Advice for sister of a single mom....

Re: Advice for sister of a single mom....

• achase123

  July 2011

  That's really sweet of you to be thinking of what you can do.

  I would say that time might be your biggest factor (in trying to help her) since you're already a mom.  If you have anyone that you know that could stay with her for the first few days that would help.

  I had a friend make me a "mommy care package" which I loved.  It was all sorts of things that she found useful when she was a first time mom (Gripe Water, baby tylenol, cloth diapers, etc.) and then she added a big bottle of red wine, for mom and to promote milk letdown when BF.

  Also be there for her for support, emotionally.  Being a single mom is difficult, but mostly so because you feel so alone.  Make sure she knows that you and your family are there for her too.

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• bella&baby member

  July 2011

  My sisters spent the days with me for the first week or so of my son's life, and it made a huge difference. Having another adult around while I was getting comfortable with being the only person responsible for him helped. When you're alone in raising a kid, it really helps to not feel like you're alone.

  As far as the pregnancy goes, just try not to throw in those "you think you're tired NOW?" remarks lol. It will be good for her that you just went through the experience recently, and will be able to remember going through the stuff that she's going through.

  Congratulations to you and your sister both!
  

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• mikeandjenn member

  July 2011

  bella&baby:

  My sisters spent the days with me for the first week or so of my son's life, and it made a huge difference. Having another adult around while I was getting comfortable with being the only person responsible for him helped. When you're alone in raising a kid, it really helps to not feel like you're alone.

  As far as the pregnancy goes, just try not to throw in those "you think you're tired NOW?" remarks lol. It will be good for her that you just went through the experience recently, and will be able to remember going through the stuff that she's going through.

  Congratulations to you and your sister both!
  

  I plan to take off the week that she delivers because I KNOW how hard that week was. I want to help her get used to getting up with the baby, and I know I felt so uneasy about being responsible for a baby. Plus I know she will be getting tired of my mom because they butt heads and live together right now.

  I also love the next poster's idea of a mommy survival kit!!!!!

  

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• AmandaJordan1985 member

  July 2011

  That is very sweet of you to be thinking of your sister. I know my sister was beyond wonderful as I lived with her when I was pg up until DS was 7 weeks old.

  The biggest thing for me was just her being there to bounce things off of. Try to make her pregnancy exciting by doing things like clothes shopping for her and baby, going with her to have maternity photos done (one of my regrets is that I didn't because I was feeling crappy about being a sp) and other things you can do involving your LO as well.

  She will be just fine and it's sure going to be helpful to know that you will be there for her.
  

  

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• PrincessFiona9 member

  July 2011

  Just be there to talk to/cry to/vent to if she needs it. Go with her to dr appts if you can.. I didn't have anyone there for me and it sucked. I also agree with taking her to do maternity photos. If it's not something she/you can afford, you could just do a sisters photo shoot outside or something fun like that. Anything to keep things on a positive note and make sure she's enjoying her pregnancy and not feeling like crap for being a SP.

  

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