However, I suppose that the understanding was if you know that the mom is planning on FF'ing from the start, a can of formula is a fantastic center for a diaper cake.

To me, there is a giant difference in asking for something reusable (a breast pump) and something disposable (a jar of baby food, a can of formula, etc). First of all, to know concretely, what kind of formula your baby is going to be able to tolerate is near to impossible. Secondly, I have less of a problem with buying diapers or wipes because $20 worth of diapers will last a HELL of a lot longer for someone than $20 of formula.

cherokeemomma87 · July 2011

BallSox:
cherokeemomma87:
BallSox:
Yes, it is. If you're really not going to BF, take back any BF-related gifts (pump? unopened boxes of breast pads/lanolin/etc?) and use the money.
However, it begs to be asked, why is BF'ing completely off the table? You can supplement (if you have to) but pump and feed him/her bottles. If there are health problems, BM isn't going to hurt him/her and might actually help. *This coming from someone who FF's*
I'm confused. So its ok to give someone a container of formula when they didn't ask for it (as long as it is made into a diaper cake). But asking for it is tacky?
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/56255306.aspx

I understand your confusion, I used big words and no pictures.
However, I suppose that the understanding was if you know that the mom is planning on FF'ing from the start, a can of formula is a fantastic center for a diaper cake.
To me, there is a giant difference in asking for something reusable (a breast pump) and something disposable (a jar of baby food, a can of formula, etc). First of all, to know concretely, what kind of formula your baby is going to be able to tolerate is near to impossible. Secondly, I have less of a problem with buying diapers or wipes because $20 worth of diapers will last a HELL of a lot longer for someone than $20 of formula.

You contradict your self again. You say that a can of formula can be a great center for a diaper cake and gift for a MTB. But then you say that guessing what kind of formula the baby will be able to tolerate is impossible.

Its ok to give a MTB a can of formula as a shower gift but only if you know she is FFing and she doesn't ask for it. It just seems contradictory to me.

BTW, I loved the cheap shot you took. The whole "I understand your confusion, I used big words and no pictures." It made me LOL.

PunkyBooster · July 2011

Eh, I don't think it would appall me.

If you are truly committed to BF you can still make it work.

BallSox · July 2011

cherokeemomma87:
BallSox:
cherokeemomma87:
BallSox:
Yes, it is. If you're really not going to BF, take back any BF-related gifts (pump? unopened boxes of breast pads/lanolin/etc?) and use the money.
However, it begs to be asked, why is BF'ing completely off the table? You can supplement (if you have to) but pump and feed him/her bottles. If there are health problems, BM isn't going to hurt him/her and might actually help. *This coming from someone who FF's*
I'm confused. So its ok to give someone a container of formula when they didn't ask for it (as long as it is made into a diaper cake). But asking for it is tacky?
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/56255306.aspx

I understand your confusion, I used big words and no pictures.
However, I suppose that the understanding was if you know that the mom is planning on FF'ing from the start, a can of formula is a fantastic center for a diaper cake.
To me, there is a giant difference in asking for something reusable (a breast pump) and something disposable (a jar of baby food, a can of formula, etc). First of all, to know concretely, what kind of formula your baby is going to be able to tolerate is near to impossible. Secondly, I have less of a problem with buying diapers or wipes because $20 worth of diapers will last a HELL of a lot longer for someone than $20 of formula.
You contradict your self again. You say that a can of formula can be a great center for a diaper cake and gift for a MTB. But then you say that guessing what kind of formula the baby will be able to tolerate is impossible.
Its ok to give a MTB a can of formula as a shower gift but only if you know she is FFing and she doesn't ask for it. It just seems contradictory to me.
BTW, I loved the cheap shot you took. The whole "I understand your confusion, I used big words and no pictures." It made me LOL.

