Anyone else? (ventish)

Re: Anyone else? (ventish)

• BFab11 member

  July 2011

  When you become a parent (which happens during pregnancy with moms) your priorities shift and you find it hard to connect with some of your usual friends.  It doesn't mean they don't like you anymore, it just means that things are different.  It helps to find other mom friends, but also take time to meet for lunch or something with your old friends and just realize things won't be quite the same, but that's not necessarily a bad thing.

  And yes, hormones suck. 

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• michellemarie7

  July 2011

  I definitely react differently to the change of season pregnancy brings being knocked up and hormonal. This being my 3rd, my friends have changed significantly through baby-dom. It is a good thing. When the baby comes maybe join a mom-group? Find some friends that are in the same life stage as you. Cheer up. It gets better once you get your baby out of the whole deal.

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• Moozilla11 member

  July 2011

  I handled my first pregnancy a lot better. But also my friends still at least invited me to outings and what not. I will have to check into mom groups. Thanks for the great idea!

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• tabithawoolf

  July 2011

  masterhairstylist:

  Feeling rather down for no real reason? I really hate hormorns for this. Also feeling like your friends left you in the dust because you cant drink or anything... They try to apologize but in the end you end up feeling like they just feel sorry for you and are only pretending to be your friend.... (sorry for any bad spelling)

   

  This, exactly this. Ive been an emotionally rollercoaster these past few days....constantly crying from all the stress! I am so sick of everyone telling me "well, i would have asked you to hangout ,but you're kind of pregnant". It's like we automatically become disabled and there's a huge pity party formed for us once we're pregnant. Personally, i've learned who my true friends are throughout my pregnancy. There are alot of people that will drop out of your life once you become a mom but that just means they aren't meant to be there. The only advice i have to give to you is to look down and smile at your tummy because THAT'S the only thing that matters from this point on and that baby will NEVER let you down!

  

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• manbearpig31610

  July 2011

  You definitely need some mom friends! I have an awsome group of mom friends that I've made since having DD#1. About once per month they leave the kiddos with grandparents and out for a couple glasses of wine. I don't go out with them for wine, for obvious reasons, but we still do weekly lunch/playdates at someones house (we take turns hosting) and I regularly do the beach or the splash park with one of the ladies I'm closest with and the DDs. Also, I see most of them every week at storytime. Since I see you already have one LO, I suggest looking in to free baby/toddler activities in your community and get involved in whatever is offered. It's a great way to meet moms and get your LO some socialization. Check with your local public library and parks. I've met most of my close friends through storytime at the library. If your community doesn't offer anything like this, I'd search for moms groups. Good luck!

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• rcanales member

  July 2011

  I felt that way during my first pregnancy.  But, I was fairly young (22) and my friends were still very much in the party phase (as was I, but it all got halted).  It stunk to be left out, but honestly what else could they do?  I couldn't go to bars or clubs, so they just didn't call.  They still checked up on me to see how I was, but I was still down about it.  

  
  

  Now, 6 years later, baby number 2 is on the way and a lot of those friends have either recently had babies themselves or don't really hit the bars and clubs too hard anymore.  We generally do lunch, early dinners, meet up at local ceramic art places for ladies night, or go shopping.  

  
  

  Sometimes, the best thing you can do it just let them know how you feel. They may not even realize they are leaving you out or that you feel left behind.  

  

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• Mama2be177

  July 2011

  Hi Hun

  I TOTALLY can relate.  My hormone's are totally out of wack.  I cry at the drop of a hat and I can get mad soooo easily.  I actually got into a fight w/my boyfriend over something really stupid and actually threw him across the room!!  I never ever put my hands on him, neither has he on me.  I actually have to tell him sometime's in the morning "honey I want to apologize for any crazy thing I might say or do today because my mood is kinda out of my control at the moment!"  lol

  I feel so bad for him cuz he gets the brunt of my wacky emotions.  I was talking to some of my friends, who are also preggo, and they said that they are going through the same thing.  Just hang in there.

  As far as feeling loney and left out I totally agree with a mother's group.  I actually just formed a "first time mother's to be group" in my area.  We are meeting in a week and a half.  There is about 7 of us.  I am also lucky because I have 9 friends that are pregnant right now!!  Must be something in the water around here?? 

  If you have any questions about putting together a mother's group feel free to send me a priavte message or you can always email me at cdavis111177@gmail.com

  Take care hun.

  

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