Okay, bear with me because I have a few questions. I'm a mostly-lurker, but occasional poster. First, I want to disclaim that I know that my baby is still teeny in the grand scheme and I don't have any sort of expectations that he's a perfect sleeper, on a perfect schedule, etc. But DS is approaching the 4-month mark which is when it seems conventional advice is that baby should be put down "sleepy, but awake" and should be self-soothing, so I think I need to hear from some ladies aren't or don't do that, but also aren't having to hold their 3-year-olds for naps.
DS is a great overnight sleeper. He goes down around 9 or 10 (I'd like to start getting this a little earlier, but I'm fine with it for now) and sleeps in his crib until 4:30 when he gets up to nurse and sleeps again until 7 or 8 (he actually started sleeping infinitely better when we moved him out of our room and into his crib). I nurse him or DH rocks him to sleep every night. During his middle of the night/early am feeding, he always falls asleep nursing. I'm perfectly fine with this arrangement and love snuggling with him, but am getting outside pressure that I'll need to start sleepy but awake soon or else he will be dependent upon me to sleep forever. Thoughts? If you nursed to sleep, how hard was it to break that habit? Did you nurse to sleep until you weaned or did you stop that earlier?
As for naps, he's always napped in his swing on on me. He is a long boy and is quickly outgrowing the swing in length, but still loves to sleep in a wrap. I am generally fine with this as I still love the snuggly time, but also don't think I will be wanting to carry my 2-year-old every day for naps. Is this just a case of "do what works until it doesn't work."
Finally, as for schedules, DS has none. I'm not looking for a hardcore schedule where he has to be down at x time, awake for x time, eating at x time, but it would be great if I could have a tiny bit of predictability for the purpose of making plans (for example, will a 10 am storytime ever work for us or will he always be sleeping, etc. I don't mind him sleeping on the go, but for things like storytime, playgroup, swim lessons or whatever that are for his benefit, obviously I'd like him to be awake for them). What gentle methods have you used for creating a little bit of order/routine in your life? I read a lot of people doing the EASY method, but that seems so structured - but maybe just the idea of doing things in order will help create a bit of a routine.
Anyway, like I said, the outside pressures I'm getting are making me feel like DS will never nap on his own, will always need to nurse to sleep, etc. I KNOW that is not true and I need to go with my gut on what works for us now, but I'm also feeling like I'm starting "bad" habits now that will be impossible to break later. I'm totally in the camp that I'm not going to look back on my life and think "gee, I held my baby too much), but I think I need to hear from you ladies that doing these things now, aren't going to result in some awful transition later.
Thanks and sorry so long.