I just don't want any visitors :(

etoyama · July 2011

I am just at the point in my pregnancy where I want to lock myself away until this baby's born. People keep trying to come by and be "helpful" and while I know they are just being nice I am feeling so tired and huge and hormonal that I just want to be left the fvck alone! I don't want to be asked how I'm feeling or if she's kicking or whatever. My ILs (who drive me nuts) are freaking camping nearby and they want to come over and say hi before taking DH out to dinner in town. The mere thought has me in tears. Why the h*ll am I having such a hard time with this?? I feel like a monster. Is this something that happens toward the end of pregnancy?

whispergrrl · July 2011

I haven't really had anyone wanting to come by, but I'm more apt to want to just stay home instead of be out and about these days. I am getting sick of everyone asking "how are you feeling?" and "any progress?" all the time, though. I'm pretty sure you will hear about it when I have the baby. Other than that, let it be.

So, yes...I think this is something that happens toward the end of pregnancy. This morning, DH was up and showered and working in the nursery...his dad was supposed to be coming to help paint, and we needed to do some cleanup around the house before he got here. I needed to get up, but just didn't want to. I was grumpy and tired and wanted to cry. I was pissed that his dad was coming so early (10am....so no, not really that early). I finally told myself to suck it up.

Go have a good cry if you need to, hon. These damn hormones are wreaking havoc on our bodies!

JenCW · July 2011

Yes, the end is near, and this is totally normal. At least, I'm going to claim that because I feel the same way.

I am so OVER the questions, the phone calls, and even my mother coming by to ask how things are going. Don't get me wrong I appreciate everyone's thoughtfulness and willingness to help (especially because I'm really going to need people to help with the boys after she's born), but I'm just constantly annoyed by all the involvement. I want to say, "just let me have my baby, and I will notify you when you there's progress or something I need".

These emotions seem to be the exact opposite where DH is concerned. I'm getting irritated that he's not involved enough. I find myself frustrated that he's not asking more questions, doing more to prepare, etc... I think my standards may be a little high because I'm sure that he feels like he's doing a lot.

Hang in there and know that you're not alone!!!

BathingInBitter · July 2011

Going to have to agree with Jen on this one, the end is near and I'm feeling the same way too.

I'm trying to see the positives in it though - as we're all doing a great job of baking our babies and I think that is a huge accomplishment! But, it's ok to want to be left alone and it's ok to cry.

Try and hang in there, only a few more weeks left and our lives will be forever changed. Smile

etoyama · July 2011

Thank g-d I'm not the only one feeling this way! I feel like I'm losing my mind!

jennype · July 2011

I am right there with ya! Lets all have a sulking party today and b*tch about all the stuff that is driving us nuts. I feel bad because my friend who is 27 weeks keeps calling wanting to talk about nurseries and other stuff and I just don't want to talk to anyone!

jcath · July 2011

I think that's why they called it "confinement" in the old fashioned days. I'm sorry you are having a rough day.

Swede25 · July 2011

I totally feel your pain! I've been annoyed to no end with the constant questions/comments about when this baby is coming (like I know!) and then people getting irritated AT me because he hasn't been born yet! I'm more irritated with the visitors after he's born though. People who I'm not even friends with think they are stopping by the hospital and I feel like I'm being pulled in a million different directions because everyone has their idea of what they want, but no one is asking me what I want!

Temp616379875002458 · July 2011

I thought it was just me..... I guess I thought it is the bed rest? I feel like visitors are intruding in my personal space while I feel and look gross....I think BR can get us a little depressed and that's when I personally start avoiding people....

You're not alone. My ILs were here this past weekend and I avoided going out for every single meal, just saying that I didn't feel well...when I totally could have gone for a couple of meals at least.

Hang in there. Wallow when you feel like it, but you're doing great.

cbubbles2 · July 2011

((hugs)) You are so close to the end! I don't blame you for not wanting any visitors right now!

LCS040209 · July 2011

aww, hang in there E! You're allowed to feel however you want

Echloe · July 2011

LCS040209:
aww, hang in there E! You're allowed to feel however you want

. This. Don't ever feel bad about your emotions.

amers83010 · July 2011

I dont blame you at all! My in laws are great people but have wanted to be a part of EVERYTHING with this pregnancy and I had a mini meltdown over it a couple weeks ago. Sometimes I just want to be alone with no phone calls or stop bys. You aren't alone!!

scooterq · July 2011

Echloe:
LCS040209:
aww, hang in there E! You're allowed to feel however you want
. This. Don't ever feel bad about your emotions.

Yes ((hugs)) E, you are totally entitled to feel how you feel. I fully expect that I'll feel that way towards the end too.

bbakersgirl75 · July 2011

Sweetie! I am so sorry your going through this. I really wish you or DH could just tell everyone how you feel and have them understand.

They really, I'm sure, are just trying to be supportive and there for you.

katezta · July 2011

I am over it all myself. I am on the verge of tears all the time. Tonight I b*tched at DH because he was eating pistachios too loud and at DD because she hurt her foot doing something stupid. I feel like I need to disappear into a hotel room until this is over.

MrsRumpf · July 2011

I don;t like all the (to me) stupid and obvious questions I get asked all damn day long!

"How are you"-- what would you really like me to say???

"Are you excited?"- WTF? Seriously?

"Were you surprised?" Blech.

I feel you-- I can only imagine what I'll be like in another 10 weeks or so.

Hang in there love-- She's almost here

Jessie*J · July 2011

Definetly the end of pregnancy hormones!! I'm feeling them as well. It's ok to feel that way so don't feel guilty. It's the one time you can blame hormones and not feel bad about it ; ).

My mom keeps calling and telling me "you can't have the baby tomorrow because I have a long day at work and can't take off" (she works at the post office). Are you kidding? For one I can't control it and for two I am READY for this kid to come lol. I don't really care if it's not convenient for you!

I know she's worried about me though. My DH is out working on the river and she is about the only other person to get me to the hospital and take care of my 5 yr old while DH makes the drive back (if I was to go into labor). Still, it bugs me to no end every time she calls me. lol

mikeandangie · July 2011

I totally get that, so don't feel bad. I think people tend to be a little suffocating with pregnant women because they are so excited. Just pretend you are tired and napping all day, maybe that will keep them away:)

DeputiesWife · July 2011

::hugs::

the how are you feeling never ends....its annoying, i know. then will come did you have the baby? oh, you're still pregnant? annoying.

I am so very sorry you are feeling this way. Thinking of you.

ejgballerina · July 2011

Jumping in late, but this is totally normal. Actually, it got WAY worse when my son was born. I wanted to stay in and see NO ONE. My in-laws (ugh) kept dropping by unannounced with random people and I flipped out at one point. Set boundaries and don't feel bad. This is a very emotional time for you and it will be once the baby arrives. I know exactly how you feel. (((HUGS)))

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