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sunshiny79 · July 2011

I'm surprised that I haven't seen any talk yet (or maybe I missed it) about 'push presents'.

Last time I was pregnant it was a hot topic.

FWIW, I've never gotten an official push present...just my cute cuddly babies I don't even think my DH knows about them.

I think we will be giving the boys a gift from their brother and they will each get a gift for him too.

boxtonmom1014 · July 2011

sunshiny79:
I don't even think my DH knows about them.

This.

My DH is a big gift giver in general, though, so I don't feel left out. Smile Also, I bought myself a fancy new camera in anticipation of the new baby.

womancake · July 2011

It's come up here a few times, and I don't remember it being something that anyone felt particularly passionate about either way. Me personally, I could take it or leave it. Would I appreciate it if my husband purchased me a gift to show me his appreciation for carrying/birthing his child? Absolutely! Especially if it was something sentimental--not just diamonds for the sake of diamonds, ya know? But do I feel like I need or deserve that? Absolutely not. My push present is going to be the squishy baby in my arms. Smile

LaComtesse · July 2011

Hmm. Just mentioned this on my FFFC. Honestly, I really don't mind saying that the idea completely creeps me out and induces eye rolling in me.

BlueEyedBoyMeetsABrownEyedGirl · July 2011

DH keeps asking me what I would like as a gift. I told him first of all, if I tell you what to get me, I might as well go buy one for myself...secondly, I don't need a gift. I'm more concerned with him being helpful and supportive in the weeks following the delivery. I need him to be my rock, and that's it. Now, if he ended up surprising me with something like a little necklace with our LO's birthstone in it, I would think that was really sweet, and I would love it...but it's not necessary and not expected.

ar78 · July 2011

We've did most of our talking about Push Presents in...what....March?

I would never ask my husband for a PP. I mean...really? I'm giving birth, but it's OUR baby.

Good idea on the presents for the boys, though!

MrsMVM · July 2011

Push presents make my eyes roll so much they about fall out.

We have discussed it on here but it's not been super hot button. Maybe that will change today!

I feel like a healthy smushy baby is reward enough- and honestly- if my husband did give me something, fine, but to declare that I should get a present for doing what women have been doing for millions of years? Come on. I would rather he spend money on our child's future, gear we need, what have you.

My friend's husband was out running around like a chicken with his head cut off about 8 hours before my friend went in to have her baby because she asked if he'd gotten her gift yet. Oh no.

But like I said, if he gave me something, I'd be touched. Honestly, he deserves a present for putting up with a sometimes difficult pregnant wife for 40 weeks!

LaComtesse · July 2011

womancake:
It's come up here a few times, and I don't remember it being something that anyone felt particularly passionate about either way. Me personally, I could take it or leave it. Would I appreciate it if my husband purchased me a gift to show me his appreciation for carrying/birthing his child? Absolutely! Especially if it was something sentimental--not just diamonds for the sake of diamonds, ya know? But do I feel like I need or deserve that? Absolutely not. My push present is going to be the squishy baby in my arms.

when I hear "push present" I think "diamonds for the sake of diamonds." If it's a simple, low-key gift, that's just nice. Push present is not spontaneous or thoughtful IMO--they're expected (often demanded, subtly or not) gifts that are given out of obligation rather than sentiment.

Amanda&EricB · July 2011

My mom mentioned this to my DH and he asked me if there was something I wanted. I laughed and said no. We do have an account with a jewelry store here, and I drool every time I go in. One time a few months ago we just passed through it and he asked to look at the September birthstone jewelry. I think he was wanting me to point out something that I liked. But I told him I'd rather save the money and do a nice photo shoot for Christmas, or something like that.

Canya615 · July 2011

Push presents IMO are really really...stupid! So if you don?t get a push present does that mean you are not going to push as hard, or cross your legs until you get one??? Just another way society is "cashing in" on another event in life.

mshrader15 · July 2011

My DH brought it up and I told him not to get me anything. I personally think they are dumb and my reward for all of this is the baby at the end. Now if he wants to take me on a date night after the baby is here to celebrate the two of us, I won't turn that down

Marettie · July 2011

LaComtesse:
Hmm. Just mentioned this on my FFFC. Honestly, I really don't mind saying that the idea completely creeps me out and induces eye rolling in me.

There's a huge part of me that agrees with this. The fact that this is given a name, and should be expected I think is what bothers me. However, my father always gave my step-mom & mom presents in the hospital after delivery. My dad is NOT a romantic guy, but loves kids and I think really appreciated what his wives had gone through.