You are so focused on trying to "Get me" you don't see the difference between one small can of formula and registering for 10 large cans. Diaper cakes aren't big enough for that much formula. However, if it helps you feel redeemed, I'll say this

"OH MY GOD, you're right, I'm wrong. I wish I could be be as right as you. The next time I'm listing hypothetical items to put in the center of a diaper cake, I'll be sure to make a footnote to every single item I suggest. Formula*, Wipes**, Bottle***

*ONLY ONE Small, container, only if you know the mom is planning on FF

**ONLY ONE if you know the mom is planning on wiping her baby's butt

***ONLY ONE if you know the mom is planning on ever using a bottle to feed her kid"

Is that better? Is that the public humiliation of me you're looking for? :eyeroll:

cherokeemomma87 · July 2011

BallSox:
cherokeemomma87:
BallSox:
cherokeemomma87:
BallSox:
Yes, it is. If you're really not going to BF, take back any BF-related gifts (pump? unopened boxes of breast pads/lanolin/etc?) and use the money.
However, it begs to be asked, why is BF'ing completely off the table? You can supplement (if you have to) but pump and feed him/her bottles. If there are health problems, BM isn't going to hurt him/her and might actually help. *This coming from someone who FF's*
I'm confused. So its ok to give someone a container of formula when they didn't ask for it (as long as it is made into a diaper cake). But asking for it is tacky?
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/56255306.aspx

I understand your confusion, I used big words and no pictures.
However, I suppose that the understanding was if you know that the mom is planning on FF'ing from the start, a can of formula is a fantastic center for a diaper cake.
To me, there is a giant difference in asking for something reusable (a breast pump) and something disposable (a jar of baby food, a can of formula, etc). First of all, to know concretely, what kind of formula your baby is going to be able to tolerate is near to impossible. Secondly, I have less of a problem with buying diapers or wipes because $20 worth of diapers will last a HELL of a lot longer for someone than $20 of formula.
You contradict your self again. You say that a can of formula can be a great center for a diaper cake and gift for a MTB. But then you say that guessing what kind of formula the baby will be able to tolerate is impossible.
Its ok to give a MTB a can of formula as a shower gift but only if you know she is FFing and she doesn't ask for it. It just seems contradictory to me.
BTW, I loved the cheap shot you took. The whole "I understand your confusion, I used big words and no pictures." It made me LOL.
You are so focused on trying to "Get me" you don't see the difference between one small can of formula and registering for 10 large cans. Diaper cakes aren't big enough for that much formula. However, if it helps you feel redeemed, I'll say this
"OH MY GOD, you're right, I'm wrong. I wish I could be be as right as you. The next time I'm listing hypothetical items to put in the center of a diaper cake, I'll be sure to make a footnote to every single item I suggest. Formula*, Wipes**, Bottle***
*ONLY ONE Small, container, only if you know the mom is planning on FF
**ONLY ONE if you know the mom is planning on wiping her baby's butt
***ONLY ONE if you know the mom is planning on ever using a bottle to feed her kid"
Is that better? Is that the public humiliation of me you're looking for? :eyeroll:

Where in this thread did OP talk about registering for 10 big cans of formula? Maybe this is just me, but I wouldn't ask for that much formula, especially if I wanted to at least try to BF. And I am not focused on "getting you." I really was confused, you said one thing in one post, and turned around and said something completely different in the very next post. You can roll you eyes all you want, "public humiliation" was not what I was looking for either.

Bridgebez · July 2011

You ladies are too busy getting back at each other than doing what this blog is meant to do. You are not helping any mother with your comments, just wasting space quoting each other. Your conversation is more tacky than what any formula on a registry could ever be.

cherokeemomma87 · July 2011

Bridgebez:
You ladies are too busy getting back at each other than doing what this blog is meant to do. You are not helping any mother with your comments, just wasting space quoting each other. Your conversation is more tacky than what any formula on a registry could ever be.

This isn't a blog, its a forum. And a public one at that, so we have the right to post what ever we want.

Lithigin · July 2011

I don't think it is tacky at all! Register for the baby-related stuff that you think you need. I don't want to buy people plastic diapers or wipes warmers or other stuff that I think is unnecessary/wasteful/a poor choice, but they register for the things they want and I don't need to make their lives difficult by getting them things that I want instead.

TruN · July 2011

Yes to me its tacky. I know formula expensive at times but leave that up to u & your husband to buy.

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