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December 2011 Moms
mintyblue02
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Stupid, stupid bus driver
mintyblue02
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So I commute an hour to work everyday on the bus. My usual bus driver is a woman and she is awesome. Whenever there is not a seat in one of the front rows for me (I get horribly nauseous if I sit too far in the back) she offers to kick someone out.
This morning I had to take a later bus and the bus driver is a man. There were TWO empty seats in the very first row of the bus and I sat in one of them. He immediately says, "I'm going to need those seats, young lady," in a snarky dumb ass way. So I get up, because if there are disabled people getting on the bus I will GLADLY move for them. So one guy with a cane gets on the bus and takes up BOTH empty seats. Not because he needs them, but he puts his BAG in the other seat. Luckily a nice woman offered me her seat, but I was so upset with the way I was treated I cried, which I hope no one noticed.
Number one, why does the disabled guy get two seats, and the pregnant lady gets none? WTF. Number two, out of all the healthy looking people sitting in the front row, why did the driver ask me to move? WTF. Number three, I am 35 years old, I wear very professial clothes to work, I'm obviously pregnant and wearing a wedding ring, so what the hell about me describes "young lady"? Personally, I would never refer to anyone older than say, seventeen or eighteen, as a "young lady". I wanted to kick that driver in the balls. Instead I pretended all like I wasn't crying, but I totally was, because being pregnant makes you crazy.
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Re: Stupid, stupid bus driver
I am a little confused. You think it's good that the woman bus driver kicks out other people so you can get a front row seat because otherwise you get nauseous.
You think it's not okay that the man bus driver kicks you out of the seat (a healthy looking person) for a man on a cane. Instead he should have kicked out one of the other healthy looking people (that may or may not be dealing with becoming nauseous, too?).
I think being called a young lady is not something to be upset about, but I obviously don't know in which kind of tone he said it to you. If it came off as patronizing, I can see why you would not have liked it.
Sorry you had a rough morning, I hope your day gets better!
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Does this bus driver know that you get nauseous if you don't sit in the front? How do you know the other people that sat in the front don't deal with medical issues? Sometimes you can't see that someone is suffering. A disabled/handicapped person should always get a seat before a pregnant lady, sorry. That he gave the seat away to a bag and not a person does suck. Why did you not ask the man with the cane if you could sit next to him?
I took public transportation for a very long time. I was born and lived in Germany until 3 years ago, where taking a bus is something most people do daily. And the unwritten rules (offer your seat to a disabled or pregnant person) there are the same. Some people don't do this though, either because they don't know better, don't think about it or don't want to. Then you can always take charge and ask people if they would give up your seat (or their bag's seat) for you. Someone usually says yes.
I absolutely agree with that. I guess my point is that there really is no need to cry about it. It will not make it better for anyone. Just open your mouth if nobody offers their seat to you and ask! Sometimes I am wrapped up in my thoughts and don't even pay attention to other people getting on the bus, so I wouldn't even think of offering my seat. Now if that person came up to me and ask, of course I would get up!
As I said, I did have someone offer me a seat in the front, which is why I did not have to ask. I am upset with the bus driver in this little story. I have no doubt that in Germany people will not offer a seat. They also knock people down to get on the train or to get to the front of a line.
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That's actually true! I have had many shopping carts pushed into my heels while waiting in line and people trying to cut in front of me. It's good to know that Americans are not much different!
I used to take public transportation every day, and if this happened to me I probably would have cried too! I think the driver was totally out of line, both in specifically asking you to move rather than making a general announcement, and ESPECIALLY in calling you 'young lady'. Really?? I don't know why, but that would have pissed me off especially.
On my old train, the easy access seats were marked 'Handicapped or Pregnant', and if someone asked me to move I would have pointed at my belly. : P