It was kind of fun growing up knowing that my step-mom was wearing "my brothers" necklace or "my sisters" necklace, since we all knew which ones were which. The fact that now this is a glorified thing is a little weird, but something as sweet and endearing as I grew up watching I am totally okay with!

Also, I have no idea if my DH has any idea of doing any such thing, and I really don't plan on bringing up the subject again (I think I did in the first tri after seeing something on here)

camdenfaithful · July 2011

BlueEyedBoyMeetsABrownEyedGirl:
DH keeps asking me what I would like as a gift. I told him first of all, if I tell you what to get me, I might as well go buy one for myself...secondly, I don't need a gift. I'm more concerned with him being helpful and supportive in the weeks following the delivery. I need him to be my rock, and that's it.

Ditto this.

DH is actually more hung up on the idea of a push present than I ever have been. When the topic of push presents comes up I asked for a nice rocker for the nursery or newborn photography. Obviously something for the both of us. I'm not a jewelry kind of person which I know a lot of push presents tend to center around. If DH had to go out and buy me a push present tomorrow he'd probably get me something like an e-reader which we both could enjoy.

Azrayla · July 2011

Im to cheap to allow H to waste money on jewelry for me.. My mom gave me a mini push present with DD.. a butterfly necklace with three butterflies and teeny tiny encrusted diamonds.. Id much rather a voucher for a massage though

in regards to push presents as aa whole I think theyre silly and should not be "expected"

sunshiny79 · July 2011

Marettie:
LaComtesse:
Hmm. Just mentioned this on my FFFC. Honestly, I really don't mind saying that the idea completely creeps me out and induces eye rolling in me.

There's a huge part of me that agrees with this. The fact that this is given a name, and should be expected I think is what bothers me. However, my father always gave my step-mom & mom presents in the hospital after delivery. My dad is NOT a romantic guy, but loves kids and I think really appreciated what his wives had gone through.

It was kind of fun growing up knowing that my step-mom was wearing "my brothers" necklace or "my sisters" necklace, since we all knew which ones were which. The fact that now this is a glorified thing is a little weird, but something as sweet and endearing as I grew up watching I am totally okay with!

Also, I have no idea if my DH has any idea of doing any such thing, and I really don't plan on bringing up the subject again (I think I did in the first tri after seeing something on here)

1. I saw that right after I posted this

2. That is very sweet of your father and I would have felt the same way growing up.

marriedtoeric · July 2011

I'm getting a sapphire and diamond right-hand ring. We're going to pick it out in a few weeks. Matching sapphire earrings for my bday in March

The ring will be passed down to our child when they have their first baby.

solsburyhill · July 2011

Exactly Marettie, the fact that it has a name, and an awful name at that, and that some women expect it ... that's what bothers me.

I'd never in a million years ask for or expect DH to give me a gift for giving birth to our son. The birth isn't my gift to him so why would I expect something in return? Carrying the baby and giving birth is part of having a baby, it's something I signed up for and that we both want. It's not my sacrafice to DH, he doesn't owe me anything, IMO. He's done his part being my cheerleader, assembling cribs, rubbing my back, putting up with my hormones, etc. and I'm doing my part in carrying the baby. We're in this together you know?

LaComtesse · July 2011

Marettie:
LaComtesse:
Hmm. Just mentioned this on my FFFC. Honestly, I really don't mind saying that the idea completely creeps me out and induces eye rolling in me.

There's a huge part of me that agrees with this. The fact that this is given a name, and should be expected I think is what bothers me. However, my father always gave my step-mom & mom presents in the hospital after delivery. My dad is NOT a romantic guy, but loves kids and I think really appreciated what his wives had gone through.

It was kind of fun growing up knowing that my step-mom was wearing "my brothers" necklace or "my sisters" necklace, since we all knew which ones were which. The fact that now this is a glorified thing is a little weird, but something as sweet and endearing as I grew up watching I am totally okay with!

Also, I have no idea if my DH has any idea of doing any such thing, and I really don't plan on bringing up the subject again (I think I did in the first tri after seeing something on here)

Yes! This exactly.

JaninneAlvarado · July 2011

I mentioned this to DH the last time it was brought up. He told me that he'd love to buy me a mother's ring after Emma is born but obviously that isn't a push gift as I am due at the end of September and having a special order item is kind of out of the question when you don't know if she'll be here in Sept/Oct. The idea of expecting a gift is one thing but since this is my last child, I don't see why it would be bad as a christmas present or mother's day gift. Other then that, DH is a huge help after baby is here and I don't EXPECT anything from him. He's not a gift giver at all. As a matter of fact, I didn't get an 'engagement ring' until a year and a couple months after we were married.

kleu9 · July 2011

womancake:
It's come up here a few times, and I don't remember it being something that anyone felt particularly passionate about either way. Me personally, I could take it or leave it. Would I appreciate it if my husband purchased me a gift to show me his appreciation for carrying/birthing his child? Absolutely! Especially if it was something sentimental--not just diamonds for the sake of diamonds, ya know? But do I feel like I need or deserve that? Absolutely not. My push present is going to be the squishy baby in my arms.

ditto to this. I don't turn down free gifts (sentimental or sparkly diamonds!) but I by no means expect it or will be upset if I don't get something. Lots of other things we could be spending our money on!

Geekchick921 · July 2011

The baby is the push present, man!

That said, I do want a mom necklace thing, soon. Doesn't mean I want it when I have this kid, though. And I'm due right after my birthday, so if I'm in labor then, I just want whatever I was going to get for my b-day.

laurasuzanne2006 · July 2011

Our anniversary is around the same time we are expecting LO, so they will be kind of joint. There is a special pair of jeans I want to get and obviously it doesn't make sense to buy them now but they will be kind of a gift after the baby gets here since they aren't a cheap pair of jeans.

SwtPatato · July 2011

I want a push present. I want a meal, with all the things I couldn't eat this pregnancy. A big plate of salmon sushi to be exact.

Really though, to each their own. But the fact that it's expected rubs me the wrong way too.

LaComtesse · July 2011

SwtPatato:
I want a push present. I want a meal, with all the things I couldn't eat this pregnancy. A big plate of salmon sushi to be exact.

I will be having a champagne and sushi dinner in the hospital. Tuna sashimi, salmon rolls, mmmmmmmmm...

italnprncss78 · July 2011

Ladies, push that baby out, have a c-section, whatever the case may be...we deserve all that is given to us for it!!

If you H/SO wants to get you something...which btw doesn't have to be diamonds...then by golly LET HIM!! I love the idea of something to pass on to your children.

I guess I am the minority...but I think we deserve something special after all we go through. The baby is a gift in its own, on a whole nother level.

IMHO Big Smile

HisAirForceWifey · July 2011

Yup...Cooper. He also said he wouldn't be an a$$ in the room to my mother. And food once LO is here. I don't expect him to get me anything.

SwtPatato · July 2011

LaComtesse:
SwtPatato:
I want a push present. I want a meal, with all the things I couldn't eat this pregnancy. A big plate of salmon sushi to be exact.
I will be having a champagne and sushi dinner in the hospital. Tuna sashimi, salmon rolls, mmmmmmmmm...

People keep asking me if I am craving anything. The only things I am craving are things I can't or shouldn't have too much of. I don't really want this pregnancy to end (yet) but I can't wait until I can eat like a free woman again!

ashleyr87 · July 2011

DH is not aware of this concept. But I do want an elyptical machine. Since I will not really be able to go to the gym after LO is born I'd really like to have one at the house. Hope this doesnt make me a bad person.... I dont think I'll be getting it as a "push present", but I plan to state my case to DH after LO is born.

Megg327 · July 2011

We are buying a bigger car so that we have something that we have enough room for 2 babies!...so I am considering that to be my "push" present!

alli&dan · July 2011

My FI is a big jewelry giver. I've probably gotten jewelry for all birthdays/holidays/anniversaries since we've been together. And he buys me flowers all the time "just because". So, when he asked me what I'd like to have when baby is born I told him not to feel like he needed to get me jewelry, because the only thing I could think of that I wanted and NEEDED was a dishwasher. It might sound weird, but I absolutely loath doing dishes. He got me the dishwasher in March and I must say it's one of the best presents I've ever gotten! Big Smile

SamJustice · July 2011

FI will be taking me to get my septum repierced. I know it's kind of off kilter, but I miss it hahaha

kyashley1227 · July 2011

My dad got me a small heart shaped glass jewelry box with my initials and birthday on it when I was born and he also got something for my mom. He did this with all 3 of his kids and I have asked DH to get LO something similar and then maybe like a photo box or something for me. But I would consider it more of a ?tradition? than a push present!!! Big Smile

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